Do u think i'm justified of getting mad at my husband when he gives attention to his sister-in-law (brother's wife) even when she has done all she could to harm our marriage and my position in my in-laws. My hubby knws and do blame her too but she and her husband ignore me all together. while myhusband will engage in chats and laughs and that make me very furious.
I have never got mad when it come sto his siblings but she isn't a sibling. im not saying he should fight with her but why is he being happy and engaged in chats.
we live in joint family.....plz i knw we shuld get out but its not possible right now.Focus on my prob.
We end up having fights and i end up crying , but he will be like '' don't tell me wt to do''.
I just can't take it when he gives her attitude which will make her think HER BRO-IN-LAW (my hubby) DON'T CARE what she is doing to me in house and it makes her a winner and ME! A LOSER on all ends.Hubby claims he consider her *****, yet he will do this.
2007-08-22 03:41:16 · 13 answers · asked by abeer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You NEED to move out of this house, you should be his number one priority and you aren't.
2007-08-22 03:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you have every right to get mad. My husband does this same thing to me. We went to visit his family when I was 4 months pregnant and our first daughter was 2 1/2 and his cousin (who was about 14 years old) was ignoring me, picking up my daughter and even pushed past me at one point at his parents house. He NEVER said anything to her, and still hasn't mentioned it to her or his family to this day (its been over a year). Also, she had no reason to have a problem with me it was the first time we'd ever met. She acted like she was jealous and they are cousins! We still will fight about it to this day. YOU are his wife. YOU are #1 in his life. If he doesn't put you FIRST then he is a jerk just like my husband. You have to decide whether or not your going to deal with it. Hope this helps.
2007-08-22 10:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Janessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is playing both of you. He is making her happy to be able to stay where you are living and he is talking badly about her to you to save face with you. If you are going to live with these people, because you have to, then YOU need to suck it up and be nice to the sister in law as well, especially if you are a guest in her home!
2007-08-22 10:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that your husband is a looser.
He has no character!
He should respect you and be at your side at all times.
It's not a question of who is right or wrong, but marriage relationship, husband and wife relationship and togetherness.
Still he should stay out of you problem with her but be with you and make them see that he is there for all your needs.
In another words, he should back you up.
2007-08-22 10:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is a "joint" family ???
sounds like a big emotional bomb waithin to go off.
when you marry, the couple become the "family" first and foremost. all other family and friends become secondary to the new unit.
If he does not follow this rule and wont move away with you
all is doomed.
2007-08-22 10:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you have pain, try to leave the room when it happens go for a walk get a friend don't fight he already knows how you feel. if your don't let them see your pain you win.. make your self happy doing fun things you like
2007-08-22 10:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on your problem? you have got to be kidding here..your problem is you...you let him you stay, you do not put your foot dow, you is your problem...." don't tell me we should leave " and what is joint family mean? if he will not move ot with you...then move without him....he is your hubby, he needs to act like your hubby...and you are an idiot if you think this is gonna stop by just saying..." plz focus on my problem " what you are searching for here is someone to say....oh hunny, it'll be ok,,,it'll work itself out...well guess whut hunny...you are in need of a wake up and get him, you or both ot of that joint family.....and like i siad..if he wont move with ya....move without him
2007-08-22 10:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by bubba gumps light 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This man is not truly bonded to you. When a man is truly bonded to his wife, she comes first. He is still a little boy whose loyalty is with his family.
I am sorry you got yourself mixed up with someone who is not grown up.
2007-08-22 10:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by NolaD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men are always like what u say ,only way to turn his attention towards u ,is through ur love ....show ur love and kindness even when he hates u ,because ur anger will make him to hate u where u give him chance to find some women like ur brother's wife...say him always i love so much,i can't be without u,try it...................
2007-08-22 10:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right getting out is the best thing.
but remember she is stirring, so should you stir back, maybe just a little. but be very careful and just a little will do.
2007-08-22 10:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by sl3style 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋