how do you dump a violent husband?

Question

how do i leave with a disabled child

Answer 1

Call your local YWCA or local police station for the number of a women's battered shelter. They will help you get you and your child out and make sure your child gets the medical attention they need.

If he is violent do not be afraid to get the police involved, but if you don't want them involved then call from a pay phone. But call the non emergency number. If they keep you on the phone to long and won't give you an answer hang up.

I understand that it will take a bit of planning with a disabaled child in tow.

Or call the local ER and see if they get you the numbers.

Or have a friend do all the phone work for you.


xxx

Answer 2

That is not a easy task to achieve! sure most people think just move on, go rent a apartment and start a new life, well if it were that simple then we wouldnt have as many spousal batterey cases and deaths as we do. Because 9 times out of ten women or men stay in the sick relationship, the reason they stay is because this believe it or not is their comfort zone, while they are scared they are also mentally being held hostage by their own weakness. Some feel its not so bad and if you have children with the abuser its even harder. The first step towards dumping a violent husband is to become mentally stronger, you ask how do I achieve this? you go and seek treatment, the best place for this is a womans shelter that specializes in battered women issues, not a homeless shelter as these are like comparing apples to oranges, a womans battered shelter is a nice safe place to go they have clean rooms and lots of people around who can help you, dont wait another day, if you are being abused please seek help! the longer you stay with a violater the weaker you become and the more he will feed off of your weakness, basically its a sick place to be, so get out and start living again!

Answer 3

Contact your local Domestic Violence hotline (here is the national # 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

they will put in contact with your local hotline, you need an escape plan and they will walk you through it. Please make sure you get copies of all important papers and documents. You will need all your child's medical info, car lease info, credit card statements, bank statements, marriage licenses, social security cards, tax info, shared property info, etc. This takes time so start now, keep a packed suitcase with a change of clothes for you and your child and give it to a trusted friend that will not tell him. Try stashing some cash here and there, even if you have to cash in change. Just enough if you need to travel to another part of your state where the shelter might be.

When you have everything in place, call the local shelter and they can set up plan to pick you up. All shelter locations a confidential so it is important that you tell no one where it is, they will have to ask you to leave if that happens.

Once you are there you will be assigned a advocate and that person can help get you legal aide, gov't assistance for your son's medical condition and probably welfare if you cannot work. This is a hard journey but you can always call your local hotline when you need support. It may take some time to get out but please be careful.

You are in my prayers. Good Luck

Answer 4

Do you have family or close friends who could let you stay with them? No woman should have to put up with Violence hon. For the sake of your child and you, something needs to be done, and you need to leave him. That or tell the police, they will help you out, no questions asked. That man has no right to be hurting you. Show him just how you feel, stand up for whats right, and he may get mad or try hurting you more, but in the end he will sorry for his actions. Stay safe ok :)

Answer 5

Im a child of a violent father and you need to leave him straight away. Got a womans refuge anything, what about your family or friends.

Answer 6

You run when he isn't home. Pack up what you can and leave. Leave him a note but, don't tell him where you are going. Go somewhere he will not be able to find you. Go to a woman shelter they will be able to help you hide and give you the right way to handle things.....good luck

Answer 7

i told my now ex husband to leave after he fractured my cheekbone after yet another beating. i had rang the police 3 days before after another violent outburst and they hadnt bothered to turn up, if you cant get your husband to leave there are womens hostel for people in your perdicament, try ringing social services or your health vsitor for help to get into one. it was the best thing i ever did hun i knows its hard but you will look back with satisfaction when you have don it. good luck hun and feel free to mail me anytime xx

Answer 8

just leave for your childs sake what have you got to lose he is a bastard and he always will be,he will always always be violent he will never change .He will always be ever so sorry afterwards and he will always do it again and that will be your life for as long as you want it to be. just pack up when he is out and go to a refuge or police station before he kills you.

Answer 9

No excuses just leave if not for you do it for the safty of your child its not fair on any of you but its your child you really need to thimk about here good luck

Answer 10

its not easy, you need to be 100% sure you want to be rid of him. believe it or not, lots of women say they love their violent husband ( madness) they just want to leave him so he will stop.
he will never stop.
you need all the help you can get from friends and family, first step is to tell all of them whats going on, from there you will find a way.

alison if you are serious, e-mail me, I may be able to help you.