A woman posted a question in which she said that her husband had cheated on her and that he now expects her to get over it and not mention it. I suggested that she perhaps should get a bit on the side and see how he likes it. It makes me curious, though. How do cheaters normally react when the tables are turned on them? Do any of them realize that they deserve to get cheated on?
2007-08-22 04:51:10 · 16 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It just gives them an excuse for their behavior. The only cure for a cheater and a liar is to walk away from them. They will never be any different and why would anyone settle for that?
2007-08-22 04:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Most of them wont care, because if they cared they never would have cheated in the beginning. Most of them just go out and cheat some more, and nothing ever gets resolved. I would just leave the person alone and move on with my life, because thats just drama that is unneeded and unnecessary.
2007-08-22 05:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by lwomar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that they wouldn't be very happy. Many times the one that is guilty of cheating will accuse the other spouse of cheating. By the way, I don't think getting revenge on a cheating spouse, by cheating in return is a very good idea...why the h*ll would you want to stay married in the first place if all you ever do is play tit for tat?
2007-08-22 04:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope, because of course when a person cheats they have an endless list of why they had to cheat and they were "forced" to cheat and there was no other way, that the other person was never there for them and endless reasons and blah blah blah......but when the tables are turned on them and they are cheated on for the same endless list of excuses for some reason they are in shock, like "how can this have happened to me ?" and its like "hello for all the same reasons you did it, it was done to you." It is kind of like a double standard...the cheater feels like only his/her reasons are adequate reasons, so therefore they had the "right" to cheat and the other person did not.
2007-08-22 04:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So, you would want her to screw up her own self-worth because someone cheated on her? How in the world could she ever have a normal relationship with anyone after she pulled something so incredibly immature? Stooping down that low will only hurt her.....I'm sure, he could care less. Only give him more ammunition to cheat again.
It's a horrible cycle and lowering yourself to breaking the vows you committed to even if your partner did that to your marriage....is self-destructive.
Like I said, a cheater who just wants her to suck it up and deal with it will feel validated to cheat even more if she lowers herself to cheating. He won't care one bit.
2007-08-22 05:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good ?... I so agree with what ~NIKKI~ said. I also feel that ~NO~ one deserves to be cheated on,even the cheater. But hey what kind of world would this be if everybody did the right thing?
2007-08-22 05:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I posted the question... let me tell you how it made me feel. it makes me feel unwanted, not good enough, sad, mad, hurt and I feel like crying all the time. When he doesn't want to talk about it and tell me that there is no answer for the 2 1/2 years makes me feel like he just doesn't care about me or how it made me feel. It hurts to the core. I could leave yes, but the hurt will still go with me. It sucks feeling like you are not good enough. But what makes it worse is him saying I was good enough... if I was, then why the affair?
2007-08-22 05:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, nobody DESERVES to be cheated on, but as the saying goes "S*** happens". we don't ever expect anyone to just get over it, but we do hope that u can find it in ur hearts to trust/believe us at some point again (which usually doesn't happen). it's harder for married couples, cuz ur literally stuck with the person. as far as our reaction to be cheated on ourselves...we don't like it. the first answer was correct, we do get kinda violent. usually, we didn't cheat with malicious intent, but to know that u retaliated out of spite really pisses us off. sorry. hope this helped.
2007-08-22 05:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Angelface 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they are cheating to get laid, they've already been cheated on by their spouse. She has "a headache" or is "too tired"..so basically he wants sex so he finds a woman who isn't too tired, or who has a supply of tyelnol for "headaches". The woman in this scenario is the first cheater, the husband is the second cheater, so usually in this case the wife explodes in anger, files for a divorce and then gets vindictive, and all of it could have been avoided if she had not cheated in the first place
2007-08-22 05:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
This will give them an even better excuse to cheat. They'll go crying to another woman and tell a sob story of how their wife cheated on them and all they did was give her the world and it was just never good enough, blah blah blah.
2007-08-22 05:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋