Need advice about a certain person in my husbands life?

Question

This girl that my husband has grown up with is very disrespectful towards me.She expects my husband yo be her night and shining armor when she needs help.She also makes alot of inapporiate comments to my husband.And if i say anything about how um its not apporiate with me she just doesnt get it and keeps up i swear i just want to knock her one.So the question is,Does any woman out ther have a female problem with their husbands ?and what the hell can you do about it?

Yea funny thing my husband is a whimp when it comes to this matter ,his parents make him feel real bad when he doesnt talk to this girl ,they all consider her family and like she has said she is consider family more then i ever will be .So there for my husband is keeping his parents happy by talking to her ,but i do limit it and i actually get rid of anything if she calls but even more messed up she became close friends with my husband friend so he lets him no this ***** does stuff like this just to get on my nerves i think.

Wow i didnt know asking questions meant you had problems regardless of the questions nobody has the right to be judging someone esspecially since no one on here knows all about me these questions are for the hell of it so thanks lauren for being so blunt oh yea i really needed that and by the way im sure your the young immature one cause im far from that .

Answer 1

Knock her one.
THEN give him one.
If he hasn't the sense god gave a turnip to stand around while this twitch (bad spelling) pulls this with his wife, he NEEDS a swift kick.

Answer 2

Girl you have issues, I just read all the other questions you have posted when I looked at your profile and I have determined you are either staying in this relationship because you think you can't get anyone else or you are just over-jealous and not trusting. Either way, all of your questions have to do about your husband, cheating, or doing something that makes you angry, and you use yahoo answers to verify your preminitions. I am guessing you are young or very immature, I am sorry to be blunt but you need to either get out of your current circumstance and be the adult, or you need to stop being a crazy jealous wife. Marriage is all about trust and you don't seem to trust your husband at all. My advise to you is learn to trust if he really isn't doing anything wrong or leave because you deserve better, bet yet do both! You have been asking these questions for longer than a year, I think you already know your answer but are too scared to do something about it. Good Luck in what you do but , life is short, don't sit around in a bad situation when you can make it better!

Answer 3

It's a problem between you and her - it has nothing whatsoever to do with your husband.
When you can handle this problem on your own, it will be fine. But don't expect there to be some kind of justice involving your husband. She could do the same thing if the third person was your pet dog. Or your hairdresser.
Try to be the confident, self-assured person and stop acting so 'threatened' by her manner. Jerks will be jerks and she's acting like a jerk. Wait until something distracts her like a real relationship she can devote all her time to and then sit back and watch all the drama.

Answer 4

In the name of goodness do not harm that girl. You will get yourself into more trouble, and you would of play directly into her evil hands. My suggestion may seem far fetch, but if you try it, it just may work. Please don't use this idea if you have not yet spoken in truth with your husband. You should spend time with him at dinner explaining your concerns.

Sometimes the best way to show people their fault is to throw it back to him. Do you have male friend who you known for many years? Maybe if you do the same thing with this trusted male friend. Just have him do the same thing as well, and you could even have a relative to do it.

This will show your husband how it feels to be put down by an old friend or relative, by making inappropriate comments or remarks at him. Once your husband shows his disapproval and then the lesson has been taught.

I mostly hope that you and your husband can sit and reason this problem first. I wish you good luck, because you don't deserve this treatment. God bless

Answer 5

Are you crazy? The time to put that ***** in her place is long overdue, no woman or man should come before or between the two of you. I don't know what the hell is wrong his parents either so what she was a child hood friend. He is now a grown married man. I would invite her *** over and tell her plainly leave my f------ husband alone, no call, texts, emails, no inappropriate or suggestive comments. By the time she got off the floor she would understand me very clearly.

Answer 6

You need to be stern with your husband about how you feel about this person. You should also let his parents know that this behavior is not acceptable and that this girl needs to find someone else to lean on when the going gets tough. If your husband has a problem letting go of this girl then you should think twice about his true feelings for you. If the parents don't accept your feelings so be it, they will get over it.

Answer 7

Girl, knock her the f*** up! yeah and when you finish her do him for being a p****! Doesn't he know how much it bothers you? I mean come on, is he blind or something? Wife goes first above all! Im not married but if i had a situation like that ill go crazy. And then his parents must not like you since they are making your husband feel bad everytime he don't talk to her. He got to choose you or her? Good luck and i hope you have a good arm for that punch!

Answer 8

OK, you're married to a wuss. So what do you want to do
about him now? Surely, you know what you have to do to
stop this triangle? She feels she has a hold on your husband,
just because she's been friends with him for years? And she's
treated like family? What's wrong with his mother? Her son is
married now, for goodness sake. He can't have anymore
female friends. Or clinging ones, anyway. Looks like you have
to insist he make the break kiddo. It's you or her. Forget
about his mom. She apparently wants you to take a back
seat to the 'girl friend'. She needs a swift in the you know what herself. She makes no bones that she's stirring the pot and keeps her son in a state of some confusion.
Well you have to take him by the horns now,and tell him he
can't be friends with her anymore. That her clinging ways
will have to stop as of now. She will just have to find another
'boy friend' and leave your husband alone since he's married. Don't let him sway back and forth between the two of you. I
can't believe his mom is encouraging the womans' actions.
It's apparent, that she doesn't hold you in high regard as
far as respecting you, one iota. Well you could insist you move far away from his family and the woman/girl. That would remove the temptation to want to talk to her or his mom and
once he's removed, there will be less trauma.
I had to live in the shadow of my husbands ex. His mom
let me know early on she was such a sweet girl and this and
that. And she'd even drag out the old wedding pix. Uuugghh!
And I was a good sport about it. But seething inside. She
wasn't hiding her intentions and she conveniently forgot that
this sweet girl had left my husband for another guy she'd met
at a bar/club when my husband was on the road working. I
just went with the flow, and considered the source. But I'll tell
you, I was never so glad when his parents passed away. It
took all those years of pressure away.
As I mentioned on another blog, I had to give my husband
an ultimatum. He had to choose between my MIL and me
and his two kids, or I was going to walk. Our youngest was
only two weeks old at the time. He didn't like to have to make
the choice, but he did reluctantly. And she never forgave me. l had her son, and she was jelous. And he was now a man
in my eyes. Who knows, maybe in hers too.
Consider moving away from his family, who is too controlling, and maybe keep a state away. His mom will have
a hard time keeping him tied to her, if she's not close by. And
as for the girl friend, let her still be considered family. You both don't have to be around family at all. She'll find someone
to take his place sooner or later and get on with her life. It's
time the two of them, plus mom, grew up!

Answer 9

You need to give it to her straight. Let her know she can save the disrespect for someone else, cause you don't want it. If she can't respect you, then she clearly doesn't respect your husband either cause the truth is, you and him are one now so what affects you should affect him too. Also have a talk with your hsband, informing him of the fact tht you don't appreciate her attitude cause it's negatively impacting you.

Don't let her get to you though cause that's what she may want as aminition to use against u so be careful, tacful, firm and discreet.

Answer 10

First of all...boldly let her know that you will not be disrespected by her rude comments any longer. Be prepare to offer her examples of her poor judgement in relating to you and make sure to focus on her behavior and not her as an individual.

Secondly, what's up with your husband...he needs to defend you to her and give her clear and precise expectation of what will be tolerated.

Friendships may not last forever...some are for a season or a reason. Her reason and/or season may have ended.

Peace and Good Luck!!!

Answer 11

Print out these answers you've received and have him read it. If your husband is STILL a whimp, which any "real man" would totally hate being called a whimp as many times as your husband has been, and doesn't shape up and take care of his lover first. Then he is truly a whimp and do what ya gotta do!
P.S. LOVED the crotch grabbing comment!!!