maybe thats because I am. I saw the writing on the wall before it even happened. I ignored the signs and in my stubborn Taurean nature did what I wanted and now the sh*t is biting me in the a s s. I'm scared, but I'm going to do it. Lord willing by the end of the month, I will have enough money saved up to get my own place with my son. I know what I have to do because I know what happiness is supposed to be and this isnt it. I know that I deserve way better and even though I was wrong, and I take full responsibility for my actions, I'm still a good woman. I have so much to offer and I'm not even concerned with another guy, its just that this man is not the one. He wont change and I see that now. I've changed. I've become less and less tolerant, patient, respecting, trusting, etc. I'm tired of taking care of him and his drama. I feel like if I let him go, then and only then will I get this weight off my shoulders. thanks for letting me vent on here. your comments are welcome
2007-10-04 01:48:45 · 8 answers · asked by teri is ambience 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're gonna be alright, you'll be just fine.
2007-10-04 01:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are married, its a partnership...you shouldnt feel like you need to "take care" of your husband. Im sure you are feeling responsible.....we all do....we all take the problems of our relationship on-board and think if we did something different maybe it would have turned out differently. You know what? It takes two to tango. If he does see you as his equal....if he sees you as the little woman who cooks and cleans....is that really your fault? I doubt whether this it totally your problem. You would not be leaving if you were happy. If your husband made you happy....if he tried to make the relationship work, then I am sure you would not be in this situation now. A relationship breaking up is never just one person's fault. You need to look at the big picture. You are not selfish....you are just reacting from being taken for granted. I am sure you have tried much more to make the relationship work than your husband has. Look at the facts, stop blaming yourself and remember.....cause and effect.
2007-10-04 02:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you are going to make that step but where are you going in personal and spiritual growth now that you have become "less and less tolerant, patient, respecting trusting etc. "
2007-10-04 02:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by mllttsmn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Sounds like things just aren't working out for you and thank goodness you see the light. You have to make yourself happy too or everyone around you will be miserable. So you go girl!
2007-10-04 01:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by ursobustedmr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've got a plan..don't let a man bring you down!! Good for you for realizing and being so strong about it!! :) I wish the best of luck to you!
2007-10-05 05:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go ahead and leave when you get the cash. if your not happy. put your child in a happier enviroment. children can since when something is not right. that could affect him.
2007-10-04 02:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by yoshismom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked your story, but there is always more. I've been through this many times, & have learned. There is your side, his side. Then there is the truth. Good luck is all I can say. #
2007-10-04 01:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got a plan!!!!
2007-10-04 01:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋