What is a counselor supposed to do with a 6-7 year old in the room?
They only play she doesn't seem to ask him questions or anything is that okay? or should i change counselors
2007-10-04 03:18:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shellshell - His dad doesn't visit him like he is supposed to so its very depressing for him.
2007-10-04 03:32:51 · update #1
I had the exact thing happen to me. (Foster child) The counselor tells you that they need to spend one on one time with the child, then they tell you that they need to bring some toys to see how the child behaves with them or how they use the toys to play dolls or so. The counselor I had was a young lady and I thought she had little experience in that department, not that I'm certified. But we know. I understand that they need to have the child get use to them, with me in my situation it took months of the playing or drawing. I started thinking at that point hey I can do this myself and see what comes out of it, so I did. But I truly was not expecting any of it!
Seek a new counselor that has more years in the field.
Also if it makes you feel uncomfortable as her to do her job in a room near by, the hole close doors is kinda not cool. They are stranger too.
The child I fostered was the same age... her visits w/ her mother where only on weekends, but when she saw her mom it made her act different around my kid's and I. Try spending more time with the child outdoors, it's not only fun but very therapeutic for anyone. Good wishes and God bless you...
2007-10-04 03:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is this for your child? Some counselors play with the children first in order for the kids to open up and talk about thier situation. Also they could be playing and talking at the same time. Sometimes it takes kids a while to get used to talking to someone, so the counselor might not have anything that the child has shared with her.
2007-10-04 03:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by bunny45989 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is suppose to be finding out what the problem is with your kid. The child must have a problem (I don't have a clue what a 7 year old would need a counselor for) and if she isn't getting to the bottom of it you are wasting time and money. Find another one. It's hard to find a good counselor.
2007-10-04 03:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was in counseling for a while and it was the same situation...they played games. However, during the game playing, the counselor would ask questions and get my daughter talking. I think it's a way to make the child feel at ease.
2007-10-04 03:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is normal. Counselors of small children make their sessions "seem" like play because it makes the child more comfortable. They can actually find out a LOT of information without asking questions in they typical counseling session.
2007-10-04 03:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her a couple more visits. I'm not sure, but I think they start by making the child comfortable and observing children's play and listen to them when they "make pretend." The next step might be that she will begin to play something with the child like Legos and then begin some questions. You should ask her exactly how child therapy works--you were curious. Good luck to all of your family.
2007-10-04 03:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats usually the best method for kids. leave the doctoring to her... shes professional and im sure has more expeirence than you. Thats all my sons counselor does with him, she can look at the way he plays with certain things and ask him why he does this or why he does that.......Its just part of it. Though if you think that its not working try someone else..... maybe they have a different method
2007-10-04 03:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by crazyworld 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my counselor did the same thing with me when i was a kid but it was totally legit, he would play cards with me and then ask questions.. i honestly beleive he was just trying to see how i responded to certain situations while interacting with him.... maybe testing my "people skills". I think he may want to know how she behaves in certain situations when you're not present. In your particular situation you have the sex issue.... so if you're not comfortable with a man being in a room alone with your little girl i suggest hiring a female counselor, however, I doubt he's harming her if that's what you're concerned about.
2007-10-04 03:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mike L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The counselor is trying to make your child comfortable with her/him before getting your child to open up. If your child is generally quiet, that is the reason behind this. Else, you are wasting your money. You may also need to ask your child if he/she feels the person is friendly and approachable.
2007-10-04 03:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the child is depressed, and you don't like the counselor who is supposed to be helping the child overcome his/her depression, then by all means find a new one.
2007-10-04 03:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋