Marriage & Divorce - 22 August 2007

If you had the choice to step out of whatever life you're living now for certain love with your soulmate but no guarantee of security...would you do it?

2007-08-22 19:21:32 · 20 answers · asked by Thoughtful 2

We had a huge argument this pm and of course, I dug in and pulled out my defenses which includes how offended I was after he started playing baseball games with his ex and how he spends almost everything he has on their kids. working extra and how I think he probably paid for her cosmetic surgery. Frankly, I have had enough of this woman and if he does not quit calling me by her 1st name I think I will explode and call him every name I know.
Is it me or is it him. I am sick to death of his ex wife who shows up at every single family function, funeral, etc..... I have had enough of her. I raised a family on my own and I have divorced and am not on friendly terms with my ex. Is it ok for me to be aggrivated that he keeps calling me by his ex name or is he still hung up on her? Its been 5 yrs now and frankly I think he needs counseling.

2007-08-22 19:00:57 · 8 answers · asked by happydawg 6

I have been married for 16 years (now separated) to a woman who, although is okay with receiving oral sex, refuses to perform it. She's an extremely squeamish person and just finds the act to be disgusting. My problem now is that I'm 49 and I don't get hard just by looking at her like I used to. I need a little foreplay. Oh yes, she doesn't like touching me "there" with her hand either. Her attitude about these things isn't because of any abuse or trauma in her life. Just prudishness.

2007-08-22 18:46:21 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is bi. We both like the idea of being with another woman, but don't like the idea of a fling. Also, we are looking for an emotional bond. So, we discussed finding a "girlfriend". However, that has the problem of being temporal & the girlfriend would not be on equal footing as my wife and I. My wife suggested that we find someone who could be OUR "wife" and we would be on equal footing. Has anybody had any experience with this? These are my concerns:

How could this impact the relationships of any potential children with their half-siblings or their parents?

How does one allow their extended families become aware of the situation? Would you want to hide the fact? Would it even be possible?

How does this affect one on one intimacy with your wives?

Has anyone had any children that were raised in this environment? How did it affect their view of women & marriage?

Having lived in this situation, do you look back and say it was well worth it?

What advice can you give?

2007-08-22 18:43:01 · 9 answers · asked by Rope-a-dope 1

im getting married in a week but it is to the guy i always wanted to be with we have been in a relationship for 2 years now but he has been in jail for 1 year and 1month is it normal to be scared?what should i do? please help me and try your best to answer

2007-08-22 18:36:58 · 33 answers · asked by tjsacuttie224 2

i never delivered the emotional security that's what she told me..is that enough reason for a girl to break up with you? what should i do to get her back? does those ebooks online works?

2007-08-22 18:31:04 · 10 answers · asked by Robert r 2

2007-08-22 18:22:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for over 3 years. When we had been married for a year I found out that he had asked one for his friends to tell his ex that he missed her hot a** I confronted him and he said he was kidding and that he was sorry. 2 years ago we split up for 6 months, during that time this same girl told him she wanted to move (she's from England) to be with him, he said no. So when we got back together I asked him to stop emailing her, and he said ok. After that I found other emails between the two of them, we fought and he said that he would stop. I found out in February that he had gone to see another of his ex's who lived close and he lied to me about it. Today I found an email from her saying how much she wants to travel with him again and misses him and another email from England girl and HE had invited her to meet him in Ecuador when he went there. He told her he wants to have her close he can have someone to talk to.. what's going on? What do I do?!

2007-08-22 17:36:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 33 year old daughter is married to a sadistic man who has beaten her down emotionally. She is afraid to leave him. This has occured over a 10 years.How can I help her

2007-08-22 17:36:04 · 56 answers · asked by dancer 2

2007-08-22 17:35:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-22 17:30:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am thinking of marrying a divorced father with custody of his 3 children. I do not have any children of my own and want to get the real scoop of what its like stepping into the role of instant- mother. The kids, 8,7 &4 are sweet and love me a lot but I'm sure that can all change once I "invade their territory." I'm hoping someone in my position can tell me what its really like. Thanks!

2007-08-22 17:14:41 · 24 answers · asked by Caryn R 3

i thought i got over the guy but when i saw a picture of him kissing his new BEAUTIFUL wife, i felt my insides burn and my heart shatter...i haven't seen him for a year and a half...what does this mean? i love my husband, i really do...i know this makes me sound so bad...i just don't know what to think...i don't understand what i'm feeling

2007-08-22 16:48:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

a friend who filed a mutual divorce recently, with his spouse, after many years of harassment is now finding out that (through a 3rd party) that his spouse wishes to go in for a contested one or completely withdraw. she is presently in the US and has no intention of returning. all this is for further harassing him. they were married under the Special Marriage act, India.
i would like to know if this is possible to do. also what could be the consequences of this action on her part? is there a time period allotted for changing the process? is the process to change the procedure so easy or does it require more information or justification? is it possible to do this from the US? any information regarding this would be useful

2007-08-22 16:44:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Suppose you do your duty as a wife, why do hubby still surf porn and claim it as relaxation? he claimed that he will stop if I dun like it. But will men really stop?

2007-08-22 16:25:25 · 32 answers · asked by Humble Learner 1

...he commented on so many things that he doesn't like about me, from my head to my toe! and things I do. Why does he stick around?
What's his problem?

2007-08-22 16:15:05 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

Anyone can answer this question if you have great ideas but, preferably people who have been married for awhile!
I've been happily married for 8 years. My husband is awesome, I still love him as much (NO..more!) then the day I married him. But, you know how it is...with kids and everyday life, that you get caught up with things and you don't do enough to show someone that you do love them.
So, what are your ideas of everyday things that I can do to show my husband that I appreciate him?
What do you guys think is romantic? Hahaha..I know this is an open door to say the obvious...SEX. But, I'm looking for other ideas. Got any to share?
Thanks!

2007-08-22 16:03:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband likes to go out and drink a lot. I am totally ok with him going but I rarely accompany him. I work early in the mornings and I just find bars boring. Should I feel guilty not going with him?

2007-08-22 15:46:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been together for about 10 years 6 of it married. The other night she came home and told me she kissed her friend. Best explination i can give she says the girl asked her to come here and she did and she also said she kissed her back. She claims it was like kissing her mom or grandmother and there was nothing to it. I dont believe her i think she enjoyed it (if it matters her friend is very good looking) Lately she has become extremely unsexual. I think it is cheating no matter what sex you kiss. I feel a kiss is a personal and intimate type of bond and requires a certain feeling and connection. Isnt a hug enough and a kiss too far? should i be upset or not? Is it cheating?

2007-08-22 15:44:43 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I always come up short when its time to pay bills and always ask his wealthy parents for a little help at the end of the month. After 3 years of marriage I began secretly taking money out of his check and depositing it in a savings account in my own name; even though we still get money from his parents once a month. He has no clue about it and since he never looks at our finances takes my word for what we have and what we need at the end of the month. I feel bad about it, but I know that the money will come in handy drawing interest. Is that considered stealing?? I'm afraid he'll blow it if he knows it's there. And even more afraid that he'll be angry with me about opening it without his knowledge. Should I tell him about the extra money???

2007-08-22 15:35:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-22 15:27:15 · 37 answers · asked by Lula 2

my husbands dumb answer was he found them on the floor of his job and was cleaning his ears with them. oh please, how stupid. what do u think. hes cheated before.

2007-08-22 15:18:13 · 23 answers · asked by renae2007_1986 4

My husband is wanting a divorce. I do not want a divorce. Can I stop him from divorcing me?

2007-08-22 15:16:59 · 37 answers · asked by Frieda G 1

When I was a teenager I had very low self esteem, I was raped when I was 13. So by 16 I was permiscuous. I had given about 4 BJs. Now i'm married my husband want oral sex. I love him so much but I just can't. It brings back so many horrible memories that I don't want to remember. I'm not that sad little girl that I was anymore, and I never want to go back to being like that.

2007-08-22 15:07:09 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dealing with drugs,money issues. Childrens well being emotionally etc. He says he will do better For the past months he has changed but there is something that I cannot get over. I might can forgive him for all the drama we've been through together but I cannot forget any of it. It is like I live it over and over again when I see him. Then he does stupid S--t that pisses me off. I just cannot stand it. I know that I have my own faults never said I was perfect. All in all I have been hurt by this man so many times i can't seem to get over those moments. So what should I do. I stated my claim to him but either he does not understand my pain or he choose not to. Why? Why not just let me go?

2007-08-22 15:06:56 · 5 answers · asked by soomuchluv 2

Been married for 15 years...Husaband has always checked out other women. We have had many fights and even a separation due to this. Well, he now saids that I do the same thing...check out men. I'm so outraged that I can't think straight...he has accused me of checking out my kids school teacher. I'm so mad because it seems like he can't or won't take ownership of his own mess without trying to make it a joint problem. My question is twofold... do most men check out women? Therefore it shouldn't be a big deal. Secondly, if this matter to me should he at least attempt not to undress these women with his eyes in front of me. Should he have some self control?

2007-08-22 15:05:18 · 17 answers · asked by twin2 2

This girl that my husband has grown up with is very disrespectful towards me.She expects my husband yo be her night and shining armor when she needs help.She also makes alot of inapporiate comments to my husband.And if i say anything about how um its not apporiate with me she just doesnt get it and keeps up i swear i just want to knock her one.So the question is,Does any woman out ther have a female problem with their husbands ?and what the hell can you do about it?

2007-08-22 14:22:38 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

and i have no clue what to get please help

2007-08-22 14:18:56 · 19 answers · asked by The Failsafe 3

2007-08-22 14:11:21 · 31 answers · asked by hyphyscwifey 1

is this something that is innocent or should i be worried about this? i discovered that he made a listing on a site for himself sometime ago. i confronted him and he said, he never did had any contact with anyone and it was a time in our relationship when he felt very alone and it the listing was made after a fight. I think he is on the edge of having a sex addiction. just a feeling in my gut. anyways the original listing was in 2005 and now i'm discovering visits in his internet history again. what do i think? We seem close sexually and emotionally. probably never enough sex for him though.

2007-08-22 14:08:03 · 20 answers · asked by gkgecs 1