My 60 year old best friend married a 39 year old Vietnamese woman with 2 young daughters by a previous marriage. Now, a half-dozen years later, they have a very sour relationship at best. Their lives are complicated by her needing to stay with him until she gets her Green Card and by the fact that for financial reasons they must all live under the same roof. Also they are all quite stubborn. I see no hope or resolution to this mess. Is there anything I can do as a friend. I hate to see him, and them, suffer.
2007-08-25 17:44:29 · 11 answers · asked by Constant Reader 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay out of their business
Support your friend, but he is a grown man
Be there for him but they have to work it out (or not) all by themselves
2007-08-25 17:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Navyexwife 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry to hear about your friend. Having a Filipina wife myself and knowing a lot of people in mixed marriages, it seems that more often than not, they work out ok, even if they are what is know as "mail order marriage" where the people met each other through an international introduction agency.
However, marriages of all types turn sour sometimes, and in mixed marriages, sometimes the woman is more interested in the money than the man and it can end in tradegy. Any marriage breakdown is traumatic, but it's really up to your friend to decide what he's going to do about it. There is very little you can do except to encourage him to talk about his problems. Perhaps they could try a trial separation, they may decide they both really want to be together and change their ways.
2007-08-27 04:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ben O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women from Vietnam and the Philippines are scamming guys all over the country. For exactly that reason, coming here to get citizenship and they marry only to divorce when they get what they want citizenship, including anything they can get from the divorce. They also fool men into sending money to them by telling them how poor they are and they take money for cyber sex over the Internet. They don't care if the guy is married or not, they just care if they can get money, or citizenship out of them. They will say and do anything to get what they want. They are disgusting. They sit in their Internet cafes in their own countries and go on the Internet and look for men, especially older men they can entice with their young nasty selves.
Not anything you can do. It was his very bad mistake. He got fooled. Bummer. Only thing you can say is he is not alone, not by a long shot. Men and wives should be made aware that this is going on right now, on many a computer screen.
2007-08-25 18:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
till a criminal professional informed you which you ought to document for separation first in the past divorce - the guy who informed you such lies is stupid. you are able to document for divorce as we talk given the situations. Get a medical certificates of the abuse if its seen. in line with those records, i'm specific you will break up as rapid as you are able to order a huge Mac. If he refuses to grant you a divorce, you are able to consistently use the medical documents of the abuse as grounds to get him detention center time. With a good criminal professional, and sufficient guts, he would be sorry he even messed with you.
2017-01-05 09:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to each of them individually and tell them that you want to help but you know that it's none of your business. I would just suggest that they go to a counsellor. It's definitely better to let a professional help a very messy situation so you don't get caught in the middle. I wish your friends luck!
2007-08-25 18:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have to stay with her. If their marriage is over he should leave. You can help him by being there for him. Listen to him when he needs to talk. Tell him what a good person he is and that life goes on, no matter what. Invite him out to eat or to a movie to help him get his mind off his problems. You are a good friend. He is lucky to have you.
2007-08-25 17:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not much you can do. They shouldn't be fighting in front of the kids at all. The kids did nothing wrong. That situation really stinks for everyone involved.
2007-08-25 17:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A green card by marrige can be obtained after only two years of marrige. Only one of you in this lame triangle seems to know what she's doing.
What a couple of Barneys'.........................
2007-08-25 17:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Stay out of it, don't butt in, don't get involved. If you do, you will regret it for the rest of your days.
2007-08-25 17:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is paying the price for his stupidity.
2007-08-25 17:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋