After 6 months of marriage my husband doesn't want to wear his wedding ring any more. Should I be concerned?

Question

Before we were married, he agreed to wear a ring, but said he would take it off when he was working on the cars or in the yard, etc. I asked him to pick out his own ring so that I would be sure he liked it and that it was comfortable. For the first six months he would wear it all the time - except when doing the things listed above. Then at six months he stopped wearing it - except occassionally when I asked him to. I've explained to him how it is very upsetting to me - that the ring is a symbol of our vows and that he should be proud to show everyone he is married (and married to me). Now, he's stopped wearing it full stop, even though I've told him numerous times it upsets me. I make jokes that if he doesn't want to wear the ring I'll just have to tattoo his finger when he is asleep. He doesn't wear any other jewellery - just a watch occassionally.

Answer 1

First I would ask him for his reason for not wanting to wear his wedding ring. There is a possibility that it may be for safety concerns. If he works as a cook or chef, as a mechanic, or works in construction, these are legitimate professions where wearing jewelry in general, can create safety hazzards. Another reason I would find acceptable is the fit of the ring. For lack of a better description, I at times get a claustrophobic feeling when my hands are swollen and my wedding band is very tight. Getting it sized larger is not a solution either because it opens the door for losing it more easily. I personally cannot find a reason other than the ones I've already mentioned to explain why he chooses not to wear it. Then again, I can think of another reason but it would not be one that would make you feel very secure in your marriage. He may feel that he is trapped when wearing his wedding band and that he may be feeling less attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex if they were aware that he was married. It may even boil down to something harmless. There are a lot of men whom are married but yet really enjoy flirting. (The same can be said for women.)For men, flirting is hampered when they wear a symbol that clearly states to the rest of the world that they are taken. Women flirt comfortably with or without a ring on because they will wear their wedding ring even if they are divorced, widowed, or seperated, simply to give the impression to those they are not interested in that they are not available. I'm hoping that this is the case. If you feel that you have a strong marriage and it is a known fact that your husband can be a flirt, ask him to perhaps wear it on a chain around his neck. I hope I've given you some insight. Good luck.

Answer 2

It's certainly worth discussing. Without being suspicious or accusatory, tell him how it makes you feel when he doesn't wear the ring and ask him to be honest about why he doesn't wear it. How he reacts will tell you volumes.

1) If he is calm and forthright about what the reason is, he's probably being honest.
2) If he is tight lipped, unresponsive, or makes some flip remark or is sarcastic, he's probably hiding the real reason, but may just be uncomfortable with confrontation. However, this is suspicious behavior.
3) If he is angry, tells you to mind your own business, or acts like a little boy who has been caught with his hand in the cookie jar, you may have a problem.

Six months isn't a lot of time to have developed strong communication skills between you. So, be patient and unruffled by a reaction that you might be suspicious of. However, you need to be honest with him about how his not wearing the wedding ring makes you feel. The reason he doesn't wear it is secondary to how he reacts to your feelings about the matter.

Answer 3

hi every human being has his own nature. ur question include the answer in it, just flip the question u got the answer you said in your question that:- He doesn't wear any other jewellery - just a watch occassionally.hope u are satisfied with ur answer. And a ring cannot be the symbol of love in a marriage, and love is shown by eyes. and woman have the quality to read the eyes of others.her child, husband or any person who are touched with her.
when u make a family lots of other important problems are there . with your husband and with u too. little little things create tention and little little things create happiness.so its your choice what u are going to choose and this thing also depend on your husband, your family and in laws.Marriage is not a matter of six months or one year.u know what i mean.Don't think about the immaterial things. You have to take many important decision.You are a woman. The home minister of your family. if the important minister is confused than who will run the goverment of your home. think in this way u will satisfied.
reply me who much u agree with my answer, if u want to discuss more on this topic than please get in touch by mail or chat.
good luck for your future.

Answer 4

Rings are not really fitted for everyone, but I do question why after 6 months he made his decision. The rings symbolizes unity between man and woman married under the blessing from God. Perhaps if you explain the marriage more deeply to him-unity of vows and the love for one another. If he feels uncomfortable wearing his ring, perhaps he would consider wearing as a necklace. You know more of your husband. Ask him should you be concerned? but avoid for over reacting. I am sure he has nothing but straight love for you. God bless

Answer 5

1. Why doesn't he want to wear the ring, and 2. Is there anything else that makes you concerned?

He simply might not like wearing rings; some guys are like that. Does it interfere with his work? My husband works with electronics, so he couldn't wear his ring even if he wanted to.

P.S. If he wanted to "play the field", don't you think he would be less obvious about it? Is he a moron?

My ex-husband always wore his ring, but that didn't stop him from leaving for another woman. I think you're jumping to conclusions here. Chill.

Answer 6

It can depend on what sort of job he is in too, as wedding rings can become very dangerous in the work place. Quite a few people have lost fingers because of wedding rings. If this doesn't apply then I would start being abit concerned.

Answer 7

I have been married for about 6 years and i never have worn my ring since the day i put it on for the actual wedding. Do i do it because i dont love my wife NO i love her very very much and the reason is for me i cant. i work on heavy equipment and i would get my finger crushed with a ring on. it would be like a clamp on my finger. i cant speak for all men but i definitly dont wear it because i dont love her. its because i cant.

Answer 8

Ask him why he's not wearing the ring as opposed to asking him to wear the ring. Some people don't like to wear jewelry because it irritates their skin or they don't like the feeling. Some people who work with their hands, like mechanics, don't like to get their jewelry dirty. If he gives you a crappy reason why he's not wearing the ring, then start getting concerned.

Answer 9

I would be concerned but I don't know your husband!!! Does he have a reason for not wearing it? Like, is he allergic to the metal? Does he wear any other jewelry? Does he work with his hands a lot at work and he is concerned about loosing it? We need more information!!

Answer 10

Yes, that sounds odd to me. What exactly does he say the reason is that he doesn't want to wear it? The wedding band is a symbol of the promises and love you guys share and I would think it should be considered important, especially after only 6 months of marriage.

Again, what is his excuse for not wearing it?