Marriage & Divorce - 22 August 2007

In the last year my husband stop telling me things that important in our daily lives. We have been married for 34 years. I hate I have to ask him about everything. He always says he is going to tell me but he never does. I have waited for him to tell me about things for 3 days. When is it going to stop.

2007-08-22 05:17:18 · 14 answers · asked by Pepper1black 2

In a divorce, if the husband was allways the one to pay for the house, water, electricity etc... while the mother took care of the children, can the courts make the ex husband pay for the house so that the ex wife and children can stay, if he was the one who made the money?

2007-08-22 05:09:32 · 12 answers · asked by l 2

My fiancee's ex keeps calling our house phone. My phone company can't do anything about it because she's a "private caller" now. The police won't do anything about it - been there done that. (Last time I got a warrant for assualt and before they arrested her they told her to get a cross warrant for me - and I got arrested for a lie) So, I don't have many options. I have a daughter and she means more to me than fighting with anyone. I would really like to ignore it as much as possible. I was wondering if anyone knew of any really good and annoying messages that I could put on my answering machine so that I can ignore her and get my point across at the same time. I'm hoping that when she realizes that we aren't answering the phone anymore she will give up.

2007-08-22 04:59:33 · 14 answers · asked by AngieWings 2

My husband is a lovely man and we have been married for 8 years with 4 children. I am 10 years younger than him and have always kept myself fit and looking good for him. He treats me very well, is attentive and tells me I am beautiful. The problem is I am very paranoid about him looking at other women. He knows that I hate porn and has promised me that he won't look at it and that he is not interested in it now. This is fine but whenever he has to go away on business which is about 3 times a year I get really paranoid that he watches movies in his hotel room. Every time I ask him he says he doesn't, but I just can't help but wonder. He rings twice a day to speak to me and tells me he loves me but I just can't stop thinking about what he is doing while he is alone. What if he wants to look at other women or read magazines. We have a wonderful life but these concerns just spoil it. He says I have to chill out and that he loves me but I hate that he could look at other women like this

2007-08-22 04:54:40 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

A woman posted a question in which she said that her husband had cheated on her and that he now expects her to get over it and not mention it. I suggested that she perhaps should get a bit on the side and see how he likes it. It makes me curious, though. How do cheaters normally react when the tables are turned on them? Do any of them realize that they deserve to get cheated on?

2007-08-22 04:51:10 · 16 answers · asked by tangerine 7

2007-08-22 04:43:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's friend ask him for 5 thousand dollars to buy his car, I just think it's a bad idea to lend that much money to a friend, even though he promise to give it back. What if he won't pay back, the man has poor credit. Also it will ruin the friendship in the process- when we ask him for the money. My husband think otherwise. am I correct?

2007-08-22 04:33:09 · 23 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5

What can i do to a persons house/car thats not to harsh but just enough to get revenge!

2007-08-22 03:56:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife commited adultry but because Im the father and she is the mother and because she is not a abusive or drug addtict mother. The courts in So. Cal looks down on me for custody issues because Im a man. How do I avoid from getting ripped off in my case. Keep in mind Im full Army active duty and she lives in CA and Im in Iraq right now.

2007-08-22 03:49:09 · 27 answers · asked by guiearmy 2

i want she is :Affable,Cheerful,Sweet,Gaiety,Natured,Behaved,Pretty,Artistic,Tongued,Tasteful,Benefactore,Accessible

2007-08-22 03:44:04 · 14 answers · asked by ali2008 h 1

how smart and good with managing money, having goals, wants you to reach yours and pushes you (but you argue and are always getting angry)
which is better in the long run??

2007-08-22 03:42:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do u think i'm justified of getting mad at my husband when he gives attention to his sister-in-law (brother's wife) even when she has done all she could to harm our marriage and my position in my in-laws. My hubby knws and do blame her too but she and her husband ignore me all together. while myhusband will engage in chats and laughs and that make me very furious.

I have never got mad when it come sto his siblings but she isn't a sibling. im not saying he should fight with her but why is he being happy and engaged in chats.

we live in joint family.....plz i knw we shuld get out but its not possible right now.Focus on my prob.

We end up having fights and i end up crying , but he will be like '' don't tell me wt to do''.

I just can't take it when he gives her attitude which will make her think HER BRO-IN-LAW (my hubby) DON'T CARE what she is doing to me in house and it makes her a winner and ME! A LOSER on all ends.Hubby claims he consider her *****, yet he will do this.

2007-08-22 03:41:16 · 13 answers · asked by abeer 2

Okay here's the deal. We got married and now I want my last name and his last name. He wants me to have his last name only. Cheyenne Elizabeth Moses-Rodriguez? or Cheyenne Elizabeth Rodriguez? Yes, I know it's up to us, but I would like to keep my last name and have his last name. Is there anything wrong with that? I told him our daughter will have his last name ONLY no matter what!!! So what do you people think? I just think it would be nice to have both last names. I like my last name. Please give me your opinions. Thank you.

2007-08-22 03:41:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance, who I live with, does nearly all the cooking since we moved in together, nearly 3 years, every meal I make sure to thank him for cooking and when he shops I thank him for shopping. In fact, everything he does around here I say, thank you. I've been thanking him almost everyday for 3 years and will continue to do such things after our wedding. When I do something, he thanks me.

On here mostly, I've read spouses take eachother for granted etc. but I couldn't imagine not thanking him for making me a delicious meal or doing some chore I hate. So do you say to your spouse a simple thank you or not? If not, why not? Doesn't he or she deserve it?

2007-08-22 03:39:24 · 15 answers · asked by skunk pie 5

because she really NEEDS it, would you/could you forgive her for having a brief affair?

2007-08-22 03:36:43 · 64 answers · asked by Sexy Anna 3

2007-08-22 03:25:33 · 21 answers · asked by 55 and trying 5

I have been married for 20 years and found out 3 months ago that my husband was having an affair. I found out on accident by listening to his MP3 player (It recorded everything that happened that morning along with a phone call with him and his girlfriend). After he was already caught, he told me that he only talked with her maybe once every three months... I found out it was more like 8-10 times a day. He lied about being at her house among other things. Everything I found out, I found out by 3rd party and had to have the proof before he would come clean with what happened. Other then what I found out he wont tell me anything. now that its 3 months after I found out, he expects me to never bring it up, never to be hurt and I should have no questions because according to him there are no answers. I have never gotten any answers as to why he did this or why it lasted 2 1/2 years. How do I get over this? Will I ever get over this?

2007-08-22 03:25:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. He has, for the last couple months, been joking and mentioning marriage. Just two months ago we finally started saying "I love you" to each other. We've always been really lovey-dovey but now its really quite special. The things he has been saying lately range from "I love you...We're going to get married..." I kind of play along because he jokes about it all the time. When we went on vacation, he passes by a big room at a diner and says "That's were I want our wedding reception to be!" (That instance I know he is joking but..) He compared my friends wedding to our own... "Your brother sounds like a nice guy but he is not going to be the best man at our wedding."

Things like that... are they him just being playful and joking or is he giving me hints? We're in our mid 20's btw. Neither of us have been married and neither of us have ever been in love like we are now.

2007-08-22 03:23:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Love comes and goes but people have to move on. I bet everyone knows this too well yet it still easy said than done. Say, how would you act if your beloved lover insists on breaking up with you though you have tried everything possible to prove your love? Will you just give up or will you bear enmity in mind or even think of revenge some othertime?

2007-08-22 03:18:14 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you be upset if you worked (full-time/daytime) and your spouse stayed home with the baby (fulltime!) and thought it was okay to leave the baby w/someone while they venture off out of town (about 100 miles away) anytime they feel like it without so much as a courtesy phone call to you?

I work in an office so it's perfectly fine for him to call me. I think it's only resonable that he tell me before trotting off out of town on a whim. Am I unreasonable???

2007-08-22 03:18:06 · 20 answers · asked by Just Me 4

My husband and I are getting divorced. He is a cheat and was seeing this whore at work who KNEW he was married.

I am getting EVERYTHING that I want in this divorce. EVERYTHING. He is currently without a car (his motor blew) and he is sleeping in his friends basement. She is now sleeping in the basement with him now too since he needs a ride to work every day.

I already have it set int he divorce that she is NEVER to be permitted within 500 feet of my son. Regardless is they fall madly in love and move in together. It is written that she is required to leave the residence should they ever cohabitate.

But, I am not done with her. If she didn't know....then I would let her walk. But, she knowingly got involved with a married man.

Legally, what can I do to make her life hell. I know it's already going to cause problems with them the way I have the visitation with our son set up.

Any ideas? Nothing "really" illegal. Not into going to jail.

2007-08-22 03:17:08 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has cheated on me many times in the past. He has vowed never to do it again and we moved out of the state we lived in a month ago. Since that time he has not made contact with the girl he cheated on me with (the main reason we moved). He called her last night and talked for 5 minutes (I saw the call log on the phone). He told me he was sorry and made a mistake and that he talked to her about the problems he and I are having. He says he's sorry, and says he will never do it again. I feel as though he just doesn't understand how hurt I am about this though. We are not going to divorce and have been through marriage counseling before. I just want to know how can I get him to understand my feelings and how much these things hurt me. Am I blowing this out of proportion (The girl lives 700 miles away and it's not like there going to hook up anytime)?

2007-08-22 03:09:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you asked your significant other to not communicate with their EX, who they cheated on their ex-married partner with, and then dated them. Later on she dumped him (about 8 months ago). And who still has communication with him periodically, unknown to me, and who says she is still friends with, but says that he took advantage of her and ruined her life (sounds contridictive). Asked her to leave her past in the past and she agreed and said she wouldn't. This past Thursday, she received a text from him (now she answers my phone and vice versa, supposedly nothing to hide from one another). I confronted her about it, and she said that it was from an old friend from school. The text from him said"just saying hi"...she replied "hey, just got your text, how are you?"...sounds innocent right?...i asked her to stop communicating because of their past and how it ruined one relationship before and bothered me. I know it was his #, but she lied to me about it. Is she hiding something?

2007-08-22 02:58:02 · 13 answers · asked by joey 1

Hi,

My situation is this. My wife and I are quite happily married. She is a talented singer and wants to join a band or find a musician to practice and eventually play at local clubs. My concern is that my wife is an extremely attractive woman. I am not saying that because she is my wife but because it really is the case. Where ever she goes people compliment her on her beauty and her gentle demeanor. Being a man myself and knowing the attraction that people fel towards her, would I be an idiot to sit back and let her spend time with other adult men in the musical field? I worry that this could lead to an uncomfortable situation and in the worse case marital infidelity. I trust my wife but one can never be too sure of a situation until it avails itself. Should I be o.k. with this or should I say something to stop it. Men and women please reply.

Thanks.

2007-08-22 02:53:59 · 31 answers · asked by johnnywestervelt 2

I was coming out of a bad divorce and convinced myself that all I needed was physical pleasure, I didn’t want to have any feelings at all. But after getting it all out of my system, I am finding lately that I do want more. I’m tired of being just a plaything. But I definitely do not think I can ever get married again. I am not cut out to be married, and it’s best for me to live alone. I'm okay with that. Yet I still long for a heartfelt connection with someone. Is it possible to have this but remain living independently? And where are all the good guys now that I'm looking for them! I am 35, btw.

2007-08-22 02:51:21 · 19 answers · asked by meagain 4

Men well, most men like/love sex because they are pretty much guaranteed an orgasm 100% of the time, in most cases in less than 10 minutes!!

Do you think women would like it as much as men if they too were guaranteed an orgasm 100% of the time and within 10 minutes? Or is it still emotional based like they always say?

2007-08-22 02:37:23 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-22 02:34:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex & I were together for 5 1/2 years & we split up basically in Nov '06. Meanwhile he has been living with this skanky *** married woman & her 4 children. Whom she just recently had an affair with his best friend & is now living with his other friend because neither of them have a job or anything for that matter. Recently we tried it again, I think his was under false pretenses because his parents were in town. I have loved this man with everything I have in me & tried so hard to make things right this last time. Well over the weekend, I found out I'm pregnant. I have a 12 yr old son who is mentally retarded and he is my life. I called him on Sunday to tell him & the first phone call was horrible he basically said ok. Then he called back a few hours later when she wasnt around & I told him we needed to talk face to face about his thoughts on what we should do. And here it is 3 days later & still no call. To me it sounds like she is more important than his first baby?

2007-08-22 02:26:59 · 28 answers · asked by cheeks4u21 1

I have tried to talk to her about this but she will NOT listen. I tell her that I need time alone and I need other friends but she refuses to hear what I am saying. This has been going on for well over two years. I have a friend that lives away from here that tells me I am more than welcome to come visit. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she would never agree to me going. I feel that I must get a break or I will have a BREAKDOWN!!! HELP!!!

2007-08-22 02:17:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

we've been together for about a month and a half now. but she said she needed space to think about the relationship bcos she's a bit confused.

we've been on this break for only 3 days and it's already getting to me. i hate having to guess if we still have a chance together or not. she msges me hello sometimes which makes me hope even more that we do still have a chance. but i'm afraid i'll just get disappointed. can anyone please give me some advice? i really need help... what should i do?

thanks all

2007-08-22 01:41:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous