Marriage & Divorce - 19 August 2007

yesterday i found out that my husband wanted to stay with his ex-wife because of the kids even when she wanted a divorce. he says he wanted to raise them properly, but he didnt get a chance. now they are not very well mannered. and he has to pay alimony money. of course he has nothing nice to say about his ex-wife. but i am thinking - is that because of the kids or could he still have feelings for her? i am very jealous that we dont have children of our own and she will always be the mother of his children. i have been physically sick because of this, it is driving me crazy, i lvoe my husband but i cant get it out of my head.
please, understand taht i know i might be wrong in this situation, but how do i get rid of this disgusting and very strong feeling that i am jsut a rebound and that that was the love of his life since they had kids together. I feel like i am fighting wtih ghosts and shadows and i will never win. my husband is already sick of my ****, but i cant get over it.

2007-08-19 23:45:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have a mutual friend whose husband is gone on leave right now, things seem a bit fishy, although I might be paranoid. Tell me what you think.
1. I've came over a while before with him on the phone with her, albeit, we were going over to her house later on.
2. She seems to address him before me (multiple comments on his myspace, nothing on mine). I started getting suspicious, and things immediately changed.
3. I've found him over at her house... he was helping her pack, but still... for some reason my gut was churning.
4. When we went over that afore-mentioned time, she would talk with him the whole time, and then when he left for a beer run, she would call a friend on the phone.
5. One time when her friend called, she said, remember, I told you about him (about my hubby).
6. Last night, when we were over there, I came out him saying something about an appointment. She quickly said "yeah I need another eye exam" Followed by an uncomfortable silence and then a change of subje

2007-08-19 23:32:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-08-19 23:26:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are both married now.But when we met in march we had a brief affair but after that she stopped talking to me and taking my calls etc.She said that we had to put an end to this so she does not want to maintain any contact.But then she came to know that i have been giving missed calls etc. she called and gave her new no.and said she could be contacted there. but when i try to send a msg. i do not get a reply from her.Pls. advise as I really want her in every way.What do i do as i feel she is interested but for the fear that people will get to know of the affair.

2007-08-19 23:19:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-19 23:03:01 · 18 answers · asked by basabdeb 1

Okay. I really have been inlove with her for over 2 years now. I'll admit I think even upsessed & it has been really hard for me. I have not told her how I feel. She has a boyfriend who really does not treat her right. He has cheated, left for days & does not call etc. Anyway she is upsessed with him no matter what anyone tells her she wont break it off. Then this other guy came along but they came close to being with each other. Then her boyfriend came back & their relationship is better then ever. I think he is mentally abusing her & got jealous & that this better than ever will not last long at all. What do you think?

2- 1 day I told her how much I care & love her & that I am here for her. I did not tell her that I was inlove with her etc. I think she got the message ?
Another day out of the nowhere I looked her in the eyes & said I love you. She got that look on her face of shy or ? & turned her eyes? What do you think this meant? Anything good?
THANKS IN ADVANCE! :-)

2007-08-19 22:58:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've moved back to my mom's place to finish my degree. Before I move, we had a conversation and he thought it was good for both of us to go back to school. After a few days he ended our relationship because his mom told him to do so. I've had enough with my life with my in laws. I mean so so much pain how my life was. All he cares for his family, parents and younger sister. I told him I'm pregnant and he said he doesn't care, never ask how I'm doing. He calls once in a few days just to ask how's our 11 mons old daughter doing. He's enjoying his life with parties and being with a divorced woman whose 2 yrs older and she's dirty (flirting around with men). She called him when she found out we broke up and told him not to be sad, just come to her whenever he wants or needs to. How am I expect to feel? I'm trying to forget and take care of myself for my kids but it's really bother me how cold blood he is. It's been 2 months already. Thank you for reading

2007-08-19 21:14:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 26 yrs old and was married for 5 yrs but together for 8.5 yrs. I am now divorced and starting to date again but am scared to ask if it bothers some people I have been on dates with if it matters that I was divorced. I have always wanted to get married, get a house and have kids and now I am scared that might never happen. I did not want the divorce, my husband did. having trouble moving on. I have been told by a friend that she thinks one of the guys I am seeing thinks that we are exclusive (she's know him for awhile) but I dont know if she is right. when I was in high school people asked each other to be their boy or girl friend but they dont anymore so how do you know if someone wants to be exclusive without scaring them? I NEED HELP!!

2007-08-19 21:06:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

we've been friends for a few years and since then, he's always liked me. He was a good friend that never went beyond the lines and never took advantage of me. He took care of me - always paid for me (he WANTED to), remembers almost everything i would say (stories, little details); everytime i did something silly, he would just look at me with this smile and say, "this girl...you are a nerd..." and shake his head smiling. He would never give me direct compliments would say, "yeah you know you look good..." and when other guys would make moves on him, he would say, "i think she deserves better - she's too good from him..."

just this yr, i feel for him deep...there was NO physical contact and just little flirting and i think he was already "falling in love" according to friends. He's the shy type but was very naturaly smooth and was very afffectionate - gave me little kisses on my head. His "songs" on his page were old love songs. Once when he got home late, he txted me to see if was i still up and said, "gnite...i heart you".

when we got closer, he seemed surprised and happy. I was the first girl to like him, kiss, cuddle, hand hold, and all that physical stuff. When i first kissed him on the cheek, he was like a statue and just smiled. After our first kiss together, he randomly texted me later that day and said..."i heart you..." again. He was very affectionate and really showed me how much he adored me.

Could he be in love?

2007-08-19 20:40:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-19 20:32:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-19 20:29:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

We both seem ok with this.I don't believe he is unfaithful.Neither am I.We have just had so many personal problems.I know this is not normal.We are a very happy family that does shares a lot of time together.We kiss and hold hands all the time.

2007-08-19 20:18:07 · 40 answers · asked by Medicsgirl 2

I had to borrow money from my mother so we could go on this vacation to the beach for a week. I thought it would have been better to stay home, and see if I get some more hours in my job. (I hadn't gotten all the hours I had asked for). Other times during our marriage, when I thought it was better to stay home, he practically fell apart at the thought of not going on his beach vacation. All the time, he is bitching and moaning about the bills, but still wanted vacation. The whole time, he was,"I want to eat lunch here..," "I want to get a sweatshirt." "I want to get a seashell light. etc" Godforbid I suggest we eat fastfood! "That's not my idea of fun." Anyway, now I'm out of money and he will have to pay the essentail bills I had always agreed to pay, or not.

2007-08-19 20:15:13 · 4 answers · asked by so tired 2

"My guy and I been together for five years. I never expected him
cheating on me until now. We moved from my home town into Georgia
which is 9
hours from my home town and only an hour from a good friend of his and
four hours from his parents house. My mate always had a problem with
jobs. When he got one he lied to me about having money on his pay day
only to use up my money when I got paid. I got wind to it and became
upset. I said some things on the line of maybe it's best if he left
the home
we shared. Giving what type of person he is, normally, he stand ground
and want to resolve any issue that we have. Not this time. Things were
different. We share a child together and he is very protective over
his child so I believed. But, on this inparticular day he didn't
bother
getting into conversation with me about why I said what I said. He act
as though he was content with leaving. He instructed me to drop him
off
at the bus station. I was aware of him being broke and wasn't to sure
as to how he would get to his destination. He said his goodbye to our
children and told them that he would be back in a couple of weeks. Not
knowing the whole time he took a copy of the house key with him. He
then
proceeded to make way into the bus station without any word to me. I
left. Assured that he would call me later once he cooled down but
never
did. It has been three days now and I haven't heard anything. Giving I
am in a state with no family I couldn't understand why he would do
this
to me and cut off communication when this is not his normal behavior
when we get into a dispute. My question is, is it possible that he is
cheating on me or with another women? I know we have not been to
sexual
giving on my part."

2007-08-19 19:43:04 · 21 answers · asked by Promise 2

if both have affair or are in love for a year or more.should parents agree,what about its influences.

2007-08-19 19:22:00 · 21 answers · asked by alear 1

I recently asked a question about my fiance joining AA and her request for me to give up drinking entirely even though I do not have a problem. I decided on my own that she's worth it and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. So I stopped. I realize that if you really love someone, you're willing to make sacrifices for them. I am. Now, she doesn't think it would work and that I would resent her. It's not true. She wants to end the relationship. It's not fair & she's not giving us a chance. My question is is there any suggestions on how I can save this relationship? I believe that AA may have her thinking that without them, no one is capable of supporting her and that her sobriety is a priority over our relationship. She is not the person now that I proposed to. If there's any idea what to do, I'm all ears. Thanks everyone.

2007-08-19 19:16:26 · 10 answers · asked by nvador1 1

How should I ask her thru an email or aol im?

2007-08-19 19:06:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 30 years old male. All my life I have easily gone from long term relationship to long term relationship. I have noticed a pattern inmy behaviour. After 3 years I just get bored of my partner. I start to get easily tempted to be unfaithful and unfortunately find myself cheating and then ending the relationship. I know that I should be more mature. Does anyone have a similar experience or some sound advice?

2007-08-19 18:55:16 · 14 answers · asked by goldenpig 1

my father just recently started playing his cheating games again, i have grown up with my father always cheating, he cheated on my real mother since they were teens until the day that she divorced him (while preg. with me), then he cheated on my stepmom for many years (married now 11 years, cheated for around 8) my sister always caught him but never told my stepmom, she has since moved out on her own and i am months aways too. but i recently started noticing that he is playing his games and i started to check his phone, his email, his everything, there is no question that he is cheating on my stepmom. i have so much proof my laptop is almost out of space. my problem is that i am closer to my stepmom then my real blood parents, and i want to tell her and i want to tell her soooooooooooo bad, and kick my dad in his cheating lying *** face. but everyone else i am close with tell me not to say anything and live my not so happy life. HELP ME SHOULD I REALLY STAY ZIPPED??????????????????????

2007-08-19 18:53:09 · 18 answers · asked by m@ n 1

i honestly don't know what to do
i can't decide to go with my Mom or stay with my Dad
and i don't want to hurt either of them.
i mean my dad can get on my nerves and he can be kinda ruff on me sometimes and he can be so insensitive of all other people around him. but i don't want him to be all alone.
and if i move away i'll miss my friends but i'm only moving like 2 miles away so i can see them anytime and i'll stay at the same school. but i can'tleave my mom i mean none of this was really her fault my Dad is so selffish i mean he could move out i mean why would he need a whole house to him self.
and a couple minuets ago he tried to guit trip me into staying.
i just don't know what to do.
i only see two options
either running away only problem is i don't have anyone that would take me in.
or 2ndly and i hope i don't have to do this
just kill myself

2007-08-19 18:49:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay my hubby is currently in Iraq,and they have been on a operation,so he hasnt been able to call me as much,but the other night when we were telling our goodbyes..he said he would call again if I wanted him to,i told him to call me whenever he could,then he asked"do you want me to call you?"


HELLO i do want him to call me.Why would he even ask??..well im not sure when he is going to call again,But i thought that was odd(weird).

2007-08-19 18:38:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He won't stand up to his ex wife, she calls and he listens to what ever she has to say, doesn't stand up for me when she bashes me. Always gives her extra money "for the kids"...she knows she can get more here so she blows thousands every month. He says it's because of the kids and he doesn't want to put them in a bad spot. In the meantine we go with out in our home when she is really on a spending spree...and I feel like I am taking the hit and have to work extra hard to make up the difference. I feel like he thinks she is a princess and I am the work horse. I feel like he should stand up to her. He told me today that I need to make friends with her to help with the problem of events where the children are concerned. He brought her into my life, he should fix it....she won't talk to me, even to sI have tried....she just acts out when these events are going on. I am at the end of my rope, I don't respect him, and I feel like he has been emotionally cheating on me because of thi

2007-08-19 18:27:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is very aggresive and always quarls wiht me doubts me does not shear me any thing. he shows bureaucracy with me he beats me regularly with any reason, but I never say any thing and also do not beat him an for the social reason I do not shear with any body.I am educated and beautiful. I can sing song I can recite poem.

2007-08-19 18:06:23 · 4 answers · asked by masudi 1

she would not let me see him more than 2 hours every other weekend ..and she thinks that she does me a favor in letting me to see him this much..

2007-08-19 17:56:30 · 10 answers · asked by babajaro 1

My partner and I are always fighting because my mother in law does not like me and he does not want to acknowledge that. He lives and dies for his mom and even though she has talked horrible things about me and she's always criticizing me , he things she's a saint and I'm the bad person. She is always telling people that my relationship with my partner is never going to last. My partner is also the jealous type, he did not want me to work because I was going to interact with men. I love him but he has a very bad temper and when he's mad he treats me like a dog. I have not been out with him for months, I'm 19 years old and my weekends are spend either on the job or watching T.V. His idea of going out is going to his parents house, where he spends most of the weekend with his mom. I feel rejected and even though I love him, I need to like someone cares about me. I have rejected guys who have asked me out but I'm tired of this. Can someone give me advice.

2007-08-19 17:29:39 · 34 answers · asked by yalina e 1

I will be married 20 years at the end of this month.My husband 12 months ago was secretly talking to another famale and sais thats all it was just talking.I have every day been battling with this and question it.im driving myself nuts over this.A part of me wants to stay but im also very unhappy with whats happened,do i through 20 years away.

2007-08-19 17:19:16 · 8 answers · asked by CRUZ 2

i UNDERSTAND THAT MOST DONT AGREE AND ITS OKAY BUT IN MY OPINION PORN IS CHEATING...WELL I MEAN IF I WATCH IT WITH HIM OR I BUY IT WITH HIM THAN WE ARE IN IT 2GETHER AND YES IT CAN ENHANCE OUR SEXUAL EXPERIENCE..BUT IN THIS CASE IM HURT AND SUPER PISSED! I WAS GUNNA WATCH A MOVIE AND I FOUND THIS PORN DVD I JZT WANTED TO ASK HIM ABOUT IT! HE SAID HE GOT IT FROM A FRIEND...HOW THE HELL DO U GET PORN FROM A FRIEND...AND I WAS MAD AND HURT...MIND U I MAY BE PREGNANT SO MY FEELINGS ARE ON THIS ROLLER COASTER! HE GOT MAD AT ME AND SLAMMED DOORS...I HATE PORN WITH A PASSION AND HE KNOWS THIS! WHEN I WAS YOUNG I WAS MOLESTED AND THIS ******* WAS ALWAYS WATCHING PORN AND TRYING TO PUSH IT ON ME AND TOUCHING AND UGH! I HATE IT...I HATE IT!!! AM I WRONG FOR THIS...SHOULD I NOT CARE???

2007-08-19 17:09:31 · 25 answers · asked by Mamita25Riqueña 1

My ex boyfriend and I were together for almost 4 years and ended 3 years ago because he didn't want to get married after all. We still loved each other but were in different places. We kept in touch and have moved on to others in this time. He met someone last year and are now just married. He seems to want to know though about my relationships everytime I get involved and of course I feel uncomfortable with this, so I don't say much. But he has no problem dishing every detail about his love life.. I usually ignor it as I really don't wanna know, expecially about the wedding. He recently contacted me in an email again asking me about why now I'm single and if I'm ok. Now, I don't wanna look too far into this or should I? Why does he care?

2007-08-19 17:01:09 · 39 answers · asked by PIXIE 2

My wife and I are seperated and going through the terils of divorce. I have cheated on her and the person I have cheated with can not decide what she wants. This weekend my wife and I spent some time together at my daughters cheerleading event, and it was nice, when we drove away I realized I miss her and have been thinking about her and what we once had, and part of me wants it back and to work it out, but I am uncertain she will change some of her traits that led me to stray. We have been sharing a few thoughts and still care for one and another, she has been dating but has notbody that strikes her intrest. Should I try to fix this or move on ?

2007-08-19 16:55:09 · 26 answers · asked by edy f 1

find a man who wants a women to stay home and he work . i was raisied to stay home take care of kids and the man . i thinking i ant got the right one yet. lol

2007-08-19 16:52:36 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2