My friend and her boyfriedn have been together for 10mnths and have been engaged for one. They got into two arguments one were he threw scissors and cut her leg open and another were he just hit her and choked her and the guy that was his friend told her if she needed someone to talk to so she talkd to him online that night and he told her that he liked her and she finally told him that she used to like him and she still kinda does, but then after that she said no I love my Fiance alot and I can't do that and then they got into another arguement and she was talking to his friend again and he said something about a kiss and she said yes, but some days later she said no to that cause she can't hurt her fiance like that so basically she stopped it, but kept talkin to him as a friend, because he needed help. The guy told her fiance that she was flirting with him and she didn't tell her fiance until a long time cause she didn't want to hurt him. No physical contact was made only talk.
2007-08-25 12:59:38 · 17 answers · asked by Rae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think if no physical contact was made and they were just talking then i wouldn't consider it cheating. she was just talking to someone b/c she needs emotional support. and also, i really think she should leave her fiance. nobody should stay w/ someone who hits them.
2007-08-25 13:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by michele d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, First of all your friend needs to get away from her fiance. HE IS ABUSIVE and it will only get worse..trust me. She should not worry about hurting him because he has hurt her hasn't he? Sounds to me like her fiances friend wants to be there for her, and if thats what she needs to get away from mr. ****** then she should go for it, as long as she realizes it's a rebound guy and doesn't try to jump into another long term thing right away. I hope she calls the police if he hurts her again, because then she will have documented evidence of abuse and can get a restraining order. She will probably need it. I'm curious as to why you talk of the abuse as if it were no big deal. Cheating on this douchebag is the LEAST of her worries. Sure, the scissors "only" cut her leg, but what if they had hit her femoral artery, or her stomach? or her heart? She needs to wake up, and maybe so do you if all you're worried about is whether she's cheating on a man who has tried to kill her!
2007-08-25 14:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That whole situation is crazy. Love isn't suppose to hurt like that. being choked basically stabbed and abused is not love. Why marry into abuse when you can make a scotch free exit stage left. I love deeply as well but if my husband ever did that I would have him arrested asap. His friend liked her and was hurt when she turned him down. Men are often very childish and inscure which is why he went to tell and flipped the story. My advice is leave the fiance. Men will lead you to believe that no one will want you but them but once confidence is restored and acceptance is reached then a good person will come into play. Hurt me once shame on you hurt me twice shame on me.
2007-08-25 17:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by TELO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl really needs to leave her fiance. What kind of person would choke and basically stab someone they suppose to love?
as for the friend, no she was not cheating, the friend is taking advantage of her emotionally tho and she needs to get away from him.
some time alone will do her good, she will be able to see how things really are by looking at them from afar.
2007-08-25 14:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like your friend is in a kind of abusive relationship and this is why she may be leaning towards a man friend, now this is some type of cheating but if the boyfriend keep behaving violent your friend should find comfort else where as this is a definite NO NO to do to a Violent man, if he finds out anything is going on between her and one of his friend or anybody else she could get really hurt... good luck to your friend advice her to leave this man at once.
2007-08-25 13:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't hit, choke, cut him. What do you mean, he "just" hit her??? Are you serious? Who cares if it is cheating! Break it off with both of the idiots and don't get married for at least ten years, or when you finish college and have a brain in your head--whichever is sooner. God. They sound like two four year olds. Run and stop the drama or call Jerry Springer. Good grief.
2007-08-25 13:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a friend, help your friend get out of this abusive relatiship before she is seriously injured or killed. If he is this abusive before marriage, I'm sure it will get much worse after marriage. This guy needs anger control classes. If his friend told him that his girlfriend was flirting and he knows about his friend's anger problem, I wouldn't be hanging with him either. They both sound like bums.
She needs to find someone that she can have a functional relationship with and leave this relationship before she gets really hurt.
2007-08-25 13:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it called cheating? Well, yeah, among other things. The whole situation you just described should rather be called "drama" and "bullsh*t". Who gives a rats a** about the cheating bit?? Does anyone else find it odd that a bigger deal hasn't been made about the physical violence?
2007-08-25 14:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend and her fiance` need some serious professional help.
Cheating does not mean talking....it means being affectionate and involved with someone else.
2007-08-25 13:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cut her, hit her, choked her, then that's not a good fiance. i think u should tell your friend that if he keeps that up then they won't be getting married. i would NOT stick around for a guy like that. NEVER!!!! and theres nothing wrong with talking.
2007-08-25 13:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Princess LovAngel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋