okay my hubby is currently in Iraq,and they have been on a operation,so he hasnt been able to call me as much,but the other night when we were telling our goodbyes..he said he would call again if I wanted him to,i told him to call me whenever he could,then he asked"do you want me to call you?"
HELLO i do want him to call me.Why would he even ask??..well im not sure when he is going to call again,But i thought that was odd(weird).
2007-08-19 18:38:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ThanX everyone.Well he does have insecurities once in a while,but never asked if he could call:(. okay thanx everyone.
2007-08-19 18:57:15 · update #1
I was in the same situation as you before I deployed. My husband deployed 6 months before me, and he would call as often as he could which really wasn't a lot. He would always ask me if I wanted him to call me again. Well of course I did. I asked him one day why he asked all the time and he said it was his way of reassuring himself that I still cared about him and wanted to hear his voice as much as he wanted to hear mine. Don't think too much of it, he may be feeling a little insecure about being so far away from you. Just reassure him that you love him and miss, it may not put a stop to the questions but it will ease his mind.
2007-08-19 18:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men have lost their marriages because of wartime. He is probably feeling a little insecure and lost. As men, we need affection too. Don't think that we don't. He is just in need of a little reassurance of your love for him. You can't imagine what he is going through. It is very demoralizing there, and it can be hard to be lifted. You may have to carry him emotionally and that means going all out. Don't just say your goodbyes and don't leave it up to him to ask if you want him to call. Take it back to the days when you first meet. Tell him, " Baby, I'll be waiting here by the phone for your call. You know my days just don't go right unless I can hear your voice. I can't wait to hold your sexy self again. You hurry and come home to me".
Just remember to bridge the distance between you two and keep him looking forward. Every word matters and you want to keep him as hot and bothered as possible. A woman has the power to build a home or tear it down and nothing will drive us or make us feel like we can conquer the world better than the women that we love.
2007-08-20 01:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by gre9467 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is quite weird. Did you two have a fight recently?
Maybe, he's just wanting reassurance that you love and miss him...Let him know that you love hearing from him.
If it helps, you could write a letter, too.
I'm dealing with my boyfriend being in Iraq, too...The phone calls can be a bit strained, but letters are easy to get feelings and words out.
2007-08-20 01:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is feeling insecure, or feeling sorry for himself. Then he tells himself, "oh, she probably doesn't want to hear my problems".
Sounds like he needs more reassurance, maybe send letters more often for the times he can't call. Put a sexy picture in it.
I am very sympathetic to what you are going through, and I hope he stays safe and your relationship stays strong through the tough times.
2007-08-20 01:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by greengo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just likes hearing it. He loves the fact his wife wants him to call. You will be surprised with how many wifes or GF tell their husbands or BF not to call after a certain time. Dont read to much into it. Make sure you write him lots of letters they love to receive mail. Good luck.
2007-08-20 01:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is not going to be thinking straight while he's in Iraq. Give him a break and don't worry about it. You, better than anyone, should know this kind of behavior is setting yourself up for heartache, don't do it to yourself.
2007-08-20 01:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal !Don't panic!He just wants to make sure that your marriage and love is still there. He probably has a friend who got a "dear John letter"and wants to make sure that there is no surprise attack on his heart. Write him a long love letter and don't mention his question just let it go.
2007-08-20 01:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by noteworthy5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks you get too sad when he calls you?
2007-08-20 01:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess he just needs reassurance to know that he is loved and wanted
2007-08-20 02:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by buggerfifty6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's just a little insecure, too
and maybe he's worried and nervous.
take care.. hugs to you and your family... and thanks to your husband for protecting our country, even though i totally disagree with this war.
2007-08-20 02:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋