i thought i got over the guy but when i saw a picture of him kissing his new BEAUTIFUL wife, i felt my insides burn and my heart shatter...i haven't seen him for a year and a half...what does this mean? i love my husband, i really do...i know this makes me sound so bad...i just don't know what to think...i don't understand what i'm feeling
2007-08-22 16:48:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A little jealousy is normal! I mean you did have a crush on this person for 5 years. Thats a long time. But the thing is, it was just a crush. If you never dated him you don't know the real him. You can picture him as perfect because you don't know his flaws. And just because you are jealous doesn't mean you actually want to be with him. Your husband is obviously an amazing guy because you married him. The best part about it, is that he loves you back. Don't worry about this old crush. If you really love your husband than he will make even your longest crush seem silly close up. Just think of how lucky you are to have what you have.... I'm sure there are people out there jealous of your marriage too.
2007-08-22 16:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him! There is a reason you married YOUR MAN!
Be happy for your old flame. After all you were never bf/gf right?! In feeling this way, it almost sounds as if you jumped into your marraige before you had dating out of your system. I do however have an occassional thought or two about the past and wonder what if?! But if you cant get over these feelings you have, then it will just put uneeded stress in your marraige. Start being thankful for what you have and put ALL your energy uinto your hubby! Those "feeling" will subside!
2007-08-22 23:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by tpettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen what is wrong with you are married and your old boy friend got married and you feel a burning in your heart. You havent seen him for a year. You love your husband right maybe you never got over him, but shake it off you are married and now he si married, Best of luck
2007-08-22 23:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really mean anything. It tells you that at one time you cared. It is normal to have these kinds of feelings. A divorced person whose spouse remarries feels the same way even if they are the one that wanted the divorce. Don't worry about it. Just hug your husband a bit tighter and be glad for what you have.
2007-08-22 23:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you get nice answers because when I ask questions like this people are so mean.
Maybe you are just brought back with memories when you saw his photo. I am sure you love your husband and the ex is just a part of your past.
2007-08-23 00:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by AskMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may mean that you need to add some excitement to your marriage. Plan a short trip together, plan a candlelight dinner and soft music to put some romance back into your marriage. This guy is happily married and so are you, so it is an impossible dream you are dreaming. Time to wake up, dear.
2007-08-23 00:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing the photo just reminded you of the feelings of hurt, longing etc from that time. you are in a different time now so these things need not bother you. you can't go back there. just live each day for your husband and make the most of now. you can't change the past but you can change the now.
2007-08-22 23:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Gruntled Employee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really got over him....and there was no closure for you. Now that he is married...you have that closure. Go hug and love on your husband. He is the only one that you need to be concerned with.
2007-08-22 23:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were not fully over him. Maybe you never had "closure" or was it a bit of jealousy? This happened to me once I think its happened to many women just forget about it and keep enjoying your life
2007-08-22 23:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means you are obsessed get over him your married and if you are harboring feelings for someone else...... then you may not love your hubby as much as you think You need to take a step back and examine your relationship, I have learned one thing no matter how much you think you love some one if your heart pines for someone else..... your not as in love as you claim
2007-08-22 23:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by ohiomandi26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋