is this something that is innocent or should i be worried about this? i discovered that he made a listing on a site for himself sometime ago. i confronted him and he said, he never did had any contact with anyone and it was a time in our relationship when he felt very alone and it the listing was made after a fight. I think he is on the edge of having a sex addiction. just a feeling in my gut. anyways the original listing was in 2005 and now i'm discovering visits in his internet history again. what do i think? We seem close sexually and emotionally. probably never enough sex for him though.
2007-08-22 14:08:03 · 20 answers · asked by gkgecs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're joking, right?
It doesn't matter if nobody responded to his ad - just HAVING the ad is enough to say "I WANT OUT!!!"
If he DOES have a "sex addiction" (which sounds like an excuse he made up to rationalize his actions) - then tell him to go to some PORN sites. DATING sites are for people looking for RELATIONSHIPS (even if they are merely "intimate" relationships)!
The only "relief" he is going to find there is SOMEBODY TO CHEAT ON YOU WITH!!
I would confront him, and ask him WHY he has ANY NEED to be even LOOKING at dating sites... Does he not find you attractive anymore? Is he bored in the bedroom?
These are the sort of tough questions you will have to ask - and then you will have to decide on where to go from there. There is always the option of councelling - or kicking his @$$ to the curb if he keeps this sh*t up ;);););)
2007-08-22 14:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a troubling matter thats for sure. Many Married men use dating sites online to meet women. Most of the men do not do this unless they are ready to cheat. I would try and get his password into the site and see who's profiles he has been looking at and see if he is having any email correspondence with any women. That should tell you what you need to know. If he has been chatting with other women then its a safe bet he has cheated or is trying too.
Im really sorry for you. Maybe its time to sit down and have the talk with him.
2007-08-22 14:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i have had the same problem w/my husband. yes, be worried. my hubby says it's all a game even though i tell him it hurts me. myspace is different than a dating site!!!! especially when your hubby's profile says something like: looking for fun, someone to play with. My sex life is great and i have tried everything to spice it up, he's looking for something else and a healthy marriage is not it. just because he may not have had contact with anyone yet still does not make it right. i found out my hubby had chatted up several women, had cybersex, said he didn't remeber cuz he was drunk,we had a big fight and talked, then i found this dating site after all that. needless to say i left and he still won't admit he did anything wrong. be worried, try to talk first,but if it doesn't stop you have some hard decisions to make
2007-08-26 00:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be disrespectful, but if you have to ask "is this something that is innocent or should i be worried', you have got some kind of disconnect with reality. A married man visiting online dating sites, what do you think?
2007-08-22 14:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut. It has already given you the answer.
No matter what excuse is given, it's disrespectful to a "close" relationship. Why would you date someone online, if your marriage is happy? He may not have committed the act of adultery...but he is certainly putting the links in the chain. It sounds like he may have committed "emotional" adultery already. Nothing good can come of it if he continues. If he can't stop...that is all the more reason he needs help or you need out.
Be safe.
2007-08-22 14:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by pookeylou2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is visiting online dating sites, you have every right to be concerned. There is absolutely no reason that your hubby should be on a site like that!!
2007-08-22 14:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be worried. He is doing something behind your back and that is enough to know something is wrong. Even if he did nothing on this dating site, the thought still came across or he would have never posted on it in the first place. If he is being unfaithful on the Internet, where else is he being unfaithful in your marriage. I would discuss this now before it gets out of hand. Best of luck to you.
2007-08-22 14:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by lisadaisy165 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you of my experience with those. My husband had a profile set up on 2 of those site. He had an affair. Not from someone he met online, she was a coworker. But from my experience, he is looking for something he is not getting from you. He might find it from the internet, or she might live right down the road from you, either way, he is looking. You need to sit him down and talk to him about ASAP.
2007-08-22 14:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't cheated already, then he will do so if let him continue acting this way!!
Just don't blame yourself for HIS straying - he is the one ready to throw everything away just to get a little piece of tail on the side...
2007-08-22 15:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Canuck 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would be worried. there is no reason that a married man should be visiting a dating site, for any reason! tell him to stop.
2007-08-22 14:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋