Since we have talked and fought again and again, he agrees one minute to seperate and then blames me because he doesnt have a choice because I keep telling him its not working out. Now he is being silent and we dont spend any time together, he wont look at me, hardly talk to me and acts indefferent. If he really loved me wouldnt he be trying to show it atleast?
2007-08-25 19:10:14 · 3 answers · asked by mt4444 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the answers but no one read my previous story to know what is going on. As far as not knowing how to communicate is true on his part, not on mine as I have done all I can. He doesnt want to work on it only sais he does. No action just words, so please read my previous post and then answer. Thank you
2007-08-25 19:38:51 · update #1
If you keep telling him it's over I'm not sure why he'd be clamoring to prove that he cared about you. You are verbally rejecting him and he's physically rejecting you. If you want to reconcile, at all, then you need to change the language you are using with one another and see if there is any common ground to rebuild on. If there isn't any then separate and stop looking for a sign he still wants you. He's saying he wants you and it's not enough.
The only thing I will add is if therapy is totally out of the question what is it you are looking for in him to change? Despite the lovely movie epiphanies most humans don't spontaneously change for the better without some assistance. If he hasn't done anything in over a year then you should have been planning for your exit, saving money and looking for a job. You do not sound like you want to be with him anymore and he won't be able to tell you what it is you need to hear so just move on with your life.
2007-08-25 19:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't know how to show you. How about counselling for you at least? It may help you to understand how to talk to him. How about a letter to him that says how you need to be treated to feel loved! If he grew up in an abusive environment then he may never have been taught how to show love or caring. Try all of your options before giving up- unless abuse starts. It sounds like you want him to show you he loves you but he isn't doing it in a way you understand or accept as love.
2007-08-26 02:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you know how to communicate what it is you REALLY want. Makes me beleive that neither one of you are mature enough for a committed relationship. There is a lot of growing up needed here.
2007-08-26 02:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋