why do they say don't go to bed angry?

Answer 1

because if something happened and one of you passed away during the night i would not want the last memory of my loved one to be a fight or an ugly word.

Answer 2

Because if you go to bed angry you will wake up angry and it will continue into the next day, etc. Or what if you woke up and your partner died during the night? The last thing you would remember is that you fought and went to bed angry...kind of morbid...but it could happen. You don't ever want to take that risk do you?
At least work things out to a point where there is no anger...before going to bed.
Always say I love you and kiss goodnight. You don't have to totally end the discussion before going to bed, but at least get past the anger. Put it on hold and get over the anger before retiring for the night.
be cool...

Answer 3

When you go to bed with things unsaid, each party starts to dwell on the situation.

Ever noticed that when you don't communicate, you start making some assumptions about what they are thinking and then often what you think they meant is not that way at all?

Then, people get busy and these issues fester and often are repressed and then you don't get the issues resolved. If enough issues accumulate, the two of you can get to the point where a relationship is broken due to all of the unresolvable issues.

I think, though that sometimes you cannot resolve an issue right away. In that caes, it may be better to say to the person, I need some time to cool down and then can we talk about it later? Then make sure you make the time to talk when the two of you can be calm.

Answer 4

Well, I for one, can't sleep at all if I'm angry. I also never leave someone angry at them. A girl that lived around the corner from me was fighting with her mother one day, and she left. She took off in her car, got to the end of the road, ended up pulling out in front of a dump truck, and was instantly killed. Her mother, to this day, hasn't gotten over letting her daughter leave angry.
You never know what could happen. Never leave a situation unresolved. Do whatever you can to resolve it, even if it means letting go of something. You'll live a happier, more fulfilling life if you do so.
I have found that sometimes when I get angry about something, its really not that thing that's gotten me angry. It's something else that happened, that made this thing worse than it really was, though at the time, I felt really strongly about it.

Answer 5

You need to resolve the argument. When you delay, it takes on new meanings and intensifies.

When you have a relationship, it needs to be respected and fed. When you have an argument, it is an up turning of the soil. If it is done right, a lot can be set straight by it. This allows the roots of the relationship to breath and grow. Whe you go to bed angry you harbor resentment and stifle the growth - and could cause it to regress instead of progress.

You can try to agree to discuss it in the morning. State your love and kiss and go to bed. But, I personally have not had much success with that.

Answer 6

because you don't want to lie there sleepless, stewing about an argument you're having. Far better to resolve it, then go to sleep, and put the clean slate of a new day in front of you. You've had the experience where you go to sleep without resolving an argument, then you wake up the next morning, stretch, smile, reach out for her -- and then you remember "oh hell, we're still fighting." You don't want that. That's why they say don't go to bed angry. Oh, also, if you resolve your fights at night you can have morning sex, which is a good reason too. Good luck.

Answer 7

Never Go To Sleep Angry

Answer 8

Because a woman came up with that saying. Most men with a pair will tell you that if you stay up arguing, little--if anything--will be resolved in a late night argument. If you go to bed, though, you will have time to settle down, and use calm rationale to work things out, instead of boiling emotions. Just understand...men and women argue for different reasons, in different manners. The book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is a really good read, especially for its insights into the differences between how men and women think (in general).

Answer 9

Because resentment builds, things get blown out of proportion and no one likes to go to bed feeling angry and rejected.

Sometimes, when thing are over heated, going to bed and working on solving the problem is the best thing you can do. They mean don't harbor resentments. Handle problems and solutions as they come along.

Answer 10

You should never go to bed angry. All it does is make you have a restless night and you will carry the hurt and anger to the next day until it's resolved.

Answer 11

Cuz you will stay up all night staring at the ceiling thinking of different ways to kill your husband in his sleep. And by the time you fall asleep the alarm clock is waking you up for work. And everyone will feel the affects of you going to bed angry!