Marriage & Divorce - 25 August 2007

i need advise.a right decission..who is im gonna choose to marry?a guy who can gave me evrything nd can help to my family?or a guy that i love but hes not nothing i mean hes job is not enough for mo to support..1st guy is very good to me he gave what i want but my heart belongs to 2nd guy i dont understand my feelings..pls help me.tnx and godblees..

2007-08-25 17:37:32 · 15 answers · asked by mariecris 1

My husband and I have been married for about 3 years. He's gone a lot with his job and we've had our ups and downs like everyone else. However, last year during one of his business trips I called him and heard another woman answer the phone. After trying to call him back several times he didn't answer. During this same trip he called me drunk telling me that he wanted a divorce and thought we got married too young. Come the next day he acted like nothing happened. Since then things have just been different, I feel like I'm never really happy. He's only concerned with work and lately drinking a lot. Is it worth me staying or should I just get out while I'm still young and have the rest of my life to look forward to?

2007-08-25 17:34:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-25 17:30:32 · 16 answers · asked by bonnie_2u 1

I am married to an active-duty Marine. We've been together 2 years, married for almost a year. The past 6 months have been extremely rocky. Every 2-3 months we have a huge fight that brings us to the brink of divorce.

He rarely wants to go out together anymore, unless it's at HIS friend's place. He criticizes me all the time about my job and going to school. I feel like he tosses me aside while he's watching tv, or playing on the computer, until he wants sex or my attention. Has he lost respect for me because we're married, and he knows I can't just "dump" him and walk off whenever I want?

He doesn't allow me access to his bank account (which holds OUR money), and I have no idea how much is spent on what. I pay 50% of our bills, which takes up half my monthly earnings. He gets paid 4x more than what I earn monthly (I work part time and am attending college). He still criticizes me, saying I am not saving enough money, etc. Well how can I ?

2007-08-25 17:13:13 · 44 answers · asked by dreamin delux 3

I have been marrie for 11yrs. I know I have anger problems. I have offered to go to anger managment classes but she doesnt want me to. All she wants is the divorce. I love her and the kids so much. The kids dont want me to leave our home. She wants me to move out but she still wants to have sex with me. So what should a person do when this happens?

2007-08-25 16:55:07 · 19 answers · asked by rebel78410 1

I am 38 yrs old going on 39 yrs old and my husband is 37 yrs going on 38 yrs old. We have been married for 10 yrs happily and known each other since high school we met when we were ages 16 and 17 its a complicated story .This is my third hopefully final marriage and i have 7 kids 3 boys/4 girls who all live with me.My husband is the biological father of my 3 boys and my youngest daughter.I dont want to have to worry about pregnancy anymore but when i brought up a vasectomy?he said what if i want another child and looked offended?I dont get it he was fine with the idea of not having anymore kids till i brought up a vasectomy?

2007-08-25 16:34:47 · 31 answers · asked by Brianna P 1

2007-08-25 16:24:56 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my bf is 35, i'm 26. we've been together for 3 months. he seperated from his wife 2 years ago and the divorce is final in 2 months. the other day i got the "i'm not ready for a serious relationship" talk. i said that at my age i'm not casually dating, i'm looking for someone to spend my life with. at this point i think it's him (i didn't say that). he said he didn't want me to break up with him over it and it's not as big a deal as i made it. he definitely wants to keep dating. i told him to have enough respect for me not to date me if he knows he never wants to settle down again and he said thats not what he meant. should this be a big red flag for me? or should i just see what happens? any guys who can relate to his situation?

2007-08-25 15:31:26 · 18 answers · asked by Jax 3

2007-08-25 15:25:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-25 15:23:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just want to have clear information about my ex wife, (she left me for another guy for morethan 3 years and we dont legally divorce ). Is she still has right to claim that she's still my wife ?
I heard that she is having financial issues right now, and if I can get custody of my daughters ( 13 & 14 yo ) which I know she won't let me to have it, but am so concerned abt the kids, she lets my kids working to get extra income.

2007-08-25 15:21:09 · 7 answers · asked by lifeshort 1

I have a very stressful job that at the end of the day am so mentally and physically exchausted. But when i come home, at least twice a week, i make sure i hover, dust and keep the house clean and tidy. But my husband is not happy enuf with my efforts, instead, he makes comments about other places that hasn't been done! this evening i confronted him about it and reminded him how stressful my job is and that am doing my best. His reply was, if am not happy with his fussy nature and his needs to keep the house sparkling clean, I SHOULD LEAVE! am just gobsmarked, confused and can hardly believe he just said that. Please help, i need your comments about this as its eating me up! i can't sleep as you can see the time am posting this.

2007-08-25 15:14:56 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband told me he find me more attractive when I gained weight, I feel discusted by my weight gain, I was a size 2, weight about 110, now I'm size 5, weighing 120lb. I have a hard time believing men actually attract to fat. =)

2007-08-25 15:11:06 · 28 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5

ex was trying to stay in contact thur email and he has a girl friend. I told him do not email me again. He wanted the divorce, he got it. Leave me alone. Hardest thing I've ever had to do as I love him.

2007-08-25 14:36:48 · 32 answers · asked by stormy 1

My husband and I disagree. I have finished grad school, have a great job/career, no bills, beautiful car and we own a condo. He is finishing school shortly, starting a career, has a great car, two kids (previous marriage) and owns the condo, too.

He thinks I am "giving up" because I don't have any more major desires in life. He wants to get a house and go for more things, but, since we aren't having kids, I am happy and content and love our space and freedom.

Should I have more goals?

2007-08-25 14:18:18 · 22 answers · asked by Love2Laugh 1

2007-08-25 14:17:11 · 24 answers · asked by mnunez1709 3

I am at home during the day with our 9-month-old baby. However, I am a full time PhD student and I run my own business where I have to complete major projects from home. My husband gets home on a regular basis, sometimes as late as 10pm. When I speak to him about it (every evening) he does the same thing the next evening despite telling me he will be home earlier. I understand his job is very demanding but is he also a work-a-holic. My schoolwork and professional projects for my business and patience is suffering. In the evening I am juggling bathing, feeding, and putting the baby down, school work, & projects for the biz, cooking dinner, & simply sitting down to take a breath. How do I get him to understand where I am coming from aside from yelling every night when he comes home, failing a class, closing down the biz, or having a nervous breakdown and then saying I told you so?

2007-08-25 14:03:55 · 10 answers · asked by LemonDrops 1

I am at home during the day with our 9-month-old baby. However, I am a full time PhD student and I run my own business where I have to complete major projects from home. My husband gets home on a regular basis, sometimes as late as 10pm. When I speak to him about it (every evening) he does the same thing the next evening despite telling me he will be home earlier. I understand his job is very demanding but is he also a work-a-holic. My schoolwork and professional projects for my business and patience is suffering. In the evening I am juggling bathing, feeding, and putting the baby down, school work, & projects for the biz, cooking dinner, & simply sitting down to take a breath. How do I get him to understand where I am coming from aside from yelling every night when he comes home, failing a class, closing down the biz, or having a nervous breakdown and then saying I told you so?

2007-08-25 14:02:39 · 8 answers · asked by LemonDrops 1

I've been with my husband for 25yrs, married for 19yrs. I No longer find him attractive. When he turned 35 he started letting himself go. He has gained so much weight, it makes me sick to look at him. I purchased gym membership for him two years ago, prior to that I purchased a home gym set. I walk he has made little effort to do anything about his health. I have no interest in being with him. Should I feel bad about my feelings????

2007-08-25 13:49:01 · 46 answers · asked by wcomebackmorrow 1

I wanted to know if a divorce was public? For instance, I want to know if someone is really in the process of a divorce, is there a way I can get this information over the phone. Whether its final or not or even started for that matter?? I would like as much information as there is about it. Thanks!

2007-08-25 13:46:54 · 8 answers · asked by nwlover 1

my husband and i have been seperated for 5 months now i put a pfa on him but i was talked into from a friend then she later robbed my house she wanted my husband out we where haven problems so i was drinken pretty heavy last night and i went too see my husband he was djen at a club about 20 minutes from my house and a friend drove me there every time i get drunk which isnt too often i really think about my husband alot deeply so i went to see him he was shocked too see me , i went over to ask him how he was doen and he said drunk but he really wasnt i was anyway i took him outside and cried to him and told him how much i care about him and i do miss him and i think about him everyday he did kiss me twice and we hugged each other but he kept telling me i cant talk to someone who has a pfa on me but i told him the reason why i did it and he told me then that it made sense to him but he said he would be my friend if i got the pfa lifted, but he wants a divorce im so hurt now please help

2007-08-25 13:42:49 · 22 answers · asked by jewels 2

‪A case of good friends (for years) that fell in love (just this yr) - drama in and out, challenges, life situations (tragedy occured). After we were "together" for a bit, we decided to be friends but after the tragedy he pushed me away and rumors/assumptions, people's ideas are getting the best of us. the last we spoke, we misunderstood each other and we haven't talked in a month. I want to clarify things and reassure him and hope things are okay so i was planning on writing a letter.

out of NOWHERE, he randomly texted me w. "g.morning"...random...

does he miss me or just want attention?

2007-08-25 13:18:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay like ive said b4.My hubby comes back from Iraq in 2 monthes,but he is going through some insecurities,and he does like the fact that i go off base,and do ceerrtain things..He just wants me to stay home,and if i need anything then ican go to the store.I want to go to church,get involved in more activities to make time go faster,but he doesnt like it...what do i do,he is having major trust issues...what should i do!!!! im going insane......

2007-08-25 13:07:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend and her boyfriedn have been together for 10mnths and have been engaged for one. They got into two arguments one were he threw scissors and cut her leg open and another were he just hit her and choked her and the guy that was his friend told her if she needed someone to talk to so she talkd to him online that night and he told her that he liked her and she finally told him that she used to like him and she still kinda does, but then after that she said no I love my Fiance alot and I can't do that and then they got into another arguement and she was talking to his friend again and he said something about a kiss and she said yes, but some days later she said no to that cause she can't hurt her fiance like that so basically she stopped it, but kept talkin to him as a friend, because he needed help. The guy told her fiance that she was flirting with him and she didn't tell her fiance until a long time cause she didn't want to hurt him. No physical contact was made only talk.

2007-08-25 12:59:38 · 17 answers · asked by Rae 2

My fiance and I recently came across the subject of porn in a conversation. I know he went through a phase when he was younger where he was addicted to porn and probably masturbated quite frequently. He's had a very troubled childhood and has come out surprisingly well, so I don't consider this a big mark in his past. However I asked him if he still pleasures himself and watch porn, and he says occasionally, when he's at home. He's has been staying with me and my family for the past several weeks, and can always come see me so I don't see the need for him to do this. It bothered me a little that he does this because he have a very healthy sex life (he is my first partner) even though he have to keep it very private since no one in my family except for my older sister knows that I'm sexually active (religious background). Anyway, I asked him if he wouldn't do it anymore and he didn't seem to have a problem with agreeing. But men: was I wrong to ask him that? Is it important to you?

2007-08-25 12:58:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

After all he did, he doesnt deserve to be happy.

2007-08-25 12:38:13 · 16 answers · asked by kristy s 1

It's not like he drinks or cheats, etc.I have been in a marriage of 5 years and now sadly see how it dies away. I am surrounded by books about passive-agressive people, how to feel good, etc. I don't know how to talk to my husband any more as I've tried different ways with little success. The last time, perhaps, it was the wrong place to talk - the restaurant, so he gave out to me about it. Today he told me that we could eat out if it does not end up like the previous time - in other words, he wants me to keep my mouth shut about our issues. We've been to a counsellor, and he went for 6 sessions until he withdrew himself by saying that he did not like the woman and that a lot was about his issues. Tonight I will go to bed like 3 years before, knowing that intimacy has died between us (thanks God, because even the thought of it with him would make me panic now). It's hard to let go since it's not like it's about alcoholism, but more so about his sulking and emotional abuse.

2007-08-25 12:36:02 · 14 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3

my lawyer said it could be awhile before its final... i live by myself and have been going out and meeting lots of poeple . is it right to say i'm single now.... (((( i just want to get on with my life..))))

2007-08-25 12:18:53 · 28 answers · asked by michaelpz76 2

I quit a high pay job to be home with our child and my husband in turn took a high paying job and now supports us. I do work part time but don't make a lot of money. I wanted to take a break to spend time with child before she starts school. Now he seems to have attitude and acts as if I have to do what he says because he makes the money. He is stingy and keeps money in a personal savings while i scrape the joint account for grocery money. I supported us at one point too and NEVER acted like that. I plan on working full time again when our daughter goes to school full time. Why is he acting like this?

2007-08-25 12:08:51 · 23 answers · asked by Samantha 3

You never hear anyone calling a famous woman who has been another famous person's mistress a homewrecker. It's always only called to regular nonfamous people.

2007-08-25 10:55:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous