Not to sound like Cinderella, but they basically destroyed my self esteem growing up because I was considered the 'pretty one.' Now they are both more successful than me in life and I hate them. They are friends with eachother and only deal with me a handful of times per year. Friends of theirs don't even know I exist. They both have children and I don't. I don't even really want to bother with their kids. I hate my sisters for what they did to me and that they are so petty and jealous. I always think about it and it depresses me. I am very often depressed. How do I get over my sad feelings?
2007-10-04 08:32:33 · 6 answers · asked by lovebird 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must forgive your sisters. You must also forgive yourself, for not being successful or marrying and having children. All that doesn't have to do with them, that's on you. You can be successful if you put yourself into it. Look for a good man to be your husband, and find out if he wants kids and go for it. If you are pretty it will be easier for you to find a guy.
The only way to let go of the resentments you have for your sisters, is to forgive them. You first make the mental decision to forgive and then you pray for them. Every time it comes up to your mind, you remind yourself you have forgiven them and you pray again. If you keep doing this, eventually the forgiveness will reach your heart.
Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 in the Holy Bible so you will know what love is. I suggest a New Living translation, it is written in plain modern English.
Treat others how you would like to be treated. Be kind, giving, selfless, tolerant, patient, caring, understanding, be quick to forgive and slow to anger. Do things for others with out expecting anything in return. You do all this and you will be happy.
Happy trails to you, share the love.
2007-10-04 08:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resentment and ill-will basically takes more energy than it does to just let something go. I would suggest that you do forgive them (a VERY unnatural thing to do, but God can help you forgive them) and that you move on with your own life. You need to learn to accept who you are and realize your self worth. After an abusive relationship that I had a long time ago, I was told to keep a journal and every day write something positive about myself in it. Sometimes I even asked friends to contribute! Put in a compliment you receive! You will start to see yourself through other people's eyes that love you and you will become a happier person.
As far as your sisters go, some people are just black sheep. You need to be your own person and let your sisters do their own thing. It is really a shame though that you have counted out your neices/nephews because kids are some of the coolest and most loving people in the world. Let go of your anger towards them and then you will feel that things get better. Good luck to you and may God bring you the peace you need!
2007-10-04 15:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by katysru19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should see a psychiatrist to help you get over your feelings of depression and to work on forgiving your sisters. The only way that someone else can make us feel badly about ourselves to let them. I know, I know, easier said that done-and you were a kid and were made to feel like the outsider.
You are an adult now and you don't have to tolerate their behavior. Try to rationally discuss with them how they made you feel (maybe they've forgotton). If they dont apologize and make more of an effort to include you, then you should move on with your life. Just because your sisters have kids, are married, etc., does not mean they are more successful than you in life. They both could be miserable. Successfully living your life doesn't have to mean that you are married, with 2 kids and have a job on Wall Street. Successfully living your life means that you are happy with yourself and where you are. Aim high. Surround yourself with loving friends. Graciously accept what you have.
You should try volunteering at a soup kitchen; domestic violence shelter, pet shelter. Helping other people who are worse off than we are helps us to realize exactly how bad it could be and how lucky we are. Plus, you will feel so good about yourself for not being selfish. That's something to be proud of.
Good luck.
2007-10-04 16:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to love yourself. You are giving these two women way too much power over your emotions. The only thing you have to do in life is your best, not meet their standards.
2007-10-04 15:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the pretty one. Enough said.
2007-10-04 16:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your looks to your advantage!
2007-10-04 16:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by xperiencedinvestor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋