Marriage? Should I change my last name ???

Question

Okay here's the deal. We got married and now I want my last name and his last name. He wants me to have his last name only. Cheyenne Elizabeth Moses-Rodriguez? or Cheyenne Elizabeth Rodriguez? Yes, I know it's up to us, but I would like to keep my last name and have his last name. Is there anything wrong with that? I told him our daughter will have his last name ONLY no matter what!!! So what do you people think? I just think it would be nice to have both last names. I like my last name. Please give me your opinions. Thank you.

We just got married yesterday and we are going to my hometown to do the name thing. I would like signing with my last name. GIVE ME MORE ANSWERS!!!!!!!!!!

just because I want to keep my last name also doesn't mean that I have divorce in my heart. Lay off the crack.

Answer 1

I am a very independent young woman with a career that works very well for me. I am myself first and have always been who I am.

When I got married, I didn't drop my last name, but added his next to my maiden name. So I technically have two last names. I use both for legal documents. My maiden last name is used for my career, and my married name is sometimes used for personal situations.

I have been this person for my whole life and it is a part of me. For me, taking on his last name and dropping my last name, felt like I would be changing who I am and I would be "his possession" instead of a life's companion.

Many couples combine both last names...including the men. Sometimes the man will drop his last name and take his wife's name. You need to do what fits your personality and life-style.

Answer 2

Most people drop their middle name, move the last name to the #2 spot then tack on the husband's name at the end. If you still feel like signing things as Moses Rodriguez, then that's fine. I think a lost of people don't hyphenate because it just makes for a very long last name.

Answer 3

I agree, nothing wrong with keeping your own name as well. Especially since you have no problem letting the child have his last name.

This name business is a huge deal to a lot of men, myself included.

His problem with it probably has to do with the fact that when a woman has two last names, very often people only use the first one and drop the second, therefore they'd be referring to you by your last name, and I can see why that would bother your husband.

Answer 4

put his name first and use yours. Cheyenne Moses sounds better than Cheyenne Rodriguez. Use his as a second middle name, don't hyphenate it.

Answer 5

Issues such as this one should have been spoken about and resolved prior to getting married. Legally you can still keep your name and add his name also, or you do not even have to add his name at all. Why do you wish to keep your last name? Some women decide to keep their last name due to having children prior to the relationship. It is unclear as to why your husband would object to something so simple, unless your last name was from a prior marriage, I see no what reasons he has to object to you keeping your last name and adding his name. I do hope you both will be able to resolve this.

Answer 6

I was married once before and never changed back to my maiden name. I am planning on getting married again and want to take my husband's name in the future. However, in my professional career everyone knows me by my current last name and it would be better if I hyphenate to avoid confusion. We had this discussion and it doesn't bother him.

Tell your husband you are honoring both families by keeping both names.

Answer 7

I married a woman who did not like my last name, so she decided to keep hers. I didn't much like my last name either, so many years later, we decided to come up with a new last name.

Having a last name near the end of the alphabet always bothered me. I was always last for things, so I was looking for a name near the top of the alphabet.

We hired a poet to help us come up with a name and we spent a pleasant evening going through hundreds of possibilities. Ultimately, we decided to blend our names, not with a hyphen, but by combining the first syllable of my last name with the last syllable of her last name. It's a beautiful name that works with everyone's first name and we've enjoyed the change, even though we are still near the bottom of the alphabet.

If I were in your shoes, I'd hire a poet to help you sort out a new name. I'd either keep your maden name or come up with a new last name that everyone can use.

Answer 8

Well, how long have you been married? If it's already been awhile, I'd say move on. But, if it's fairly recent, or if your a career woman, then add your name back in. Just remember he's probably feeling hurt that all of a sudden you want "your" name back, but explain you just like how it sounds, and that it is of significance to you because of your heritage. If your keeping your name, and his, then no harm, no foul. Tell him your not trying to hurt him, but this is just something you really want. Good Luck!

Answer 9

It's kind of a personal preference thing. When I got married I wanted to keep my maiden name because my father doesn't have sons and he was the man that was there for me and my daughter when my daughter was born (she has my maiden name.) My husband wanted to keep his father's name because his father is deceased and wanted to keep that connection. But we wanted to match. So we BOTH hyphenated.. we each took the other's last name.

Answer 10

When I got married, I just hyphenated. I told my man that I was born a Garcia, and I will die one!! Nothing wrong with a hyphenated last name!! Ya get the best of both worlds!!