I have been marrie for 11yrs. I know I have anger problems. I have offered to go to anger managment classes but she doesnt want me to. All she wants is the divorce. I love her and the kids so much. The kids dont want me to leave our home. She wants me to move out but she still wants to have sex with me. So what should a person do when this happens?
2007-08-25 16:55:07 · 19 answers · asked by rebel78410 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you go to anger management classes and walk the talk buddy.......win her over by changing yourself....
2007-08-25 16:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A. She is divorcing you
B. You offered but did not bother to go to anger counseling
C. You say you love her and the kids.
D. You offered to take anger management counseling but
did not do it and you blame her for you not going.
E. She is divorcing you
F. You say you love her..but it seems it is possible she
does not believe you love her and the kids enough to just
do what must be done.
G. You say you love them and you offered to take anger
management counseling but you never bothered to go.
H. She is divorcing you.
Is any of this making sense? Look in the mirror and consider just how important your being able to get mad whenever you feel like it and blaming it on others.. is going to matter when she has divorced you and you don't live with her and the kids you say with your mouth that you love?
Sorry. To me it looks like she loves you..but you just say you love them when you really think getting angry means more to you. Is it clear yet?
2007-08-26 00:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by jokerthefreak1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...well, if she still wants to have sex with you, it means that she is not sure about what she really wants...maybe she is tired about the way you act, but she likes to stay with you in some way. I think if you give her the divorce she will shake because if she doesnt know what she wants, maybe she will regret about it in the future.....I am sorry to hear that you have kids and love your family and you still have your wife asking you to leave your home....Go to the anger management classes just to help yourself and the ones who love you and if she keeps insisting about the divorce,,respect her decision and move on with your life, because if you stay your life and her will become a hell.....try to talk to her and be brave to decide what is better for everybody in your family at the moment.
2007-08-26 00:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Laurasearching 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm married and I have an anger problems about two years ago I did something I'm not proud of. The point I want to get across to you is " When your angry think of your kids and how sad they would be if you were not around". The things that you value (kids) should be your priority; there is no time to be angry life is too short to be angry. I hope your wife gives you a second chance.
Judge not and you shall not be judged, condemn not , and you shall not be condemned, forgive and you shall be forgiven. Luke 6:37
2007-08-26 03:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't even know what she wants. Even though she doesn't want you to, you should attend anger management. When and if it comes time for a divorce it will make you look good. That way she can't say that you refuse to get treatment or wont go. You should try talking to her and ask her if she wants to go to couples therapy together. If she doesn't, you should still go to anger management. If you really don't want to try these options then yeah....give her the divorce. Sorry you have to go through this! Good luck!
2007-08-26 00:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should do what you feel is right for you. Make yourself a "pro" and "con" list.
If you feel you do have an anger problem and you want help, then you must on you own make the decision to attend anger management classes.
If you want to divorce her, understand that there is children involved and your wife could make things difficult for you.
Please think it over and do all for your self.\\
God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-08-26 00:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it all depends on what your anger issues are and how far you have let them interfere in your relationsip with her and your children. She is still clinging to the physical part of your relationship regarding her still wanteing to have sex with you. But if she is asking for a divorce and wants you to move out she has already left you emotionally. My ex husband was verbally abusive and I asked him to leave in December but constantly asked him back for sex for the next three months until I found that i didn't need him for anything anymore and i moved on. I am sorry to hear of your troubles but it is time to let her go. She has already left you emotionally.
2007-08-26 00:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by derricksmomma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been there. Trust me, your anger is a poor companion. Fixing it will make everything better whether or not your wife sticks with you. Most people don't try to make serious changes to themselves and resolve their weaknesses.
As for the sex------make her hand you c bill for your stud services. Good luck man. I hope it all works out for you and your family.
2007-08-26 10:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Wild Ape 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants a divorce, then give her one, and don't have sex with her anymore. And go to anger management class anyway.
2007-08-26 00:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did your anger problem just develop this year?
OR Has she had to cope with this problem for years and years? It's so convenient when a spouse is ALL ready to take care of a problem when the marriage is over.
Where was all this love for her and the kids while they were enduring your outbursts?
Quit whining... you did this to yourself.
2007-08-26 00:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abc gave a great answer. If you are for real, you will go to anger management classes whether you stay with her or not. 1: like abc said, it might win her back
2: Even if you don't stay with her, you need to work out your problems for your kids sake, for your sake, and the sake of anyone else who ever tries to love you.
Good luck
P.S. There's no shame-we're all working on stuff.
2007-08-26 00:02:56 · answer #11 · answered by OK 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋