My husband is wanting a divorce. I do not want a divorce. Can I stop him from divorcing me?
2007-08-22 15:16:59 · 37 answers · asked by Frieda G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you can prolong it, and not sign the papers. If it comes to that. But honestly you legally cant stop a divorce, you can make it harder, but he's only going to want to divorce you more.
The best thing to do, is talk to him, figure out things, see if he likes someone else, find out everything you can, an approach each issue, you may change your mind about the divorce. Personally i think two people should try as hard as they can before deciding on divorce.
Ask him what he wants/wanted from the relationship, as if his needs are being met, and what he expected from you, me sure to make sure you tell him what you expected, once you see eye to eye, you'll have a clearer picture. there may be things you just aren't seeing.
It may just be him, it may be a midlife crisis, it could be he wants something more from life, or maybe just wants to be alone. Offer trying to give him more space, give him less responsibilities, You may be overwhelming him as a person... if you're not, maybe he's just not mature enough to be in a relationship such as marriage, or parent hood either.
talking is the best way, if that doesn't work, attempt going to group sessions or to a therapist, they see past what you dont want to see, or dont want to accept, and vise versa.
Be open, and be 100 % honest, throw the pride right out the window, pride causes arguments, and arguments causes rifts in marriage.
Good luck with everything, *hugs*
2007-08-22 15:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by anjui63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, most states have 'no-fault' divorce. If yours doesn't your husband will probably just go to the closest one that does. You had better stop daydreaming, and look towards protecting your property. Many men, and women, whose spouses try and prevent the divorce, end up getting away with most of the property-because they planned for it. Don't let this happen to you. It's not what you want-but it is what you need. That goes double or triple if you have kids. See a lawyer as soon as possible.
2007-08-22 15:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Levone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he filed? A lot of times they play a game where they leave and say they want a divorce, but never file.
Yes, you can contest the divorce, for all the good it will do.
Actually, if he hasn't filed, you should go ahead and beat him to the punch by filling out and filing all the papers.
Gather all financial statements of any sort to enclose so you will get half of all assets accrued within the marriage... that includes house, car, 401K, savings, stocks and whatever else... along with half of the debt. You can also get spousal support for at least a short amount of time, depending on your state's laws.
2007-08-22 15:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He can get one whether you want one or not.
All states have different laws on divorce, but you can't really stop it, I don't think. At least not in Florida.
Honestly though, if he wants one, let him have it. If he's gone to such a drastic measure to end your marriage, you don't want him anyway. Find someone who deserves you. You're better than him.
I will tell you that I've been in a similar situation. I left because of a bad argument, he filed, and I still dated, slept with, and hung out with him. Nothing changed. The minute I cut the cord and moved on (or pretended to) he was right back with me, asked me to move back in, the divorce was cancelled, he changed to Mr. Perfect, and we are now happily married.
Don't let him walk on you. Don't grovel, don't beg. Tell him what you want, be firm, and walk away. If he chooses to come back, then wonderful. If not, he's a waste of your time.
2007-08-22 15:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by KaitsMommy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can refuse to sign the papers but the only thing you are really doing is prolonging it. The divorce will take awhile longer than usual but it will happen regardless if you want it to or not. I understand that you do not want a divorce but why would you want to stay with someone that does not want to stay with you?
2007-08-22 15:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't stop him from filing, but depending on what state you're from, you can drag out the divorce for a number of years.
2007-08-22 15:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lawyers get rich. Im sure its hard to make yourself but I would give him the divorce. Or her in my case. Do you think you would be happier staying with a man that you know doesnt want you? Find you a decent guy that makes you laugh. Youll get over it faster than you think.
2007-08-22 15:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Funnel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger question is, why wouldn't you want one if he doesn't want to stay married to you? Do you think you can force him to be happy by not granting the divorce? Eventually, the courts will side in his favor, if all you are doing is prolonging the process.
2007-08-22 15:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling & see if that helps. If not, then get the divorce. You don't want to be with a man who doesn't want to be with you.
2007-08-22 15:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force someone to stay married to you. If you keep resisting, he can sue you for divorce and make it a very unpleasant thing. Just go ahead and agree. Why would you want to stay with someone who does not want you?
2007-08-22 15:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Bones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋