What do you think men? is he telling the truth?

Question

My husband told me he find me more attractive when I gained weight, I feel discusted by my weight gain, I was a size 2, weight about 110, now I'm size 5, weighing 120lb. I have a hard time believing men actually attract to fat. =)

Answer 1

Honey your not fat. 120 pounds is still thin. He likes curves. Stop worrying about your body, i'm sure you look fine. Contrary to popular belief most women don't need to lose weight, they just need to lose that defeatest attitude. He loves you for who you are.

Answer 2

HI...

Ok.. 1st.. you're not fat... A size 5 is still under the average women's size. Some men want a little "seat for the cushion". Some guys like the bottom area to have some meat on it. They don't want to feel like they are going to "break your bones" so to speak. If you said you were a size 22W, then I'd say you are fat.

Go to www.realage.com and check out your weight (BMI), height and age. See what it says. I was a size 8 and now after surgery and no job for awhile, I am a 10, and feel REAL FAT AND UGLY. So it you want, I'll trade with you! lol.....

You have to feel comfortable with your body. You should go to the DR and make sure you are healthy and everything is working well in your body. I'm not sure why you gained weight and in what time frame you did this.

You should spend some time with your husband and find out his desires and him yours. You will be surprised in what you hear from him. Set time aside every week just for hanging out and getting to know each other in a more intimate and deeper level. If you have to start looking at yourself in the mirror and see the beauty that your husband sees, then try it.


There are so many people out there that swear by "Date Night". You pick a day in every week to have your "date". You don't have to go out of the house every single time. If you have a great imagination, you can drum up all sorts of things to do.

Good luck to you! You lucky size 5 girl!

Answer 3

No he may not be lying to you at all. Some women look good with a little more meat on them. If he really loves you he will not care that much and find you beautiful no matter what. I had a major crush on this little Korean girl I know. She got married and had a baby and did not lose the weight for about 4 years. I thought she was just as beautiful as she was when she was thin. She looks like an angel to me either way. Some women gain more in their boob and butt than in their stomachs so you maybe one of those lucky girls who do. He may think it give you more curves with a little weight. I still don't think you sound fat at all you are like 5'8 right you still have a very good body I am willing to bet money on it! :)

Answer 4

He married you, he loves you. So why do you have a hard time believing him that he finds you attractive? He isn't so shallow that since you have put of only a few pounds,that he will love you any less. Some women can be TO thin!! And a few pounds difference can help fill them out and make them more attractive to their man. Do i think he is telling you the truth? Yes !!! So if you are secure in your love for him, and you know that he loves you. Then what is your problem? I don't really see one. As long as the two of you love each other,then you have everything that you will ever need !! I hope this has helped you and I wish you the best !!

Answer 5

different people are attracted to different body styles. i would NOT get caught up in what the media says is attractive, since it seems to be abnormally skinny. i have never been as small as size 2 or 110 pounds and my husband is still attracted to me after 15 years. there are nice curves and femininity that can surface with a little extra weight, and that is not being attracted to fat, it is being attracted to you. take him at his word and enjoy feeling even more loved.

Answer 6

He is telling the truth. Many men, if not most, like a woman with some curves. At 120 lbs you are not FAT in the slightest sense. But probably have larger hips and breasts. That is, after all, what makes women different from men, and not in a bad way.

Answer 7

Either you are kidding or have an eating disorder.

I am glad that you respected your husband's wishes enough to gain a little weight. I'll bet you look a lot better. A size 5 is not fat. You just feel fat.

Answer 8

If I remember right, you are pregnant. Is the weight gain because of this? Almost all women feel insecure about their attractiveness when they get bigger because they are pregnant.

When you are pregnant, your estrogen level is high and this can also cause you to worry more. It sounds like your husband is trying to reassure you that you are still attractive to him. Please try to give your husband a break. It sounds as if he loves you.

My best wishes for you in your marriage and with your pregnancy.

Answer 9

Agree with the guys above. He's telling you that he doesn't buy the anorectic beauty image that magazines are trying to sell us, that he likes his woman curvy. A reason you can believe: This means he doesn't have to have a ripped flat six-pack either. He's telling you that he values things beyond your body: your mind, your personality, your goodness. Congratulations on having moved past the body-image trap our society puts out for people. Consider him as having extended you permission NOT to agonize over your body every waking minute, and take him up on it. (By the way, give him some special treat in bed to seal this new dimension to your love.) Good luck!

Answer 10

yes he is actually being honest with you, when you were thinner, he probably didn't want to say anything, but now being 120 is normal and you're probably a very beautiful person. So count your blessings and be happy...being a size 2 is for young girls still in elementary school and haven't matured yet. I met you have so again, count your blessings. You have a husband whose honest...