Suppose you do your duty as a wife, why do hubby still surf porn and claim it as relaxation? he claimed that he will stop if I dun like it. But will men really stop?
2007-08-22 16:25:25 · 32 answers · asked by Humble Learner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to understand something really important about the male brain , it has the ability to compartmentalize sex.
That's why road head at 75 mph is possible
That's why Bill Clinton was actually telling the truth when he said that he didn't have sex with that woman
That's why a guy can honestly love you , still watch porn and see absolutely no conflict of interest.
It's kind of like the difference between grabbing a burger on the run and sitting down for a 3 course dinner .
While technically you had something to eat in both cases ,to a male brain a burger on the run doesn't qualify as eating.
To a male brain ,sex with one's beloved is like that sit 3 course sit down dinner and road head & porn is like the burger on the run.
It's just how the male brain organizes the world and it's neither right nor wrong it just is.
A key to resolving male /female conflicts is the knowledge that males and females thoght processes are so fundamentally different that they may well be regarded as originating in different species.
If you want to understand the opposite sex then you cannot you the standards of your sex to judge them by , you have to use the standards of their sex
2007-08-22 17:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part men think sex 24/7 whether they need it or not. Men are very visual and to see porn is emotionally stimulating to there mind and body. It seems that a lot of men love there wives and girlsfriends but there hormornes are always ranging, it has nothing to do with you at all why he chooses porn for relaxation.
2007-08-22 16:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously he said relaxation??? men search out porn sites for one thing and one thing only...gratification. you should probably find out what type of porn...kiddie, bestiality, gay, any other fetish or just typical man stuff. Is this something you would share with him? Some couples watch together.
If he's honest about stopping if it bothers you then tell him to stop because it obviously bothers you or you wouldn't be on answers. If he doesn't stop then I'd have to re-think the whole relationship cause he's looking for something you're not giving him right now. good luck.
2007-08-23 03:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, men will never stop. Your man might, but who knows. It really is harmless, as long as that is all he is doing, is surfing. Let him browse, browse, browse....... Then one day take a look at the history of the web browser..... You might be totally disgusted, but if you would really like to do your "duty" as a wife, you might be able to surprise him with something he really likes, and keep him off the porn sites all together....
2007-08-22 16:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by George P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is becoming the number one addiction in the home that can lead to other implications. Its just too easy to seek it. Moreover, it takes a lot of will power to NOT see it-- really!!!
I too am going thru not looking at porn. I might start a blog, as others are going thru this same addiction. Since smoking takes up money and places a toll on your health and lungs, I do see porn being addictive, as in some cases--if uncontrolled--it can lead to time excessive time wastage. I almost got fired at work for looking at it (and I dared not to admit to anyone that I am addicted to it).
Hope this helps.
2007-08-22 16:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by rc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that most men that do go to those sites even though they are married is because of either the way they were brought up as a child or he would rather live in a fancy world. It does help if two people that are in love could sovle that problem.
2007-08-22 16:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by overthehill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats your problem for accepting it in your home and in your marriage i dont tollerate any of that stuff and no im not fat and ugly with no self esteem i know what i expect out of my man and he knows i wont let it in our house or in our lives it is not ok and can lead to many problems in a relationship some people are freaks and both partners love it that is their choice but you cant worry about what other people do hell some people look at child porn and think its ok and well its not..if it bothers you put your foot down and a lil advice its not relaxin your hubby its stimulating him hellooooooooooo
2007-08-22 16:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very visual. Going to porn sites is a choice. Never heard going there is relaxation, I would say its just pure stimulation. Tell him to stop it.......
2007-08-22 16:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he will stop it. If you ask him in love and let him know how you feel about it you will help him to let go of it. But he will still need his needs meet by you. Try to give him what he is looking for in some beautiful way that is pleasant for you and him. Curosity killed the cat so your love for him in a beautiful way may deliver him from the crap. And pray for God's will to be done in his life regularly and ask God to bless him according to his will. Remeber sex is of God he created it and meant it to be very beautiful and special not nasty and dirty.
2007-08-22 16:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Gman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if he says he will stop, he will find the time and place to surf porn.
2007-08-22 16:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋