is 2 women kissing cheating?

Question

My wife and I have been together for about 10 years 6 of it married. The other night she came home and told me she kissed her friend. Best explination i can give she says the girl asked her to come here and she did and she also said she kissed her back. She claims it was like kissing her mom or grandmother and there was nothing to it. I dont believe her i think she enjoyed it (if it matters her friend is very good looking) Lately she has become extremely unsexual. I think it is cheating no matter what sex you kiss. I feel a kiss is a personal and intimate type of bond and requires a certain feeling and connection. Isnt a hug enough and a kiss too far? should i be upset or not? Is it cheating?

Answer 1

It is cheating and very gross allso ....YUCKKKKK

Answer 2

Yes, no matter what sex kissing can be considered cheating but it does depend on the situation. Woman are different...you guys would never go to the bathroom in groups like we do, and the majority of guys would rather shake hands than hug each other. We can be affectionate with each other without it being sexual but what kind of a kiss are we talking about? Alot of times I will peck my close girlfriends but an open mouth or french kiss is a different story. The only time I can think of two woman kissing like that and it being totally plutanic would be for the shock effect and the attention. Girls know that alot of guys fantasize about two woman being together. Her friend could have been using your wife to gain the attention of a man. She did share this with you and maybe she was hoping it would excite you too. The lack of intimacy dioesn't always mean a spouse is cheating. It could be she needs a little boost of cofidence from you and/or a new ideas to make things more interesting. Compliment her and try encouraging her into the mood with new material-get some games and props. As far as this kissing another woman issue... the only way to get to the bottom of it is to talk to her about it. Tell her you are curious about this kiss and you want to know more. Was this the first time she kissed a girl, what led up to it, what did she do afterward, etc? Her reaction might be your answer. If she gets seductive while tellig you than she's actually trying to perk your interest. If she gets defensive(Unless you've already been negative about it.) than maybe she's hiding something.

Answer 3

Bi-curious alert!

If she "kissed her back", she was experimenting. The experience has probably caused her to question why she did that. She's now wondering about her sexuality because something happened that never happened to her before.

The "mom or grandmother" explanation was just to placate you for the moment. I don't believe that. However, I wouldn't jump to conclusions. This event may have turned her around a little, but it doesn't mean she is gay or bi-sexual.

Let her know that you appreciate her sharing the experience with you, but also express your concern. Tell her exactly how it made you feel and what your are feeling now about it. Then, let her talk.

If she needs some space to work this out in her brain, give her that opportunity sexually. Don't press for sex. But, if this happens a second time, it's time for some serious couple counseling to find out exactly what's going on and how all of this fits into the marriage covenant you have both entered into.

In other words, it's probably not cheating at this point. But, it could become such.

Answer 4

Yes it is a form of cheating, it doesn't matter if it was with another woman, she kissed someone else in a intimate way.

I have to say it was pretty bold of her to tell u this, but at least she did

U say she's becoming unsexual( OH, OH) thats not good, U maybe dealing with something u don't want to deal with and thats a wife who has not only become attracted to another person but this other person maybe a another woman

If this is so how are u gonna hanlde it? have u talk with her about this, maybe it's not that she's attractd to someone else but because she kissed another she maybe feeling bad an she could be punishing herself

U gonna have to talk with your wife and gets some answers.

Good Luck

I gues it;s better u know then to find out later

Answer 5

You no the answer to this i just think your seeking reassurance and maybe an answer that will make you feel better. No matter what sex the other person is it is indifelity at the end of the day. If she says it was a friendly kiss then fine. I kiss my female friends all the time on the lips. A proepr kiss is well pushing it abit to far especially if your married you have to consider the other person your with. Hope things get sorted x

Answer 6

I agree with you. It is cheating. If you give someone a peck on the cheek hello that is ok but on the mouth is far too personal and should be reserved for when you are intimate with her. You have every right to be upset.

Answer 7

Cheating is completely subjective. If you would label it cheating, it is cheating. What is cheating to one couple isn't necessarily cheating to another couple. The most important thing about defining cheating is defining it for yourself and expressing that definition to your partner. From there it is important to agree to respect each other's wishes when it comes to fidelity. When that fidelity is broken...only you can decide.

You feel your wife has cheated on you. You should clearly express this to her and explain your reasoning. Perhaps she didn't clearly understand you in a previous talk, or was overcome in the moment by surprise. Neither is a justification, but they may be reasonable excuses if you'd like to continue your marriage and work out this event.

I think it is definitely possible to move past this, not that you even wouldn't. But I would definitely sit down with your wife, express your wishes and come up with a plan for conquering what is behind you and moving on to better times.

Answer 8

Yeah it's cheating.. The kiss sounds like a deep intimate one and she kissed back? Yeah she enjoyed it.. I'd be upset.

Answer 9

i think its cheating like you said it doesnt matter what sex a kiss is a personal and intimate type of bond.

Answer 10

I am a girl with lots of girlfriends. None of us are lesbians, most are married, have serious boyfriends and some have children. Every girl I know has made out with a girlfriend. All of them. Every single one. Even the innocent, quiet ones. It could mean something, but most likely doesn't. I'm 27, so I'm older than some people who may be replying, but I wouldn't worry about it. I don't consider two girls kissing anything but stupid female fun.

Answer 11

No offense man, but I think you are right. Many women are lesbians in some sort of way. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but I think you are right. Get to know why she did it. And I mean get to know why her friend did it, as well as why your wife did. Don't do anything rash. No matter what.