My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. He has, for the last couple months, been joking and mentioning marriage. Just two months ago we finally started saying "I love you" to each other. We've always been really lovey-dovey but now its really quite special. The things he has been saying lately range from "I love you...We're going to get married..." I kind of play along because he jokes about it all the time. When we went on vacation, he passes by a big room at a diner and says "That's were I want our wedding reception to be!" (That instance I know he is joking but..) He compared my friends wedding to our own... "Your brother sounds like a nice guy but he is not going to be the best man at our wedding."
Things like that... are they him just being playful and joking or is he giving me hints? We're in our mid 20's btw. Neither of us have been married and neither of us have ever been in love like we are now.
2007-08-22 03:23:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My boyfriend isn't really the "messing with me" type. He is quite romantic and sensitive to my feelings lol. Exactly why I am so confused.
2007-08-22 03:31:14 · update #1
Speaking as a middle-aged GUY here (who remembers that age well) ...
It could be that he is starting to feel inclined to proposing but is either a little unsure of it himself, or doesn't know how you feel about it.
How DO you feel about it?
Or he could feel like he HAS to talk marriage in order to avoid losing you. If that's the case, it doesn't mean that he doesn't want to marry you someday, just that he isn't comfortable with it RIGHT NOW.
Or maybe he's just a jerk and is just trying to jerk you around. (But I don't really think that's the case.)
I don't know your BF, but it might be worth picking a quiet, relaxed, private time to open up a discussion about it. Something like, "Hey, we've been joking about marriage a lot lately, but how do you really feel about it? I really care for (or love) you and our relationship. Wherever it's heading, I'm fine with it. I'd love to be your wife as much as I love being your girlfriend. I just wanted you to know that."
If the guy is like I was at that age, he'll breathe a sigh of relief and know that he won't loose you if he doesn't propose within the next 10 minutes, but won't scare you off if he DOES propose.
Good luck.
2007-08-22 03:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by GFC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Either way, it is too soon for you or him to know if marriage will be in your future. Wait at least 2 years, if by then he has not proposed with a ring and a date, then you need to ask him why he always assumes you and him will get married when he never has proposed. He might be looking at the future as a possibility that you and him will someday marry. Unless you feel otherwise, just plan with him also, see what he says. Just do not take it too seriously without a proposal.
2007-08-22 04:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That might be his way of seeing how you'll react to getting married... Maybe he's too scared to come out and ask what you think about a possible future together. You could ask him about it. Sit down with him and ask him what his plans are for his future - see if he mentions marriage and if he sees you in the picture still...
2007-08-22 03:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this is something that he's thinking about. It doesn't always mean he's going to ask you anytime soon. He's probably at the point in your relationship that he has real feelings for you and is starting to see a future with you. He is mentioning these things probably to see how you feel about the idea and if you are both on the same page.
2007-08-22 03:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for a reaction from you that will tell him how you feel about the idea. So a, positive but light response would be good, something that shows that you are happy to know he's thinking about it but not that you are expecting it or pressuring him. Maybe a response like "Well, tell him we haven't really gotten that far yet, but we'll be sure to let him know if we make any plans!" or "Why, does he want to schedule a double wedding?" Good luck!
2016-03-17 04:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, my husband was the same way. He is constantly bringing it up because he is wanting to see how you would react to the situation. If he was only joking about it, he wouldn't be bringing it up as much as he is. I feel he is being quite serious but saying it in a joking matter so you do not freak out. He want's to marry you!
I suggest you ask him straight up whether or not he is ready to be married to you, if you think it is too soon then tell him, but make sure he knows you feel the same way about him..
Like i said my husband was the same way. He would say stuff like what your boyfriend is saying, he would text me asking me what i would do if he asked me and guess what?.....we were married a month later and still happily married to this day.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 04:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that he's hinting around that marriage is something he wants for the future. Maybe not necessarily right now, but it's definitely on his "to-do" list, it sounds. In my experience, men steer clear of even the word "marriage" unless they are seriously considering it.
2007-08-22 03:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure he's hinting at the future. But if in doubt . . . ask him! If you're heading in that direction there's nothing wrong with talking straight about it.
2007-08-22 03:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear wedding bells a ringen.
He wants to but is not ready, right now its just a fantasy that he hopes may come true. Play it safe and before you get married try living with each other first for a while.
2007-08-22 03:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's doing this to see how you react to it.
2007-08-22 03:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋