honestly ladies is it possible for a 28 year old male with 2 kids to have a relationship?

Question

my wife and I are talking about getting a divorcce and i am just exploring the possibilities

Answer 1

I don't know what the reasons are that you and your wife are talking about divorce, but instead of exploring the possibilities of dating IF you get a divorce. You should be exploring the possibilities of going to a marriage counselor. By your question, it would appear as if you have already made up your mind and are just afraid to be on your own again. That is an immature attitude. There will be no possibility of a relationship (after the divorce) if you think that way. Women want a man who will fight for what is his. Not explore other opportunities when things are not going his way. Sorry, but you did ask.

Answer 2

I am sorry you might be going through a divorce :(

To be quite honest, these things always seem to turn out better for the Dad. Your wife will probably spend more time with the kids so you'll have more free time to pursue a relationship. Also, even though it's not really fair, girls seem to quite like guys with kids whereas a lot of guys find girls with kids a big turn off.

Honestly, I think you'll find someone no worries. Just give yourself lots of time to get over your wife and set up some sort of routine with the kids. Things will be too complicated if you start dating straight away. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sure it is! Good men are hard to come by & if I found one it wouldn't matter to me if he had kids or not. And as far as your age, you're plenty young enough! I found my second husband at almost 30 and I had 2 kids! He didn't have any & we ended up having 2 more! I'm assuming you've already tried to save your marriage? If you can't make it work & you do get a divorce my only advice would be to take it slow & make sure you don't make the new woman more important to you than your children. They will need you during this time & would resent you if you just "take off" & spend all your time with with another woman. Not that you would...I've just seen it happen before......Sorry you're going through a divorce! It's never easy! I hope the best for all of you!!!

Answer 4

It is hard, hard, hard like you wouldn't believe! Besides your issues, you have to deal with someone else's issues. You can only date every other weekend and you end up dating women who also have kids so you got to deal with their exes and their issues, and trust me, there's a reason why these ladies are divorced and then your kids fight with her kids. Your money goes to supporting your kids PLUS paying for an apartment for you. Dating is expensive, too, and it's usually a lot of dates before you get laid, whereas if you do a little housework your wife is probably going to give you some sex, especially if you sweetalk her a little and act like you did back in the day when you dated. Then, with a divorce, your kids blame you for leaving mom and they go out of control without you being there, so you're always being called into parent-teacher conferences. Later, your kids are more likely to divorce and make their kids unhappy, so the mess continues. The legal fees are unbelievable, too, especially if your wife decides to stick it to you, but even if not, the sharks take it all. It's a lot easier to stay married and you get to see your kids and feel their love every day. Work it out!

Answer 5

It's possible to have a relationship at any age, most of us have done it with 3 kids in tow or more. It takes time and patience, especially with children, after a divorce, to get them used to having parents who don't live with each other.

Never a good idea to rebound off the starting block, your children will need to know that even though their parents aren't together, it doesn't mean you will abandon them.

Children first and look at it this way, your soon to be ex wife is like a built in babysitter.

Answer 6

Kids are a chick magnet. You will have to be very careful who you date and don't let them meet the kids until you are very sure about having a relationship. No live ins until you are prepared to marry. But when they see you with kids, you become hot property! I didn't have my ring on one Saturday at the grocery store and I had my 3 kids with me. I was getting easy stuff to fix and breakfast food and the cashier gave me a great big smile and said "looks like you have the kids for the weekend!" I could tell she was thinking of something else but I told her the truth and she seemed very disappointed when I said my wife just didn't want to get out of bed to come with us. The kids wills will draw women.

Answer 7

Of course you can as long as your kids don't get in the way. You have to make sure that your ex doesn't try and sabotage any new relationships that you make. Hopefully you'll split up and have an understanding not to make the other parent look bad. I know that there are women out there who love kids and would love to have a big family. Good luck!

Answer 8

It is very possible for anyone to have a relationship. I know plenty of women that would love to settle down with an all around nice guy. Kids or no kids. Good men are hard to find these days!

Answer 9

Sure it is possible, but for god sake, you're not even divorced yet. Your question is a bit premature. You should take the energy you would use to find a new love to try to repair your marriage. This is worth the effort, especially with children involved.

Answer 10

Well my husband was 32 w/2 kids when I decided to date him. And being 25 with no kids it was hard but I still loved him and its working now. Just be patience with women who dont have kids. If we dont have kids its because we arent ready and dont want them yet.
Just remember we might want them someday so be prepared to have more or find a woman who doesnt.