2007-10-04 09:33:53 · 16 answers · asked by BubblegumFighter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's really hard (if not impossible) to love someone unconditionally. When I think about that it means I love him completely no matter what he does.
Well, I have rules that I live by that I expect my husband to live by as well. I love mine to death, but if he cheated on me I'd leave in a second. If he hit me, I'd leave in a second.
If he treats me the way that I treat him, then I think that's pretty perfect. I'm not sure unconditional love for a spouse is correct - I love him more than almost anything, but not more than I love myself.
2007-10-04 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to love anyone unconditionally, but at least you're willing to try. How about seeing all his positives and not his negatives. Praise him and give him affection even when he's done something you may not approve of. I do want to make sure that you can love your husband a lot, but you can't sacrifice your morals or beliefs to do so.
2007-10-04 16:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by ReRe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is not such thing a loving a mate unconditionally. Unconditional love is for your child who is expected to make mistakes and be corrected with your love until they grow up. In a relationship with a mate there are conditions that has to met by both folks in order for the relationship to keep moving forward. What you are saying here is that there is no condition for him to love you but much is expected from you.
2007-10-04 16:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say be yourself. you are his wife, you should do something which please him. The way you asked the question i feel its the same problem. anyway just be yourself,
In married life there are always fights or something or other, at that time try to understand him,"If you want the rainbow, You must put up with the rain first". If he like to watch movies go with him, go for a long drive. Make him feel special. When he gets back from work, spend most of the time with him. Be truthful to him and sincere.
"Everyone says you only fall in love once, but that's not true.
Every time I hear your voice I fall in love all over again."
i meant something like that quote..Make him feel good.
Thats all i wanted to tell you...hope this helped you..!!
Here is the tip for you: Dont forget to say 'I LOVE YOU' to him everyday, after every sec...!!
2007-10-04 17:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by TripleX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't do romantic unconditional love, but if you do something or feel something unconditionally, then there can't be "more" than that. Either there are conditions (which there almost always are) or there are not. If there are not, then you cannot have any less conditions than no conditions.
You are saying you'd love him if he cheated, if he lied, if he stole, if he harmed you or your family, etc. That's what unconditional love means...I couldn't love someone who would do those things, so there are DEFINITELY conditions to my love.
2007-10-04 16:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he also needs to love you unconditionally. marriage is a partnership and 2 people need to love ea other equally. ask yourself if your husband love you unconditionally.
2007-10-04 16:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affection is key. Women think that the man is supp to be all over them, but guys like attention as well. Maybe rub his back when he gets home or surprise him with a sexy outfit in the bedroom. Make him feel like he's the man and there is no one else you rather be with. But be careful not to be smothering. Just be yourself and show him how you feel instead of just saying it.
2007-10-04 16:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by Good Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept him as he is. Love and adore the positive qualitites, and dont dwell on his faults. compliemnt him ,and support him when he is worried. Remember that everyone has their negative qualities - even you - so keep loving him especially beacuse he loves you and you are committed to the marriage
2007-10-04 16:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Twiggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me cater to you..... Have you heard that song. unconditional love is doing or giving love back and treating that person just the same way you would love to be treated or better. It should just come natural!!!
2007-10-04 16:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by cw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can't wholly love him unconditionally -- say he cheated on you.... you wouldn't feel very loving.
just accept him at face value, and love him for the good traits he has....
2007-10-04 16:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋