If she cheats on you because you won't give her enough sex....?

Question

because she really NEEDS it, would you/could you forgive her for having a brief affair?

Answer 1

It depends on if she is remorseful and is willing to make necessary changes to prevent it happening again. I don't mean that she gets to control how often you have sex. You need to work it out together.

Answer 2

What do you mean you don't give her enough?
What is she a sex addict or are you depriving her of it?
Not enougth as once a month or is her libido much higher than yours?
Still, if this is the case it's always going to be a problem, so is she always going to get compensation elsewhere.
The question is not that you should forgive her because she was in need of it, but whether or not this is going to happen again, and how can she make sure that it's not?
It's not because someone cheated on you that you do have to throw them away, but to know whether you can trust that person again is understand their reasons and for them to be able to show you that it WAS a mistake, and what they've learnt from it.
But when reading your question again, it looks like it's something that she DOES regularly. Not a mistake.
Well, if you're happy with her getting part of it outside your house, it's your call.
I can't see it's much of a committed relationship, but it's your choice.
Just don't be taken for a fool that's all. She either loves you and would be faithful to you or she doesn't and doesn't see a problem with sharing the most special thing that can be shared between two people in love with someone else.
So, as long as you know where you stand...

Answer 3

Affairs are grounds for divorce in the eyes of God. It says so in the bible. With that said if I was not giving my wife sex or not trying to meet her needs and she had an affair I know I could forgive her for that. But that's my opinion. You should see a marriage therapist before going any further because if does have an affair it will only hurt you more then if you did not have one. If your thinking about having an affair and your looking for permission to have one I will not give it to you. You should go to a marriage therapist like I already suggested and work this out with your spouse.

Answer 4

Its an interesting question and like everything else has two sides.
When in a committed relationship, I think you are obligated to give the other person what they need. For example, if you tell someone that they cannot eat anywhere else, but refuse to feed them, well that's just not fair. The same applies with sex. Of course if the other person is not being made aware of the "need", then thats not their fault.
At the same time, cheating isn't the way to go about things. If you are in a relationship that isn't working for you, then get out of it first. Why cheat?
Also, nobody NEEDS sex. You NEED oxygen, food, water. You will not die without sex. You just WANT it.

Answer 5

I would give her a coupon for her local sex store and tell her to buy a vibrator. A marriage is based on Love , trust and friendship between two adults. She violated that trust and friendship. Can you forgive her for what she did? Will she do it again the next time you cant give her sex. My husband needs sex too and he didnt get any for 3 months while I had surgery after surgery and ultimately a partial hysterectomy. He stayed true because he loved and respected me. I couldnt forgive someoe for having a affair only because the spouse wasnt giving enough. Thats where communication comes in.

Answer 6

There is "NO" excuse for Cheating. If a person feels the need to "Cheat" then they should, move the H*** on. There are Sex Toys out there that can tide one over until her Man feels like having Sex again. As long as your Man is a good provider and faithfull to you, you have NO reason to cheat on him..You can buy all kinda sex Toys online. Type in ginasalltimepleaser. This is a great little Toy and will fulfill that Sexual frustration and a heck of alot safer than "Cheating"..

Answer 7

The question is what is enough sex? I mean if you have sex once a day and she has an affair then that is ridiculous, but if you have not had sex in a few months or longer and she has been trying but you push her away what do you expect her to do. But if she does not try to have sex with you and went and did it with someone else then that is wrong. But on the other hand you can't push her away and then expect her to just not do it At all because that is not fair.

Answer 8

I could forgive for the affair regardless of the cheaters reason or justification for such an act. But being blamed (cheats because they don't get enough from you) for the act of weakness? NO WAY! There is such a thing as free will, I didn't spread your legs or stuff your penis in someone.

Answer 9

Sexy, I don't think many of these peps understand that you maybe going long months at a time feeling bored, horney, & lonely -- w/ a guy who easily passes out on the couch. It's not just going a few weeks at a time without - from time to time(?)

It feels like crap to be in a long term relationship and get treated like a sister. If you're looking back and see a lot of time wasted - it's likely you'll look back again in another year or two and still feel the same, plus wonder why you're still there. Why didn't I get out during that last fight?) You'll have a melt down eventually and either cheat or get out of. I recommend just getting out ...

Answer 10

If she gets the normal amount of sex and needs more,( by normal I mean at least twice a week), Then she should get a toy. If she goes out to get it, sex, because it's still not enough, then she needs councilling , or she's gone. Mistakes could be forgiven. A habit is something else.

Answer 11

Depends on the meaning of NEED... If her life were in danger, or someone was holding a family member hostage and offered to release the person in exchange for sex, then I guess it's ok to forgive. Other than that, there is no NEED for sex, if the urges are too strong, grab a porn, a vib and do yourself.