I am married, but ever since before i was ever married, I have this thing where if i get drunk and go to a club, I dirty dance and kiss my girlfriends. My husband has seen it happen. I know he doesn't really like it.........
is it cheating?
2007-10-04 02:29:22 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is.....I can understand why your husband don't like it and if he told you that already why are you still doing it?
2007-10-04 02:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband were to do the same and it wouldn't be a problem for you, then it wouldn't be a danger as far as the relationship is concerned.
Now, the signal you are sending is that you seem to like women, and this may be more of a concern to your husband.
Basically, cheating is having any sexual contact with someone who is not your partner.
So, I'd consider it cheating. First level. You have to ask yourself why you don't go througth with it though.
Is it because, to you kissing is one thing you don't see any problem with, whereas sleeping with someone is not something you'd ever dream of doing with someone else.
Only you know. In the meantime, since your husband made it clear that he didn't like it, then you should consider his feelings and what it might do to your relationship.
2007-10-04 09:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if the person your kissing and being inappropriate with is a man or a woman you are married and its cheating to do that with anyone. You husband doesn't like it and I don't blame him. You're disrespecting your husband and your marriage simple as that. It doesn't make it right just because they are female too.
2007-10-04 09:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheating because your husband knows. But he doesn't like it...so there has to be some sort of compromise.
What exactly doesn't he like? The getting drunk, the going out to clubs, or the kissing of your girl friends?
Compromise with him...ok so you won't go out to clubs but you'll stay home, get drunk and kiss your girlfriends.
Or you'll go out to clubs and dance with kisses, but not get drunk
Or go out, don't dance, just kiss and only have a few drinks.
I say so long as its harmless girl fun its ok...its not like you are hiding it from him.
2007-10-04 09:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your married now, and you have to think about how your hubby feels. yeah its fun getting wild with your friends, but if its hurting him then you have to try and slow up. Dont drink as much so you can control yourself.
Its not cheating, he sees you doing it, now if you were to purposly to behind his back and have sex with a girl then yeah its cheating.
I kiss girls when Im having fun at clubs...but then my hubby loves it. Most men do, but then some dont and are scared you will be bi or turn lesbian and not want them. Explain how you feel to your man, and that he has no worries, its just fun thats all. He may understand and start enjoying, seeing you have fun with the girls. He just has to know how your thinking and feeling. Try this, wink
2007-10-04 09:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the alcohol or some deep down fantasy, I get all touch feely when drunk to, yeah its kinda like cheating if you are really making out with other people.
2007-10-04 09:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yeah, I'd think of it as cheating. I mean, you're married. You should be getting drunk and then making out with your husband, not your friends.
2007-10-04 09:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I don't really think dancing and kissing your girlfriends is necessarily cheating but if you know your husband doesn't care for it then why continue to do it? Consider his feelings.
2007-10-04 09:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by must<3dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is cheating. You shouldn't get drunk, you are his wife and he wants you to act like one I'm sure. You should respect his wishes and act like a lady.
If you don't think you can stop or want to stop, maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship. What is more important to you, if you have hidden fantasies and desires you should explore them but be with a man that can accept it as well.
2007-10-04 10:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and you know it is that's why your asking hoping enough people say no so you can feel better when you do it again. Why do you continue with such behavior knowing your hurting the man your suppose to honor and love? Would you like it if the tables were turned?
2007-10-04 10:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by angelica2462 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating. You are showing your husband absolutely no respect. Why did you marry him, anyway? Makes no sense.
2007-10-04 09:44:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋