Would you be upset if you worked (full-time/daytime) and your spouse stayed home with the baby (fulltime!) and thought it was okay to leave the baby w/someone while they venture off out of town (about 100 miles away) anytime they feel like it without so much as a courtesy phone call to you?
I work in an office so it's perfectly fine for him to call me. I think it's only resonable that he tell me before trotting off out of town on a whim. Am I unreasonable???
2007-08-22 03:18:06 · 20 answers · asked by Just Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He left him with 15 yr old at home (doesn't drive but takes okay care of the baby). He spent the day with family who live there.
He says he needs to get away sometimes. It's becoming regular (leaving to get out locally) but this out of town crap is ticking me off royally!!!
2007-08-22 03:53:37 · update #1
Are you being unreasonable?? NO!! You have every right to know that your spouse is leaving your child in the care of someone else... I would be furious if my spouse did that!!! I think you need to have a long talk with your spouse about leaving the baby without informing you...
2007-08-22 03:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not at all. You being the "Bread-Winner", and away from home, working, while the other half of the spectrum so to speak, that's not working a normal 9 to 5, only watching the BOTH of your's CHILD, should #1, want to do just that, WATCH THE CHILD! Either that or get employment out-side of the home and get Child-Care for his and your child, so that he could be able to together with you, take care of home and family, as a two jobs with two incomes couple. He perhaps feel that he can do that sort of thing because he's the main Care-giver and you're the Provider and should let him do what He "thinks is best"! A lot of baloney! You as first the Mom, that carried the child (9 mths), gave birth, nurtured and cared and fed and cleaned the child, before going back to work where now you're taken care of TWO Children, wheter you believe it or not! He has no right doing what he has done, leaving the cjild with someone, let alone not informing you or even asking your opinion...not really permission...of wheter it's a good idea. Did the people that he left the baby with even know you or you know them? And Just WHAT was he doing over 100 miles OUT OF TOWN? Was he trying to get a Job to help you take care of You all's Household, yourselves and especially You All's Baby? If the answer's "You don't know, and No to his going to get a job (please, even if it were so), I think it's time for you to re-evaluate that relationship and set some rules and get some understanding amongst the two of you...Family first, well-being of child and household and giving as well as getting respect should be high up on the list, also. If you can't get any of that, it may be time to MOVE ON! You Can Do Bad, By Yourself! (But I bet you will do good...you're doing it Already)! Love doesn't pay the bills nor does it disrespect and shut-out opinions. Check this out and make the right decisions before it's too late and something happens to your child and then you'll be so sad and sorry, you'll never forgive the man nor yourself. God Bless You. Good Luck!
2007-08-22 03:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dub-G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have EVERY right to be mad, hell i would be furious, i would be mad just because he is choosing to go out and have fun instead of taking care of his child and yes the no phone call makes it that much worse. He is very much in the wrong. Do you know what he does, when he goes on these outings? Why doesn't he take the kid with him? It sort of sounds like this is all an inconvenience to him and he would much rather be out having fun then staying home to take care of his child and please his wife! You need to seriously talk to him about all this and demand changes befor it gets more out of control, maybe try marriage counceling..I know most people thinks that marriage counceling is the answer to everything and i know that it's not but it's worth a try. What could you loose?
Good luck girl!
2007-08-22 04:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is, and I know this from my own past, working out can become a true addiction, it releases endorphines, the body's own made from scratch morphine. It is the same drug that cutters and bulimics get, (I was also them). However, there is tremendous pressure, societal and familial, etc. He may not even know what drives him to do this, but you are not in the wrong for expecting him to treat you well and respect your needs. But be aware that this may be part of his maturation process and he really can't help it, so you might either have to "weather the storm" or move on to someone who can deliver what you need right now. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2016-05-19 22:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by lona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. I think it is common courtesy to let you know. Of course there are all of the "what if's"...what if something happened to the baby while he was gone...what if your spouse was in a car accident? Yeah, I'd be pretty mad. And if there was not a good reason for him going, I would probably be even more angry.
2007-08-22 03:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I would like to know 1st. why are you the bread winner. 2ndly what are the out of town getaways for and with who? 3rdly do you know the person keeping ur child. Oops I guess the answer to ur question is No, you are not being unreasonable eat all!
2007-08-22 03:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Team 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not being unreasonable at all. imagine if the roles were reversed would he be happy with u doing that while he was at work ...i dont think so. why is he going off like that without telling u anyway u need to know what hes up to.
2007-08-22 03:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope - I would be upset as well! If he can leave the baby with a sitter to go have fun, he certainly can do it to work a full time job!
2007-08-22 03:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sooooooooooooo wrong. He shouldn't be leaving the baby with anyone. If he is going to do that then he needs to get a job.
2007-08-22 03:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definetly not. If he's ok with someone else raising your child, he should get a job, not having fun. He's a father now, not a teenager.
2007-08-22 03:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋