I've been with my fiance for three years now and we are not only best friends, but we have a truly happy and healthy relationship. We are completely honest with each other and the trust between the two of us is unbreakable. This marriage will be a first for both of us, and although we are doing fantastic and couldn't be any happier, what does it take to make a marriage last forever? We are both constantly willing to compromise and listen and we are both there for each other when the other person is down. We take care of each other because we love each other. So two people that are happy together, best friends, honest, loving and caring... what else does it take to make a marriage work? Serious answers only please, I will pick the best answer. Thank you :)
2007-10-04 04:57:43 · 21 answers · asked by LeAndra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL yes we do have great sex and we are both open to new things. LMAO
2007-10-04 05:02:06 · update #1
Marriage is a job. It does not come easily. You have to keep the fire burning. Make your man the most important thing in your life. Tell him you are proud of him. Listen to him when he comes home. Thank him for working so hard. Don't forget to look special for him. Put notes in his pockets. Play loves games. Learn new loves games. Make dates. Give him baths. Make goo goo eyes at him. When you go out and girls flirt with him let him know that you know he is going home with you and if a guy flirts with you make him positive that he is going home with you. Make every woman want him and let every woman know that they will never have him. He will do the same for you talk him up not down. Never talk your man down not in public or in private. Happily loving kissing hugging and still married after 20 years and 6 years of dating and 4 kids one handicapped still at home. We still got the fire burning!
2007-10-04 05:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by teresa m 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been married for 53 years. No, I'm not an expert on the subject of marriage....only on the subject of OUR marriage. In 1954 things were a little different...financially a little tougher and divorce still a slightly a 'scarlet' subject, so we had to work at marriage. Four kids and the problems that go with them. But through all the ups and downs (and there will be some!) we had decided that we would never sleep without making up...and have always kept to that. To say "sorry", even when you're convinced it wasn' your fault. And the 3 little words "I love you", so often forgotten....and sometimes too late.
This may not be a recipe for you, but I know that 53 years later the sight of my little (4'10") wife turning the corner of the street makes my heart give a jump, makes it the right recipe for me.
I do wish you both every happiness for your future together.
2007-10-04 06:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by John B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my childhood sweetheart for over ten years. We got married quite young and were told that it would never work from many different people. Even though we had some tough times I genuinely believe our relationship will last forever because we followed three key rules:
Love each other for being different. My husband and I are like chalk and cheese. He likes computer games, I love Thai cooking, he likes action movies, I like rom-coms! Even though we compromise a lot we also give each other the space to be different and to be ourselves. I give him the chance to be alone with his friends and he does the same. We respect each others space.
Be physical. Yes, of course the sex is important but also basic affection needs to be there - always. Even just an occasional brush of the hair, or a kiss on the forehead. Touch is very important.
Forgive. My mother always taught me to never go to sleep fighting with someone and she has been happily married to my father for 30 years. No matter how bad the problem, no matter how stubborn you both are, forgive. No fight is worth festering on and is definitely not worth poisoning your relationship with.
Good luck...sounds like you will be great together!
2007-10-04 05:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by ER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just gotta keep it up. Lot's of sex is healthier than no sex. Smile, hug, kiss, and touch a lot. Spend time together doing things. Make sure you do things commonly to make each other happy. The happier you make him, the more he will want to make you happy. This means even when you are both mad about something, stepping up, and being nice just because, even though its the last thing you want to do. Sometimes that is the only thing that breaks through arguments.
2007-10-04 05:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
intimacy...I'm not just talking about sex. Don't let the little things go slack...hold hands, cuddle, etc. Its very important to keep that connection. A healthy sex life does help, the intimacy created inside the bedroom will spill to the outside of the bedrom as well. Especially if and when children come along, it will take an extra effort to keep this aspect of your relationship healthy...make the effort. Congratulations and good luck...you sound like you have a very strong and healthy beginning :)
2007-10-04 05:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by sue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the job and break up with him. remain friends and both of you be free to date others. because, sister, let me explain this to you, he already is. and you are both too young to tie yourselves down. when you are going in different directions. and you are. and this is completely natural. in the olden days, say, 20 or 30 years ago, women stayed behind and men traveled. now, women have exciting things to do and there is the problem. who stays behind.? well, both of you are in far away places and having fun and gaining sophistication and maybe, if you are truly lucky, fame and fortune. if not, then fun times while you are young, which is only once in a lifetime. and, he is just a boyfriend, he is the first person you ever knew. and he is out in the bigger world. dont!!!!!!!!!!! put your life on hold for a vague future with someone who is already moving in another direction, which is natural at your ages. have your own life and if you meet together in the future you meet as equals, and that counts for a lot. i HAVE been in your shoes. and the only things i regret from my fabulous and i mean fabulous youth are the things i didnt do. fly off to london for the weekend? , dang, i cant have to work at my ridiculously glamourous job in new york. . no, i should have taken the days off!!!!! go to europe with a group for a show, no i cant, boyfriend is coming into town. who then broke up with me anyway. taking a leap and doing this will empower you in ways you never imagined. wimping out and holding back will cause you a llifetime of what if and eventual resentment. i speak from perspective. once you have a home and kids, you dont tend to do the travel and glamour. do it now!!!!!! go and make the best of yourself. be smart and successful and have dignity and integrity and morals in all you do. you will make a great girlfriend and wife some other time. with him or someone else. read: how successful people win, by ben stein.
2016-05-20 22:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you have no doubts about marrying him - I did and still married anyways and that made our first year really hard! Watch out for always wantign your own way - be there to serve him and encourage him. My hardest has been when he makes a decision that affects both of us that I didn't agree with. Be prepared for some of those. Forgive a lot! And pray a lot!
Realize that marriage isn't going to be what you picture it now. And realize that that's okay. Talk to a lot of married people when you are married so you realize that if you have any arguments that it's normal:)
2007-10-04 07:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by missbede 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't repeat the same routine everyday. I'm sure you're a smart and intelligent woman...so don't allow him to become bored, because many couples nowadays suffer from this. Always be optimistic, make him feel that he's the best, and I'm sure he will do the same. never let him see anything ugly in you, always smell good, and look good, and act in the right way. Most woman are lacking that "femininity" in them that guys fall in love for. be gentle when you approach him, and don't make silly excuses if he wants you in bed. seriously, this sometimes ends up in the man cheating because his wife doesn't give him what he wants. in the end, he should feel happy that he has the best woman in the world! and always remind him that you love him :).
Good luck with your marriage!!!
2007-10-04 05:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Authentic Believer (SOA) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are on the right track. If you guys can stick together through thick and thin, no matter what is going on, you'll be fine. Problems in marriages anymore are mostly about money and communication. It sounds like you are both ready, and if you continue your ways you should have a long, happy marriage. It sounds like you always put each other first..that's great!
2007-10-04 05:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it looks like ya have it all together..
lol
Well I only have 2 years of being married.
But it has changed my life drastically..lol
Well I have becomed more mature & responsiable.
Well in order for it to be a very succesful marriage you have to trust each other.
Talk when some thing is wrong. [in stead of fighting]
Love each other, try to treat each other like it's your last day together, Always give him the best you can. I know it may sound werid but thats how you keep it all together..
I try to give my husband the best everyday so he could never get tired of me or nothing you know.. well sweetie I hope I was of help to you.
I wish you & your future hubby the best in ya'lls marriage.
Good Luck! ♥
2007-10-04 05:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by -->TeXas<-- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋