Marriage & Divorce - 25 August 2007

I know some people that are involved in the swinging lifestyle. My family says my uncle and his wife were probably part of it when they were younger too.

I have been really always interested in this. Some people think that swinging is just an excuse to sleep with other people without getting in trouble cheating. Others look at it as a way to share a positive sexual experience with the one they love. Many couples never will play separately and will always come together.
My views on this are mixed actually. From one standpoint it really looks like for some marriages and relationships, be amazing. From another it seems like it could just be like throwing gas all over your relationship and lighting a torch.
So, I sit here and read Yahoo Answers about it, and I read a lot of short responses from inexperienced people just immediately thinking about how disgusting it is.
I'm not asking whether it's gross or anything, but instead what has it done to your relationship or your friend's?

2007-08-25 23:56:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Badly burned before.. I think now that all men are cheating pigs... Even in my current relationship, I can never trust him.. I can never fully trust a man again in my life.

2007-08-25 22:58:54 · 23 answers · asked by Karla Marx 3

Hi All,

Since from my adolescence, I am always attracted to big women. Women with great curves, height, phatty thighs, butts and boobs. Whenever I look at women with substance, it is very difficult take-off my eyes. I think of any thing suxual, I think and like to be with big women. I seen some of my friends like skinny women, In contrary I never get aroused to the body of skinny women like models, film actressess who are very thin. Is there any thing wrong in that?

2007-08-25 22:42:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is deployed....we have had trust issues and relationship issues in the past, but things have been going really good. He mentioned in passing today that he went to the gym with a girl. I wasn't mad, just curious to know more info about the girl, which I think is justified in any situation. Anyhow, my husband got all angry and said that if I don't trust him I should get out...etc. He says things are never going to change and I am keeping us the way we were and not letting him become a better person?? What's the deal?

2007-08-25 22:05:13 · 15 answers · asked by AHS429 1

I wonder whether couples are still attracted to each other after, say, five years and have sex all the time?

2007-08-25 20:59:09 · 29 answers · asked by dosahyd f 2

meaning like if u had great sex before u were married to ur bf/gf, does it stay great after uve tied the knot :]

2007-08-25 20:57:58 · 24 answers · asked by Jeannette A 2

WELL I AM STARTING TO FEEL THAT .THATS MAY BE WAY HE,S WITH ME FOR MY MONEY AND NOT FOR ME WELL WHAT DO YOU THINK

2007-08-25 20:40:53 · 18 answers · asked by crystal 1

2007-08-25 20:36:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK....when I decide to marry Im going to be my wifes best friend...Im going to come home from work ask her how her day was and really LISTEN to her answer!
Im going to help my wife out with things that stress her out like cleaning up after dinner so she can go relax....take her out and show her she's the only woman for me!
When we do get into arguments, Im going to listen to her side...not walk away and leave her wondering why Im upset...Im always going to tell her how much I love her...and shes the most important woman in my life..she will be treated like a queen.
Now why am I saying all of this?...Because I read these questions and I see so many women that settle for less......All of you women know what you want out of a man but yet u settle for less...I dont get it.....plz enlighten me!

2007-08-25 20:29:10 · 23 answers · asked by jlp165 2

Hes very secretive. he doesnt open up to me about anything he its been 6 years and hes never opened up about his past and then things he did open up about were lies. They were petty lies tho. Pointless. Like hed tell me stories that werent true. Why do u think he does this? He doesnt go into depth about his feelings to me. Hed only say i love you (which is plenty for me) but hes not the type to say anything that has much emotion.

2007-08-25 20:18:34 · 11 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

I'm a tall attractive gal with a postgraduate degree, reasonably good job and a wide range of interests. Make friends easily. I'm told that I'm friendly, warm, easy to get along with & a good catch.

I've had 2 relationships which have gone terribly wrong. Now my marriage has barely lasted a year.

Doesn't help to see my friends & cousins happily settled with young kids - something I've always wanted.

It's really taking a toll on my self-esteem. What can I do to improve this aspect of my life? (besides seeing a counsellor)

2007-08-25 20:05:30 · 12 answers · asked by Sarah 2

2007-08-25 20:01:13 · 18 answers · asked by Balkibartockamouse 1

Hi, I am 34 and married for more than 10 years. When joining with my spouse, it was taking below 10 min to release. What willbe this problem,, or any way to extend this...

2007-08-25 19:44:59 · 2 answers · asked by srinivasan v 1

This has nothing to do with gays getting married.In fact,i hope that they do,if they want.I mean,is marriage sacred anymore?People can get married and then divorced in a matter of months.I am 26,and my my boyfriend wants to get married.I love him,but the ritual of looking for a dress and cake and everything else does not thrill me.I would rather that we did not go through all of that without him thinking that i do not love him.

2007-08-25 19:22:58 · 14 answers · asked by irene i 3

2007-08-25 19:22:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Since we have talked and fought again and again, he agrees one minute to seperate and then blames me because he doesnt have a choice because I keep telling him its not working out. Now he is being silent and we dont spend any time together, he wont look at me, hardly talk to me and acts indefferent. If he really loved me wouldnt he be trying to show it atleast?

2007-08-25 19:10:14 · 3 answers · asked by mt4444 1

2007-08-25 19:02:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

"God wants to save you and will forgive you when you are willing to admit you are a sinner. When you accept this forgiveness from God, He will give you a peace and rest in your heart. You can be free-free in this life and much more, free to experience the bliss of heaven instead of the reality of not only 48 hours, but an eternity in hell."

2007-08-25 18:59:14 · 15 answers · asked by Jessie 1

Why is it so hard to adjsut after seperation from marriage?

2007-08-25 18:58:34 · 13 answers · asked by mariaaa 2

We were madly in love until just a few months ago. May to be exact. My body did not change, no recent gains or losses in weight. But he suddenly lost interest in me. Then I discover that he has been pleasuring himself while viewing other women. What do I do? What would be a normal response? I have never felt so ugly in my life. Worse, I am tall and blonde and all of the women he is looking at are short and dark. I am heartbroken over this.

2007-08-25 18:55:43 · 26 answers · asked by Sherri S 2

2007-08-25 18:55:18 · 5 answers · asked by Saladmaster22 2

My twelve year old daughter has a fit where she usually ends up hysterical and crying. She gets frustrated, overwhelmed and loses control. She is an only child who is judgmental and lacks flexibility. She has an unhealthy conflict filled attachment to me & doesn't want to be involved in social group activities out of fear of embarrassment and laziness. Clothes are too tight or loose & she is a picky eater. She has severe but controlled allergies. She was a difficult infant but got worse around 4 yrs. OCD runs in the family. We see a counselor. Our home has no peace & quality of life is low. I want her happy & my husband and I need some peace. What could be wrong with her? How do we help her and keep our sanity?

2007-08-25 18:48:07 · 8 answers · asked by skinnynene 2

what are they looking for?
What they mean by relax and take it easy type of relationship?
(referring to the affair)

2007-08-25 18:47:48 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1

age? gender? why or why not ?

2007-08-25 18:36:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-25 18:34:46 · 13 answers · asked by fqr_41760 1

my wife and I are talking about getting a divorcce and i am just exploring the possibilities

2007-08-25 18:17:58 · 23 answers · asked by another guy 2

My wife and I are married 12yrs. We have 2 beautiful children, ages 3 & 7, but it drives me crazy that my wife won't sit down and talk about our "sex life" and what we can do to improve it. She says its non important and that's all I think about. I've tried to get her to go to counceling with me. I've tried (when the kids are in bed) getting her to watch Talk Sex with Sue Johanson on Sunday nights. We have friends (other couples) that talk about sex when together and even when we all get together. Every time the subject comes up, my wife says, "ok, lets' not discuss this right now.

2007-08-25 18:02:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married for 20 years and have always worked, even when the children were born. My husband decided to 'retire' four years ago, and has a hobby farm. I work long hours, nights and weekends, don't get to see my kids unless I stand by their beds at 2 in the morning while they are sleeping. On my day off I catch up with the housework, that is if I don't have to work overtime to pay the bills. I hate my job, and have had three other offers to jobs I would enjoy, but for less money. Not on, says my husband, 'we can't afford it'. My children are materialistic and selfish, who show me no respect, who talk/swear at me when I am home, who say they hate our family and that this just a place to eat and sleep. I want to leave, but will have to live in a hovel while still paying a mortgage on a farm I didn't want in the first place, and support three children who can't see when enough is enough. How do I pluck up the courage to go? Should I go? Can I turn this around?

2007-08-25 17:57:16 · 29 answers · asked by sare 1

my husband was a bread winner and we always arguing about money he always monitor our monthly expenses and he kept on asking me, although inspite of the fact that i made monthly budget and inform him always but still not convinced ,the fact that we have 4 children that are studying... i want to save but its not as big as what he expect. Is it normal to monitor?? i told him that just trust me since im doing my part well and all expenses are reasonable... I want him to trust me and believe me ...what am i going to do since our relationship are already affected ...??? right now i dont want to talk to him anymore as if that my feelings towards him was changed its because of our problem and we kept always on quarelling on that matter..Pls give me advice

2007-08-25 17:51:41 · 10 answers · asked by alwyn s 1

My 60 year old best friend married a 39 year old Vietnamese woman with 2 young daughters by a previous marriage. Now, a half-dozen years later, they have a very sour relationship at best. Their lives are complicated by her needing to stay with him until she gets her Green Card and by the fact that for financial reasons they must all live under the same roof. Also they are all quite stubborn. I see no hope or resolution to this mess. Is there anything I can do as a friend. I hate to see him, and them, suffer.

2007-08-25 17:44:29 · 11 answers · asked by Constant Reader 3