What's the best way to get revenge on a home wrecking whore?

Question

My husband and I are getting divorced. He is a cheat and was seeing this whore at work who KNEW he was married.

I am getting EVERYTHING that I want in this divorce. EVERYTHING. He is currently without a car (his motor blew) and he is sleeping in his friends basement. She is now sleeping in the basement with him now too since he needs a ride to work every day.

I already have it set int he divorce that she is NEVER to be permitted within 500 feet of my son. Regardless is they fall madly in love and move in together. It is written that she is required to leave the residence should they ever cohabitate.

But, I am not done with her. If she didn't know....then I would let her walk. But, she knowingly got involved with a married man.

Legally, what can I do to make her life hell. I know it's already going to cause problems with them the way I have the visitation with our son set up.

Any ideas? Nothing "really" illegal. Not into going to jail.

Answer 1

The best revenge will be to go live your life and be happy. Doing something to retaliate won't really affect someone who has no values to begin with. Why waste your energy. Focus on being a good mother and getting your life back on track. Good luck :)

Answer 2

Believe it or not you already got revenge. She is now dating a cheat and a liar. What you need to do is just move on. If he cheated on you he will do it to her and then she will feel everything that you do right now. This man does not seem worth it so don't let it get to you. If he lives in a basement and is a cheat and liar you should thank her for taking him off your hands so that you can find a better man. If you show that it does not bother you than that is the best revenge you can get. I do have to make a statement though to women who do choose to date a man who is married. I think this is about the lowest thing that you can do. Escpecially when there are children involved. I hate women that do this kind of thing. there are so many men in the world that I just don't see how any women would want someone else's man anyways. This person must have no self respect for herself. Just keep this in mind, you are the better woman and she will never be the woman you are and eventually your ex will see that, but by then it will be to late and you will have a new man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. My best advice is just move on. You can, and will, find better!

Answer 3

I understand your anger and sympathize. Unfortunately there isn't really very much you can or should do to retaliate. If your husband was cheating he alone is responsible for his actions. It would be nice if women would not get involved With married men, but it happens. Chances are he persued her, at any rate his being unfaithful is what destroyed the marriage. I think the focus now should be on your child. Please don't be so wrapped up in revenge and making his life miserable that your child becomes a pawn. I'm sure your child is very upset by the loss of his dad in the household. When it comes to visitation try to make arrangements that are fair to your child, not punishment for the husband. He is probally scared and confused and afraid his dad left because he doesn't love him. Try to look through his eyes and don't make it harder on him by letting him see your anger and feel like he has to choose between his mom and dad, or that one parent loves him less. It's a sad situation and I'm sorry this happened to you. Hope in time you are able to move on to a much happier life.

Answer 4

Do you believe in Karma? Spiritual guide? There could be some lesson you may have missed in this relationship.
It's normal for each & everyone of us to be very, very, very defensive & self denial. We may, some how or other made some mistake which we just sweep under that carpet.....
Why revenge? why make things already bad to worse? Leave it to the universe, we are just human ..... we can never satisfy our egoself, even you manage to create hell for others - what do we gain? building happiness over other's misery? satisfaction - but, deep down inside, the guilty feeling ~ it's much more difficult to comprehend .... what turns around, comes around - we'll get a chance to experience those that we do unto others - we may feel it for ourselves one day.
Live & let live ~ there's always a reason for everything, it's just we keep on denying on our part as a contributor - and, it is difficult to understand now, one day you'll understand.... look at your son - how bad it is to grow without a father? wear his shoes ............ and wear back your shoes - then ask yourgood self - is this what I want in life?

Answer 5

As everyone knows, living well is the best revenge.
Do everything that you possible can to make your life better. If you need to lose weight, start losing it today. Exercise is a great stress-reducer. If you smoke, stop smoking. Take excellent care of yourself. Get a new hairdo. Read books on recovering from a break-up.
Develop new interests. Join a new organization.
Put every bit of energy you have into making yourself a healthier, more beautiful, happier person.
Surround yourself with people who have a positive attitude toward life.
If you see people who will be seeing your husband, confide in them that having him out of your life was a shock at first, but is actually turning out to be the best thing that ever happened to you.
If someone mentions this woman to you, say "Who?"
If someone mentions your husband to you, say "Poor guy." Then say you really don't want to talk about him.
Just concentrate on yourself and your child.
This could turn out great for you.

Answer 6

The best revenge is to live well. Why don't you try to get over yourself. The way your talking I feel for your cheating husband and I'm pretty sure that's no the way you want people to see this.

Answer 7

I can totally understand why you are so angry at this woman. The only thing I know you could do to her legally is there is a law, but I don't know if it pertains to all 50 states, alienation of affection. Check into it. Other than that I wouldn't go into the whole revenge thing. It really won't make you feel any better. The best thing to tell yourself is "what goes around, comes around" ten fold. It will come back and bite him in the *** later.

Answer 8

The best revenge is knowing that these cheaters have each other. One of them will eventually cheat again and then the other will know the pain of being the one that is cheated on. When that day comes you can walk up to the cheatee and say 'Now you know how I felt.'

Answer 9

Just let it go and stop exhausting yourself trying to ruin her life. You are just acting according to your fury and it does no good neither to your child nor to you.
But still you want to do something? Well if I were you first of all I would change my appearance (clothes, make up, hair style anything makes me look good and different) then I'd give some time to the couple. After that I would begin to talk to my husband as a friend (nothing more since I would not want to take suspicion on me). And try to make a close friendship with him. I would give him the trust feeling that I would only want his goodness and ready to listen to his problems as a friend. If I would be successful to impress him again I would find another guy.
In the mean time I am sure she would be suffering enough when she sees that I am playing with her husband.
If I would not be successful then I would not mind since I can attract a lot of good guy with my new appearance.

Answer 10

Just be careful that you don't attract some mental case, lonely-heart guy who follows you home one night. You may think for now that after you've had your "cheap thrills" of teasing men that you can leave to go home and not worry. Not to scare you, but there are lots of "John Hinkley" types out there who may consider your little lip-stick shows as more than you intend. Be careful and I agree wth the girl who said that you seem to have a strong need for attention. Sorry you were ignored in high school, but it's time to grow up now. Act mature. Find a decent man who will love you for more than your seductive lips and your pretty face. God bless.

Answer 11

The best revenge is moving on and living well. You got rid of a cheating husband. She's got him - maybe they'll be stuck together and be miserable. Let it go at that. If you dwell on revenge like this, you'll start a tit-for-tat war that will leave you mired in this forever.

Let it go where it stands.