When will women get it?

Question

OK....when I decide to marry Im going to be my wifes best friend...Im going to come home from work ask her how her day was and really LISTEN to her answer!
Im going to help my wife out with things that stress her out like cleaning up after dinner so she can go relax....take her out and show her she's the only woman for me!
When we do get into arguments, Im going to listen to her side...not walk away and leave her wondering why Im upset...Im always going to tell her how much I love her...and shes the most important woman in my life..she will be treated like a queen.
Now why am I saying all of this?...Because I read these questions and I see so many women that settle for less......All of you women know what you want out of a man but yet u settle for less...I dont get it.....plz enlighten me!

Answer 1

AMEN!!! Tell it like it is, brother!

Answer 2

Oh come on. You hear only the bad parts but nothing good because when it is good, you have no reason to ask questions. There are a lot of people here who just answer the questions and don't ask any, most likely because they don't have such worries in their relationships. Also just because you read a few questions here, it doesn't mean that everything about their marriages/relationship is bad. And anyway, you are so naive. Wait until you get into the relationship or marriage. Things will turn out not the way you expected. Nothing is perfect. People are different, so no matter how much they love each other, there will always be something that they disagree about. And don't forget that women and men are the different species LOL, so they also sometimes don't get each other. I bet the disagreement over the dishes existed 100 years ago and will exist another 100 for sure. LOL

Answer 3

You are being naive. You think most women would be happy with a man that is everything they supposedly want with nothing to harp on? No they would ultimately think of you as a nice lap dog. It is in people's nature to focus on issues that bother them, if you really solve virtually all of them, then they will find something else or make things up - I'm not kidding. It will be things like going out to dinner with friends, and you were looking at the hot blond at the other table, or you got home 15 minutes later than normal and must be cheating on her. You'll find out that the real world is not like your envisioned ideal. But to go back to your original premise, yes, many women fall for dogs that aren't worthy of cleaning their toilets, and just as many men do the same. People get what they ask for, it's the way of the world. Women that want the bad boy, get just that, a low-life with all the high maintenance drama that they love.

Answer 4

Many decent women do get it. No matter how great a guy you are, there are always some women that enjoy being treated like dirt for some reason, go figure. Any woman that is secure in herself is looking for a man willing to treat her like a queen.

So don't get discouraged and don't settle for anything less than a woman who will appreciate all the good qualities.

Answer 5

I totally agree with you. Yet I see it on the opposite side because I am a single female. I see people marry for the wrong reasons and it really puts me off on relationships because I dont want to deal with all that drama. I am 34, single mom of a 17 year old son, a nurse, and have never been married because I am not going to 'settle' for just any guy. I want the real deal, not some soap opera to come home to everyday.
My problem is that I see guys who want a housekeeper and a cook who also happens to work 40 hours a week so that they dont have to work at all.....lol...if thats all thats out there, i say no thanks, I will just go it alone. Better to be alone and miserable than to be miserable with someone else....lol.
Still waiting for Prince Charming.... :o)

Answer 6

Ahhh, the perfect man. Yet, women out there don't want the perfect man. They say they do but then go after the "bad boys". The perfect man is just that...too perfect for the normal woman. My husband is exactly like you wrote about yourself. I am one of the few. In today's society, it isn't the Beaver Cleaver days of homemade pies and husband comes home with roses and kisses. Those days are too few. Today, you get the "bad boys" who get into trouble, curse at women, degrade them, etc. Perhaps it has alot to do with the upbringing, family and society of what is acceptable. In addition, it also has to do with the low self esteem in women who think that they are not worth having a great guy. They may think they want one but search for the bad boy image and end up with a frog instead of a prince.

Answer 7

Honey today was horrible the washing mashine stopped working I had to do every clothing by hand.The kids wont quit fighting. My dad just got drunk and hit on me.why are you late. Someone told me they saw you driving in the car with another woman.Can we just get sometime together without your friends. In a relashionship it's hard all these things plus more I live what would you do or say that would Help? To Marry is to live each others lifes, I really want to know whats less. [e-mail]

Answer 8

Well;I did treat my last wife like that.I told her she was the air that I breathed.I told her at least once a week how much she really meant to me.I would even ask her once in a while if there was anything she was unhappy about.I never smothered her.I always told her that I loved her each and every day.She kept me around for seven years and started screwing around with someone else.My heart exploded.
I'm married again but want allow myself to say or do those things again.I love my new wife but my heart has a partially closed door.You tell them what they want to hear and they thank you by shi=tting in your face.

Answer 9

Awwww....u sound really sweet.....deluded but sweet. You'll come home and ask her how her day was and she'll complain that you're talking and stopping her from getting dinner, or worse still that you don't earn enough to take her out for dinner, but then she'll have put on so much weight that she'll complain about not having anything to wear even if you took her out....blah blah blah....you'll become less, the less that women settle for, all despite your good intentions. women start out with good intentions too. i think it's called life...perfect is impossible...but I do think it's nice that you aspire to being perfect. hope you find someone deserving of you!

Answer 10

You must be an older man....it's the only thing I can surmise from your statements. Men who have been able to learn a thing or two from their relationships and who actually like women are going to make the same conclusions you have.

They settle for less because they don't have the self worth to wait for a man who will treat them like they truly deserve rather than what they think they deserve.

Personally, I blame the media. lol.

Answer 11

well first of all, you're not married. not that it's bad or anything but when you're married it's hard to be the perfect wife or husband every day all day. my hubby loves me more than anything and he does a lot of stuff to help me and our family, but he still gets tired and irritable. just remember that when women complain about their men it's just to vent and get other women's and men's advise. and also, just because their husband makes a mistake doesn't mean that he is a jerk and is always a jerk to her. there is obviously a reason why they're together and most of the time, you don't hear about the good stuff, only the bad.