Honestly; How many men cheat?

Question

Badly burned before.. I think now that all men are cheating pigs... Even in my current relationship, I can never trust him.. I can never fully trust a man again in my life.

Answer 1

Hi Creepy, I am 42, never strayed, have only been cheated on by one person. I'd have to say the number is well over half, and yes, women cheat too. But there really are many men who want a committed situation. I've been lucky, and have good instincts. You cannot take this insecurity into new relationships, don't get involved until you come to terms with being able to trust. Anyone worthy of your love deserves your trust, you won't really be in much of a relationship if trust isn't there.

Answer 2

Behavioral research tells us that over 80% of all coupled partners either have cheated or were cheated on. That means it's both the men and the women.

It's not a new phenomenon nor will it go away anytime soon. It's just the way people are. (now prepared to hear "no people aren't, people never cheat... lalalala) It's reality, plain and simple.

Interesting too is the statistical incidence of non-paternity event. It nears 30% -- that's a lot. A non-paternity event is when he thinks he's the daddy - but he's not. Even though it's not cave-days, women are still selectively breeding.

Answer 3

Women do not trust men for good reason. It is part a man's biological and psychological makeup to be with many partners. It goes back to the days of cavemen when a man went out and spread his seed as far as he could to propagate the population. A couple thousand years after the church took over the human race, we all have been brainwashed to believe that men can and should be monogamous. Bullcrap.

I was in the same spot as you - twice - and now, as a more mature single woman I see how I too bought into this fallacy. Now I realize that we as women need to get over the silly fantasies of having a man all to ourselves. Can I make a suggestion? Give your new man permission right up front to be with someone else if he desires. Within reason, of course. If he's going out humping every girl he meets, that's bad.

But chances are, in the course of your relationship, he will meet someone he wants to have sex with. And if you say to him in the beginning that it's okay with you as long as he uses protection, you are going to be far better off. Otherwise, he will do it behind your back and you will have your heart broken again.

Men are cheaters. Bottom line. Either he does it with your permission or without it. Your choice.

Answer 4

Alright, I'm going straight to my point...

Have you ever noticed before a cat sits down it usually goes in a small circle a time or two?

This is because cats back then would do this to lower the grass when the sit down, so it didn't stick up in their face...

Same as men... back then men married and had sex with many women... It is pretty much a fact that men like variety. A man wants to get his bragging rights by claiming how many women he has had. This isn't to just talk crap on men.. women cheat too, but usually for different reasons. My husband has told me he wouldn't start getting tempted to cheat until I hadn't had sex with him for a month or so.. If a man goes out to cheat on his woman because they "only" have sex twice a week, shouldn't be in a relationship... This person can't be satisfied by one person because he wants sex so much.

Women in the "old days" were only with one man, and one man only. which would explain why we think that way today. Women cheat, but usually in the case that they are unhappy in their relationship and just think "what the hell, doesn't matter, my relationship is going nowhere".. Women have a strong need for affection and love, while men just want to "get straight to the sex" Some women cheat because the man is this way, wants no foreplay, just wants to start sticking her right then. I will be honest, I HATE the word "foreplay".. The word foreplay leads you to believe its the actions you do before the playing starts. "foreplay" is playing. I can tell you I don't trust men worth a ****, and probably never will. I understand how they think, and I just don't approve of it.


I know if some skanky slut walks by, he noticed her, and probably checked her out and thought "ahh, id **** it"... Once we were driving somewhere, and some girl was jogging on the side of the road.. he had the nerve to turn his head towards my way to look at her, so of course, I saw it... does he not have common sense? ... Then there was a time a whole bunch of guys were outside with their shirts off, hanging out.. my husband said "let me guess, you'd want to have sex with them", and I said "to be honest, sex never even crossed my mind, I just thought 'what the heck are they doing'" And that's true. I know how men think, I hate men, and I probably don't even trust my own husband... even though he claims the last 7 years, I'm the only woman he has had.

Answer 5

That's pretty sad. There are a lot of brokenhearted men who have been burned just as severely as you. Would you like it if the man who claims to love you didnt trust you? Would you cheat on him? There are both men and women who have the same moral standing as you. Taking the hurt of a previous relationship into a new one is pretty unfair to the new man. He has done nothing wrong, yet you are judging him to be the same man who hurt you. Is that really fair? Maybe you need to heal properly first before taking your baggage into another relationship. While I do understand the hurt you feel (I've been there), I refuse to tar every man with the brush of infidelity because it just isnt true....not all men are the same.

Answer 6

Behavioral learn tells us that over 80% of all coupled companions the two have cheated or have been cheated on. which skill it incredibly is the two the adult adult males and the girls people. it is not a clean phenomenon nor will it circulate away every time quickly. it incredibly is only the way everybody is. (now arranged to pay attention "no people are not, people under no circumstances cheat... lalalala) it incredibly is certainty, undeniable and easy. interesting too is the statistical occurrence of non-paternity experience. It nears 30% -- this is plenty. A non-paternity experience is while he thinks he's the father - yet he's no longer. whether it is not cave-days, women everybody continues to be selectively breeding.

Answer 7

Just as many women cheat as do men, surely. For example, my cousin never cheated on any woman, whether it was his wife or, later on, girlfriends. However, that wife became the ex-wife because of her cheating, and after he was divorced, an otherwise-wonderful girlfriend surreptitiously cheated with her old boyfriend while in the process of scouting out more boys to be used for their toys. I've known many friends who cheated on their husbands or boyfriends, whether it's via going on "solo vacations" or just afternoon "visits to the library."

Are women cheating dogs? As a general rule, I think not, but it's up to the woman. And modern women, at least in western countries, are, in my experience, "on the prowl" at least as much as are men.

But the problem can be made far worse by making an idol out of someone and worshipping that idol...people are people, and they "cheat" because they want or need something they're not getting, and instead of trying to get it from their significant other (maybe they can't supply it, or they tried to get this until being exhausted), they seek it elsewhere. Is this right or wrong? Neither, it just IS reality, no matter how we label it.

Some people will cheat at the drop of temptation's hat, while others will stay within the bounds of the relationship longer, in varying degrees, until "pushed too far," and there are others will never cheat, ever.

People should be seen for who they are, and not fitted into some pre-existing pattern we have for what a partner should or shouldn't be.

That said, if you have absolutes as to what you need in a person (no cheating, certain looks, good job, whatever), maybe it's best to either re-examine these requirements and/or start off with multiple people, in the pursuit of friendship, and if it never gets past that, so be it. In time, it's obvious as to who will be right for you.

Sometimes life sends us the very things that we fear the most, because within those things are lessons for us to learn, if we are to progress spiritually. This doesn't make it any easier, I know, personally. Otherwise I wouldn't have written so much here...

Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Some guys cheat, because they are wired that way and like a variety of partners. I myself cheated after she left me in europe. The relationship was dying after 15 years, so I looked for someone else. Still with that person 3 years later. I am generally monogamous

Answer 9

I think a lot has to do with how you feel about yourself. I'm 38 and have been around the block once maybe twice. Have only been cheated on once and it was a horrible time in my life. It was also at a time when I felt the most insecure about myself. If our attitudes are contagious then is yours worth catching? if it's not then yes he will probably cheat.

Answer 10

I'm actually a sex worker and most of the men that come to our parlour have partners. Sometimes I ask them why and the common reasons I get is "I love my wife but she isn't interested in sex anymore", or they don't get enough sex or sometimes they want someone different. Men are programmed very differently to women. After being in this industry I know I won't be able to trust a man but I will trust that I will be ok if he lets me down. I'm more accepting of things now and I guess that prevents you from getting hurt. I hope I have been helpful.