I have a big problem...lately, I haven't been able to get my ex-boyfriend out of my head. I "see" him everywhere I go, think of him all the time, and even daydream about him when my husband and I have sex!!!! I haven't dated this guy in over 7 years. We did have a pretty nasty breakup, but we're friends now...although we don't get the chance to talk much.
I love my husband dearly...I feel so guilty for feeling like this...what can I do??
2007-10-04 01:55:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look, people...I'm not saying that I want to leave my husband for this guy....we broke up for a reason, and I know that. I just want to get him out of my head!!!
2007-10-04 02:53:44 · update #1
I think this is normal, but you have to get him out of your head before you might end up doing something you regret, especially if your friends with him. Every time you think about him, then think of something you like better about your husband. Maybe even sit down and make a list of all the things you love about your husband and take one thing a day and appreciate that quality about him until you quit thinking about the ex.
2007-10-04 02:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IS your marriage doing good? Do you love your ex still? These are questions that you need to ask yourself. Does your or has your ex lived or offer you a better life than what you have now? Just remember that the grass isn't greener on the other side. If you love your husband and will not do anything to hurt him then I would just try to ignore the daydreams. You don't want to ruin what you have if it's working and doing great for you. I hope that you find what you are searching for and that you make the decision that is best for you. good luck
2007-10-04 09:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by momof5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What aren't you happy about at home? People tend to daydream and wotnot when they aren't happy about something. Expression "Grass is always greener on the other side" What do you want from your ex? Sounds like you need to sit down with your husband and check in with one another. I wouldn't bring up the ex boyfriend, What I mean is ask him how his life is going. What's going on in his world. Maybe you two haven't been spending enough cuddle or talk time. It's not enough to just sleep in the same bed. You have to talk.
2007-10-04 09:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by copeseticnomos 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing or talking to him. You became fixated on him. You're playing tricks on yourself. You don't need to be friends with him. There's no reason for it, and it is destroying your bond with your husband-- Don't get me wrong, once in a while it's fine to fanticize about others, but it sounds like you became obsessed with him. Take a look at this person's qualities. Why and What are you attracted to, then take a look a what your husband and you truly have. Focus more on him and you, rather than the past.
2007-10-04 09:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by cat 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think this could be a normal thing just when you start thinking of him do something else get busy and try to change the subject in your mind, I think it will just go away and you shouldn't feel guilty for your thought's just try to get a hold on them and don't let a fantasy ruin what you have now.
2007-10-04 09:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its obvious. Leave your marriage, find your ex and start dating him again. Surely if you broke up with him once it wouldn't happen again (right?) Things will be different. Or maybe if you did all of this and realised it was all just in your head you can't go back to your husband.
Leave the past in the past. Forget your ex. Had his chance 7 years ago.
2007-10-04 09:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by Knievel 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're letting your emotions get the best of you. You need to remind yourself why you did not marry the ex and how his flaws would of affected you.
2007-10-04 09:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um that's not good... maybe you should seek a marriage counselor. in the meantime, try to keep your mind on your husband, and not your ex.
2007-10-04 09:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by {chelser} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his shoes and see how painful it will be to learn that your partner is having thoughts like yours.
2007-10-04 09:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by Reign 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
HOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF THAT WAS YOUR HUSBAND THINKING ABOUT ONE OF HIS EX GIIRLFRIEND?
2007-10-04 11:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by TABBYKAT34 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋