Everything about me bothers my husband, why doesn't he leave me?

Question

...he commented on so many things that he doesn't like about me, from my head to my toe! and things I do. Why does he stick around?
What's his problem?

Answer 1

honestly i don't have a clue but you should not accept the verbal/mental abuse. have confidence and speak up.

Answer 2

This man has insecurites and is bringing you down with him. He may not even realize it. Even if you pointed out the facts he's not happy and either are you. Sounds like he's not interested in you and may be comparing you to women he desires. Not that he has cheated but sometimes men enter a fantasy world just because one woman finds him attractive. That be YOU. How long have you two been married? Any kids? If he doesn't like the things you do you need to move on. Plain and simple. But not really. Peeling away at what's bothering him?...is it worth it?...don't you have a clue?...have you changed in appearance since your first month of marriage? You may have to make a point and get things changed for the better of your marriage...your a person that deserves better.

Answer 3

Since you seem to be concerned then he must have some valid points, or he has beat you down to where you believe him. Look the situation over. Evaluate them and see it he is right to criticize you. If he is then try to change , if not then you have to realize that you have your self worth. You did not go into detail on the comments , is he a truly fit guy that watches out for his health , weight , and keeps neat and clean and wants you to do the same or maybe the opposite and he needs to feel better about himself. Do you love him enough to continue to endure this or take action about the complaints. There is just alto unsaid here, I think marriage is for better or worse, however , abuse is far beyond worse , so you are in no way expected to take abuse from anybody. My heart goes out to you and I'm sorry that I can't give more information just too little to work with. Good luck to you

Answer 4

Theory 1: Sadly, this is how some guys act when they've found "something better." They feel guilty about it, and look for reasons to validate what they're doing. That usually comes in the form of picking fights and being overly critical. In short, he may be cheating on you (please note, I said MAY.)

Theory 2: He's not cheating on you, but doesn't want to be the one to call it quits. So, he's pushing YOU, hoping that you do the dirty work.

Theory 3: He's being a jerk. (Actually, I would have preferred to use the P word that ends in a nickname for Richard.) Some guys are like that. It can happen for no reason whatsoever, or for some reason that has nothing to do with you (he's having trouble at work, can't deal with it there, and is abusing you to let off steam.)

Answer 5

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly seven years and he does(did) exactly what your husband does, not so much about the way I look but the small things I do and my personality. Well I have just recently broken up with him. I told him that he had finally convinced me that obviously I am not what he wants in a women and to get lost! A lot more to the story but I won't bore you. I would tell him that you are done! Believe me it won't get any better! You deserve someone who truly loves you for you, why should you take that kind of abuse, who does he think he is. Good Luck. By the way I am 40yrs old and have 4 children, so don't be scared to kick him out, you can do it!

Answer 6

For him to point out these problems on a daily bases says that maybe he's unhappy with maybe himself and he's picking on u because Ur the closes thing for him to pick on

Because I'm sure there are things about him that bothers u, but because Ur married u either deal with it because thats part of being married( u said so in the marriage vows)

If he's having issues with things about u it's one thing for him 2 mention them so u can work it out, but it sounds like he's saying it to be hurtful

In that case u should ask him whatsup with him hurting u the way he does without giving any thought that it may hurt Ur feelings?

Good Luck

He owes u an apology

Answer 7

It is funny how some things that I say or do he shows me he doesn' t like it then in front of other people he uses my idea . You know the one he made me feel like an idiot for. he has absolutely no time for me but time to go fishing with the neibors wife and kids when I go to work.
I am in the somewhat same situation and it is one of those things that start playing mind games with you and then you start feeling like you can't trust anyone because in front of everyone you don't want to make your relationship look bad and he can probably fake out anyone. Once you feel like if you did talk to people about it some how you would look like the bad guy again. If he is always making comments to hurt your feelingthen he must be loving it when your sad.
that is not right and He is the one who is wrong. My hubby starts to sing and play withthe kids when I am hurt (by Him) and then says demeaning things in front of them too.
Why - Why- why- do we put up with it????
1- kids
2- they make more money (usually) and paying for the bills by ourselves seems like (because you are beaten all the time) next to imposible.
3-You still know that you love him and forgive him.
Ever want to have a vent session, you can email me.
Take care and know that you are not alone.

Answer 8

I provide u proud for end drinkin and drug that solid..properly ask him so what am i able to do tht does not or won't hardship u? and that i think of he's fustrate cuz he's domicile all day and because he does not have no longer something to do he attempting to make ur existence living hell and sound like he's somewhat a administration freak wacth out...fo tht

Answer 9

the question you should be asking is why do stick around. this man does not love you. he has no respect for you or your feelings. he has beat your self esteem down so much that your believe what he is telling you. look you are a beautiful lady and you deserve better than this self absorb LOSER. you need to pick yourself up and step to him and ask him if you are such a bad person and he doesnt like anything about you why is he still with you. than you need to leave and rethink things to see why you would want to be with this type of man. he means you no good. you can do better. GodBless

Answer 10

wether he's doing it to help you improve you or otherwise, if it's not doing it in a lovingly way then that's bad...we can point out people's faults (well, what we think is wrong!!) in a polite & considerate way becos we all have faults & none are perfect...
if you fel he doesn't love you, then why don't you talk to him & say, if u keep picking on me like this , I'd like to know why & also if u don't love me then that's a different matter also..

PS. next time he does that, say sth about him that he does & also say, why don't you look at yourself first & improve urself instead of fault-finding with others?

I am also abit like that but it is only my irritability & I know it's a very bad thing to do & I'm doing my best to change myself. It's very unloving...

Answer 11

He sticks around because he thinks that if he points out your flaws then you'll change. Talk to him and let him know that you don't appreciate the comments because you are not perfect and if he wanted someone perfect then he should never have gotten married.