Why is it so hard to adjsut after seperation from marriage?
2007-08-25 18:58:34 · 13 answers · asked by mariaaa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You get used to that persons presents. You get used to having that persons sounds in your bed. When you separate, you start to wonder if those voids are going to go unfilled.
It takes a while, but you get back to being you and stop being an us. And life keeps going on.
The biggest thing is to do something that makes you feel good. Keeping up your spirits and your emotions high, really helps you get through those days when all you want is someone to give you a hug and let you know that everything is going to be OK.
And you know what? It is going to be OK.
2007-08-25 19:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you've grown attached. Start a new life. Meaning move away from your old spouse. Make new friends. Go back to school. Get a new routine. Time doesn't heal all wounds, but it just make things easier to deal with. Good luck.
2007-08-26 02:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This separation is like a death, the death of your dreams, the death of your marriage. You have every right to mourn over what you thought would last the rest of your life. After you're through crying, get up, and do something with yourself. I know it sounds quick and harsh, but the sooner you get up, the sooner you will heal.
2007-08-26 02:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its not going to be easy for a while,I divorced alittle over a year ago and some things are still hard for me,like my child and job,makeing sure she gets off to school so i can work,but time will take and you will find out things will get better.
2007-08-26 13:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa (butterfly) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am divorced a month ago and i have a 6 months old baby ...it is very hard to adjust cuz it is not a normal situation but u will get used to it... my family is supporting me w hich makes it a bit easier but emotionally it is devastating to me i am looking for smne to take me out of all this chaos ..a good friend maybe will do u need a break to set up things...take care and wish u the best
2007-08-26 02:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by ghadoud2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well because you get used to teh other spouse to be there all the time and when there is a divorce a woman has a harder time to get over it because of how she was treated when they were married adn now just the opposite.
2007-08-26 02:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have to learn that you are safe and secure living on your own and if you choose not to have another male in your life, then things will be just fine. So start asking yourself what you want and set about giving yourself what you want.
2007-08-26 02:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the solitude of one's own thoughts is not enough to ease the mind.
You lived a life with another and now that is not there.
It may take some time to adjust to the "difference", but it will happen.
2007-08-26 02:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you are use to being with someone and all of a sudden you are alone. Might sound dumb, but get a dog.
Trust me it helps when you are lonely.
2007-08-26 02:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you married you became one. You are missing your other half.
2007-08-26 02:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋