Does it get boring having sex with the same person after a couple of years?

Question

I wonder whether couples are still attracted to each other after, say, five years and have sex all the time?

Answer 1

Nope. If she's hot and good in bed, it doesn't get old. Plus, if you are really serious about someone, the attraction should be more than just physical...and that doesn't usually get boring.
I've been with my girl for 11 years; She's a great women, smokin' hot, good in the sack and adventurous, and I love her to pieces...we have an awesome sex life! ;)

Answer 2

Could be hormonal, she might talk to her doctor. Also, you do realize that it needs to be more romantic for a women than for a man. A massage, draw her a bubble bath, flowers, romantic movie. She is probably exhausted from the kids, believe me, been there and done that! One thinks a stay at home wife raising kids is easy, it is not! I went back to work to get a break!! :) Take her away for the weekend, or have the kids stay at her parents or your parents to give her a break one evening. Maybe every other weekend for one night if possible. If not, maybe a trusted friend or sitter. I am betting it is mostly pure exhaustion from the kids, they wear you out physically and mentally. She probably needs some time to take care of herself, she may be in a better mood if she got some time for herself several times a week, even if for a couple hours. Tell her to go get her nails done, or just walk around browsing at the store while you keep the kids 1 or 2 times a week. It can work wonders! EDIT: Reading some of the other answers, trust me, when a women is so exhausted or even depressed and not into sex, the LAST thing she is doing is looking elsewhere. Those are statements from people who clearly do not understand a women. Also, don't look elsewhere, you have a good marriage, why ruin it by doing for another what you could do for her? You would have to somewhat court another anyway, why not invest in your wife! Like I said, she is just exhausted (which might depress her a bit and make her not feel beautiful either). Lighten the load. Make her feel like the greatest! Do it in love and sincerity!

Answer 3

We are both in our mid-forties and have been together for five years, two as domestic partners.

We enjoy our intimacy 5-6 times a week, for years and years now....

At this point, and we've just hit 5 years, we both seem to be getting tired.

I think we wore each other out.

But it's still there.

So, I guess this is the 5 year Slow Down and Catch Up part, where you only do it 4 times a week....

As far as being attracted goes: I love him madly, I know him better at this point in our relationship than I did in the past, I still adore him. He is not a perfect person. Neither am I. We're just perfect for each other.

Answer 4

Ive have observed that a lot of people (note both sexes indicated!) seem to be unable to build on the initial new relationship energy. Sure its great and you are so infatuated that you dont see all the obvious flaws/human frailties/irritating habits that we all have as people, but when that initial glow has worn off THATS when the real relationship building begins! You are only just starting to get really really comfortable with someone after a couple of years - why on earth if you cared about them would you get "bored" with them?! Oh and by the way its only boring is if YOU are boring - inject some romance and closeness into it and then learn to look at your partner and remember on a regular basis all the things that first attracted you to them in the very first place, and remember after a few years it isnt going to be fireworks every day, but you can sure have some memorable moments amongst the day to day routine!

Answer 5

This is not a simple yes or no question. No one but the two people who share the intimacy can answer this question honestly, and it will be different for each couple. So it solely depends on the people. Their needs, changes in their bodies, health, lifestyles, etc. As you can see there are many factors but whats boring for one, may not be for another. The couples have to make the adjustments and communicate with one another when they want something different so they can try to accomodate each other to avoid boredom. Sleeping with someone new will not solve the problem of boredom because the cycle will eventually repeat itself then we would all just run around like a bunch of wild rabbits.

Answer 6

If you have a good partner it can become fantastic. The longer and more you do it with the same partner and both of you learn how to have similar goals in the activity, it is great. If one or the other loses interest it just becomes boring and only quenches the sex drive somewhat.

Answer 7

I found in long relationships if your open with each other the sex is better. The best sex I had was out of a long relationship. When you have sex for the first time with someone you don't know thier turn ons and offs.

Answer 8

We have been together for two years but sex is great. It's nothing better than having sex with someone who knows your body so well without even mentioning love. You cannot even compare to sex without love :), although a few years ago I might have thought differently.

Answer 9

I'm still very attracted to my husband after 20 years. There have been different seasons in our sex lives. When the kids were babies, our sex life wasn't as often. The kids are older now and our sex life has been as often as when we were newlyweds. Communication as to what we each like and any fantasies we have has kept it hot.

Answer 10

If it is only based upon physical attraction, it will get boring no matter how hot she is, guaranteed!
It takes an emotional attraction to keep her interested and once a male matures, he will figure out that it takes the same for his interest to remain as well!