I am 33 yrs. old, male and have been married for over 11 yrs. I am bi-polar and manic depressive. I have alot of issues that I am trying to deal with in my life right now. More than what is usual. A lot more!!! I am in such a rut and trying and trying to dig myself out and go back to being the "some-what" normal person I am. Am I going through some kind of a "mid-life" crisis?
2007-10-04 01:27:08 · 12 answers · asked by venicedrowningme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you are just struggling to make each day work. Toss out the notion of normal. Do what works for you and your family. If you don't feel like the meds are working, talk to your doc and try something different. If you have a lot on your plate at the moment, take time each day to work on one thing at a time. If you are not in therapy to deal with your bipolar disorder it might be time to get someone to talk to. Keep your wife informed on your care and be open and honest with her. Just keep trying to work everything out and in time, you will get to a place that seems more "norma"l to you. Good luck :)
2007-10-04 02:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a mid life crisis, I think it sounds more like you are depressed, or perhaps stuck in a rut. a mid life crisis, is when you get to mid-life, start worrying about all the things you havent done in your life yet. Thats why people go off and have a mad affair, or randomly buy a brand new sports car or motorbike.
It sounds like you just need to talk to someone, and maybe change your lifestyle a bit. Perhaps you and your wife should start going out more, take her for nice meals etc. Start having some nice holidays. Ring some of your old friends up, and talk about the old times. You're still very young, and should be enjoying life! Try google searching ways to turn your life around. Good luck!
2007-10-04 08:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by KJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Midlife crisis is the notion, popular in certain cultures, that many middle-aged people go through a period of dramatic self doubt brought on by the realization that their life is half over and they haven't accomplished what they once wanted to. Supporters believe that there are other triggers, such as aging in general, menopause, or children leaving home. The result may be a desire to make significant changes in career, marriage or romantic relationship, and other core aspects of day to day life.
Academic research since the 1980s rejects the notion of midlife crisis as a phase that most adults go through. In one study, less than 10% of people had psychological crises due to their age or aging[1]. Personality type and a history of psychological crisis are believed to predispose some people to this "traditional" midlife crisis.[2] People going through this suffer a variety of symptoms and exhibit disparate behaviors.
Many middle aged adults experience major life events that can cause a period of psychological stress or depression. However, those events -- the death of a loved one, career setback, etc. -- could have happened earlier or later in life, making them a "crisis," but not necessarily a midlife one. In the same study, 15% of middle-aged adults experienced this type of midlife turmoil.
The notion of midlife crisis is not universal. One study found no evidence of midlife crisis in Japanese and Indian culture, raising the question of whether it's a cultural construct. The authors hypothesized that the "culture of youth" in Western societies accounts for the popularity of the midlife crisis concept there.[3]
Researchers have found that midlife is often a time for reflection and reassessment, but this is not always accompanied by the psychological upheaval popularly associated with "midlife crisis".[4]
I would recommend seeking out some thearapy, solely because of the bi polar and manic depressive issues. The trained therapist should also people to help you address and possible mid life crisis issues.
2007-10-04 08:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by GoldenButterflyKisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's a bit early for that but, considering all your issues, it's very possible. a mid life crisis is pretty much what you describe. the feeling of being in a rut, wondering if your life is on the right path or if you've made the right decisions and thinking that there must be more to it. most go through something like this but, the key is to not act irrationally about it and make snap decisions
2007-10-04 09:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"mid-life crisis" is something that people label you with when they see a change in you, when they see you changing yourself or changing your way of thinking. Its basically means that the people in your life are not able to deal with the changes you are making, so they label you as having a mid-life crisis instead of understanding that for whatever reason you are looking at the world or yourself differently, changing your priorities, wanting more. I think you should keep digging there is nothing wrong with wanting more for yourself, As long as your not hurting anyone that matters to you.
2007-10-04 09:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young to be going through a mid life crisis...maybe you are just really stressed out. You may need some counseling to cope with things right now...Being bi-polar tends to cloud judgement at times also...maybe you should see the dr. about changing your meds...don't try to go it yourself, get some help. Good Luck!
2007-10-04 08:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by loquita.bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as the word says MID-life,this means somewhere in the middle of an average life-expentation of a male,I wouldnt know in case of male with some mental disorder,sorry but perhaps life-expectation could be shorter so instead of like average around 45 years, could be like 35 years in your case but its just statictics,you could be an exeption so dont worry about your up-coming mid-life/penopauze or something....33 is real young and for a guy just perfect age for every aspect of life,you shouldnt feel old BUT in prime of your life....so LIVE ok
2007-10-04 08:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by ajal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
33 is too young for midlife but you may be showing signs of anxiety because you are not being properly mrdicated for your disorder. Get to your doctor as soon as you are finished reading this. The sooner you get relief, the better.
2007-10-04 08:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask my ex-husband who was 34 and married for 11 years when he cheated on me and destroyed my family.....go to counseling and keep communication open with your wife....at least you realize something is not right....
2007-10-04 08:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Spaceyangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ure having a mid life crisis.. and its ok.. this too shall pass
2007-10-04 08:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Nidz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋