Love comes and goes but people have to move on. I bet everyone knows this too well yet it still easy said than done. Say, how would you act if your beloved lover insists on breaking up with you though you have tried everything possible to prove your love? Will you just give up or will you bear enmity in mind or even think of revenge some othertime?
2007-08-22 03:18:14 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm not vengeful when it comes to someone breaking up with me. in fact there are few things i believe can be solved through revenge but to answer your question i would let them leave. there was a time when i cheated on a guy that i was crazy about. it was a HUGE mistake and I immediately called him up and told him what happened and that i was soooooooooooooooooooooo sorry. it was at that moment that i understood what it was like to really want someone in your life even though they might not feel the same way anymore. i knew that i didn't deserve him anymore but i wanted to prove otherwise to him becasue i believed he was the one. he forgave me because i was honest and i didn't do it again. ultimately we ended things for different reasons. the point is i understand where you're coming from. feelings of regret, abandonment, and emotional distress can overwhelm a person and cloud their judgement. but i think that when you take time to process your thoughts and remember who you really are then you will ultimately make the right decision on how to handle rejection.
2007-08-22 03:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course in a situation like that you are going to morn a bit but eventually you need to perk up and move on. Everything happens for a reason so bear that in mind. If your girlfriend left you, no matter the reason, then there must be a greater purpose for your love down the road. That's the problem with some people, they feel that if love doesn't just fall into their laps then they were doomed from the word go and they will never find it. Fate doesn't work that way. Nine times out of ten, love happens when you least expect it. You need to just live your life and when it is meant to happen it will happen.
Revenge is a bad idea, no matter how good it may sound at the time. It only brings about bad karma. Haven't you ever heard of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"? Yeah, growing up it may have been something the adults told us to make us behave but it actually does mean something.
2007-08-22 22:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nutmuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to give up than end up looking like a fool.
Why waste your time proving something that no longer counts, when all you do is just spin your wheels for nothing.
Why revenge, when there's nothing you can do to change it.
There's really no satisfaction in revenge, when still you really don't win but dig a bigger ditch to bury yourself in.
It's best just move on and bear in mind that there are better things in store ahead....a new love and a new beginning.
We all face disappointments in life. Holding ill will inside and you won't be able to go on and live normally. Instead you'll be locked in the bitter past toward total ruin. Forgive despite things didn't work out between you both and you'll be released to go on with your life again.
The saying that everyone should go by is: If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours. If it doesn't, then it was never meant to be.
2007-08-22 11:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not what I immediately think of! You know in this day and age I'm not sure true love will be found for everyone.
Most love in this day is one sided, you may try but the other person just doesn't seem to care! I believe if your lucky you will meet at least 2 people in your life you could see yourself with forever. I have began to realize that It's hard to find what you are looking for and when you do it seems to good to be true. I believe we pass it by and go to what we think we want at the time. Anything that seems to be more difficult to have is what we work for and it's not always worth it in the long run!
Just end up with a broken heart!
2007-08-22 10:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by taurus_lynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proving your love to someone who is not prepared or willing to receive it is like giving a bag of salt to a thirsty man. It's not something they need or want...and it's a bit foolish to try and force it on them.
When love wanes, or when people come to a point where they realize whatever they had wasn't really love, then it's simply time to let go. It's painful. Revenge, though, won't solve anything. Being an enemy won't solve anything. Do you give up? No, it's not giving up. It's giving in to reality. It is the ultimate act of love to let them go.
If you wish to prove your love to someone who no longer loves you, then just let them go, and begin healing your own feelings. Anything else will leave you a smaller person, and will only prove that you didn't really love this person after all.
2007-08-22 10:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Night Owl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done everything to prove your love and they still feel the same way, giving up is the next step. And yes it's easier said than done. Revenge is petty, it's really not going to get you anywhere or make you feel better.
2007-08-22 10:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love someone then revenge is never an answer. Even if they go away, instead of getting mad, think of all the good times, and and learn to be happy with yourself.
2007-08-22 10:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it hurts, I would have to move on...been there and done it with a man I considered my first true love...we are the best of friends now but looking back our boy/girlfriend relationship was doomed because we weren't FRIENDS first...we just jumped in without testing the water first...it took me awhile to get over him(about a year and major bouts of depression) but I have definitely moved on...would I do it over again? No...I have no regrets. I love him dearly but I'm NOT in love with him...Peace.
2007-08-22 10:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Natty-Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up. move on. you can't keep someone around if they want to go. if you do, it just gets bitter. they start cheating and you get hurt worse.
the best revenge is to be happy and successful in your own life without her.
You haven't found the right girl yet, keep looking.
2007-08-22 10:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No revenge - let her go. You don't really want someone staying with you when they don't want to. Take the love within you and get out into the world; some day you'll share it with one who reciprocates.
2007-08-22 10:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋