what are they looking for?
What they mean by relax and take it easy type of relationship?
(referring to the affair)
2007-08-25 18:47:48 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What if he say he is happy..
2007-08-25 18:56:25 · update #1
There's allot of possible answers to this question...none would sugar coat the affair! I've been married over 17 years, happy and not having any affairs. Relax and "take it easy relationship" means no strings attached, friends with benefits, no (and this is the big one) RESPONSIBILITY!
2007-08-25 19:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see many answers that make good since. I have never lived a perfect life when it came to relationships before I got married. And changing the way I was has not been easy. I know that in a realitionship it is to be "one man and one woman" . I know tha if he is an affair, he will have another.He will most likely say that he did not mean for it to happen, or it meant nothing to him, both of witch to him are true. It does not change the fact that the trust has been broken and may not be able to be restored. Why?................................... that answer is in how he feels about the realitionship. Some may say,"He's not happy", maybe not, maybe he is. He could be scared and go astray thinking that acting like he is single will make it better. He may see it as if it makes him feel wanted. He may even feel or think that he has a safe fall back in his life if he fails at stepping out, that he's married and will always have you there. But there is no right answer. No reason that can be given that should ever make it better. Forgiveness is up to you, change is up to him. One is no good without the other. Watch closely, keep an open mind to what is and is not there, and may God guide you.
2007-08-25 19:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by lostandfound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PAY ATTENTION! As a married man, I can tell you that no woman can fully satisfy a man. There will always be something that's missing, and it's usually sexual. Sex always slows down when you get married and men are sexual creatures. Women love the emotional part but men are strictly physical. The second a man isn't get sex as often, as creative or as explicit as he wants it, he's going to find a woman to give it to him in that way. That doesn't mean he wants to leave you, he can be perfectly happy with you but there's that one area where you can't fulfill him so he seeks out the person who can. Usually, the person he finds is in the same boat and they're content with filling their sexual void with each other and nothing more and that's what makes the affair last so long.
2007-08-25 19:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Looking4Answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an affair but have thought about it a few times and my reasons was looking for excitement and different. It seems like when we get married we all get into a routine and that's not good ! I really don't understand it myself ... But i try to spice things up and change the ways we have sex and it seems to work as long as we both are welling to try new things which myself am very open ... well hope this helps !! and good luck!!
2007-08-25 19:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tim w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did a married man ask you about having an affair? There is no happiness in a happy married man who goes out and seek an affair. That is the bottom line, lady! He is looking for extra sex on the side, that is what he looking for, what you got cover up between your legs. Don't you fall for that crap because you're only lower your own standard about relationship. Would you want another woman to accept your husband offer or turn him down? Believe me, you don't want to start an affair with him. You're only being used for sex only. Do you think he will leave his family for you? Think lady and using your brain and don't fall for his sorry game.
2007-08-25 19:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men think about sex all of the time.
Some men cheat for more sex, more understanding or just to feel like they can still attract women.
I don't think good and happy men would want an affair.
2007-08-25 18:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when a man has an affair he's not happy at home. Maybe she not giving him enjoy sex or somethign else. But for a man to wonder off and find someone else he would have to be un happy at home
2007-08-25 19:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The words selfish and greedy come to mind when it comes to married men who involve themselves in affairs. I mean, if they're happily married, why would they want to do this to their wives? There is that line in the marriage vows, to forsake ALL others.
When they say "relax and take it easy", they want you to be quiet about it, and don't make any noise, cuz that will only get them into trouble, which they don't want.
Married men who cheat are like rapists: they want their victims to be compliant and not attract attention. You do the opposite: MAKE NOISE, and lots of it. Keep saying no. Eventually, they will go away, and you will be stronger for it.
2007-08-25 19:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's NOT happily married, and if he says he is, he's lying. Kind of goes with the cheating.
Sounds like you are talking about an open marriage - where you can have sex with others instead of just your spouse. Not a good plan.
2007-08-26 01:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to say he is happy to confuse you. If he is happy and totally in love with you, why is he doing it? For the thrill, for the challenge for the fun. Because they don't love you enough to know that it will hurt you, because they care more about their satisfaction over your feelings. Because they feel they won't lose you inspite of it. They want it all. They are selfish.
2007-08-25 20:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋