my g/f and i are on a break. what should i do?

Question

we've been together for about a month and a half now. but she said she needed space to think about the relationship bcos she's a bit confused.

we've been on this break for only 3 days and it's already getting to me. i hate having to guess if we still have a chance together or not. she msges me hello sometimes which makes me hope even more that we do still have a chance. but i'm afraid i'll just get disappointed. can anyone please give me some advice? i really need help... what should i do?

thanks all

Answer 1

keep yr self confidence!

Answer 2

Give her some space. I know it hurts and it's driving you crazy, but if you confront her now, or start getting too deep, she'll feel trapped or pressured. It's not always about you.

Sometimes people just need to be able to define themselves as a single unit before identifying themself as part of a couple. It's only been a month and a half. Maybe she's just not that into you. It's getting to YOU because you're still in a phase where you're infatuated with her. Relax. It's been a month. lol. She's texting you to let you know she knows you're still out there.

Take this time to figure out whether she's everything YOU want. I mean, you've only known her for 6 weeks and she's your GIRLFRIEND? Take time and breathe. It could be a thousand things. Worse comes to worse, maybe she's involved with someone else and needs a few days to end it with that person because she chose to be with you.

Either way, you win. LOL.

Answer 3

Keep having casual conversations to show you care and are interested. Call and talk about how things have been going with whatever you do (school, work, family, etc.).

If she is keeping you at arms length because she is not sure she wants to continue, you have to respect that.

You could ask her if there are things she needs to tell you about the relationship that have been bothering her. Something vague like "confused" does not give you much of a clue. I am not suggesting that you grovel and ask what you can do to keep her, but find out if there are some little things that she need to get off her chest.

There are a lot of good comments above by the way, including that you should not wait too long to actively date again.

Answer 4

Hmmmm. This reminds me of the "Friends" episode where Rachel and Ross were on a "break" and Ross slept with another woman and Rachel got mad. I am not sure I know what being on a "break" really means. If you really like her, I would give it some time, but don't sit home waiting for the phone to ring. Get out and do some things with your friends, have fun and don't sit home and sulk. Don't be available every time she calls. Also, don't wait a long time. I would say 2 weeks in enough and if she doesn't come around by then, start thinking about dating someone else. Life is too short waiting for a girl to make up her mind if she wants to be with you or not. Don't be a fool, sweetie and don't let her play with your heart or play head games. No one deserves that. Good luck and please, guard your heart.

Answer 5

what are your ages? i mean she is too immatured. if you say she's ur gf, then i shud say that she's really immature. if you already share a relationship then it is foolish even if it's one day of 10yrs to look back and be confused abt it.. thats sheer immaturity. commitment is not a joke. she doesn't know this...see if you think of a break in a relationship, then how are you goin to stay with each other for life. ask her what is confusing her so much. if you get convinced with her answer leave, find a better girl. if not even then i think even then you should leave her. let her think for the rest of her life, and find a confusing partner. if you are really serious abt "relationships" jst wait n you'll find an appropriate girl.clear everything before you propose and you commit each other.... all the best buddy....dont worry...everything would be fine jst have a talk with her and go with the flow..

Answer 6

Breaks are often "the end" especially after only a month and a half. She's confused because she really doesn't have the feelings she thought she had for you. I hate to put it that way but that's how girls make break ups easy. Go on with your day and just try to get it out of your mind. You'll find another.

Answer 7

im sorry you're in that situation i know it really sux,,,, but u really need to give her the time she needs,,, or you might end up pushing her away.. just bare with it and give her the space she needs, concentrate on hanging out with your friends and doing other things you really enjoy.. to help take your mind of things and to help make time go faster... it's a good sign she's messaging you.. so just be nice and polite and patient with her,,it will show her that you resepect her,, what will be will be, you have no control over it, you can't make someone stay with you,, but broken hearts do mend,, thats for certain and there will be another to fill that space in your heart one day if she does not come back to you, cheers!

Answer 8

if she says shes confused and not sure if she wants to be in this relationship with u only after a month and a half then i dun think u should wait around for her at all...how is she goin to feel then if u guys are ina relationship for over a year...is she gonna say she needs space again??? i dun think she knows what she wants and that space stuff almost always never works anyway...if its really botherin u then i would tell her u need to talk with her face to face...she either wants to be with u now or she doesnt...

Answer 9

If she's messaging you hello, it means she still wants to keep in contact with you, or seem friendly. Maybe it should be you messaging her first. If you want this relationship a lot, then you should fight for her.

HOWEVER, if you don't trust her, or think that she's interested in other guys, it's best if you just leave her to it, because a relationship without trust is not a relationship worth fighting for.

Good luck

Answer 10

Okay as a girl i use to say this a lot.For me when I said this it was either I really was confused about the relationship.Maybe its getting serious and she has to adjust or... worst case she likes some one else and she doesn't want to tell you because she really likes you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I hope I helped a little if you want to talk email me.

Answer 11

Keep your head up.. What is she confused about? the fact that you enjoy being with her? You think she's beautiful? You like being near her?

It's excuse man. Unless she has been screwed over by some jerk she's just biding her time... Might be time to move on my friend.