Marriage & Divorce - 16 August 2007

I have just gotten married to my boyfriend of 5 1/2 years. My boyfriend never treated me very well, i have strong suspicions he cheated on me for the first 3 years of our relationship and his family treat me really badly. I dont know why i got married, everything went wrong, im not happy and not attracted to my husband.

The big problem, there is a man at work i cant speak to who i am really drawn to. I have a big really good feeling about this guy and cant stop thinking about him.

Im not attracted to my husband anymore and im not sure what to do...I dont know whether this is teething probs, a phase or a sign of things to come.

Anyone out there had anything similar? I could use some advice re get out or stay?

2007-08-16 23:34:28 · 10 answers · asked by Feeling Guilty 1

Hi Iam 20 years old have a 6 month baby, my husband is 23, anyway I know my husband for 2 years now, we lived together for about 3 months then he moved in with me, the thing is that I wanted to met his mother after we knew each other for a while! but she was always making excuses, so I stop, then I got pregnant when I was 3 months she finally said to go over to her house when we got there I was nervous, we seat and eat everybody in the table were talking but they never said one word to me, not even how was my pregnancy going, I felt pretty offended I went home thinking that they didnt want me, I told my
husband how I felt he told me that hes mom changed since she got married to another man, his step- father and that all she does is listen to him, and never care about him anymore! since my daughter was born they havent give her a thing! and she's her first grand daughter, then his step fathers son lives there with his GF there so fake,my mother in law talkingabout me with the gf

2007-08-16 23:12:02 · 9 answers · asked by Ursula M 2

i need honest answers on this please, my wife found out i was seeing this married woman .5. years ago from the womans husband i was doing missionary work . at that present time my i was.19. this married woman was.47. and married with children and a husband my wife caught me posting question.s on here throught her mother. one day my wife called this woman.s husband and he told her. my wife everything that had went on . i was married when i went on my mission it was.5. years ago am i still libaled for well having a sexual affair with this married woman it was.5. years ago . and she was always comming on to me and yes i did hate her husband and i really could not stand her. his wife . that.s why i did have sex with this cheap whore she was older than me. isnt she the one more at fault than me it would seem so after allshe was the one making all the moves on me and it.s a very long story isnt there a time limit on this where i cant get into no trouble over this married woman she a whore?

2007-08-16 22:28:00 · 8 answers · asked by matthew v 3

She dumped me and she has our child. that is a lot-but hate is a horrible thing to say. I can't stand her family and friends. she is a horrible role model. The list goes on and on. I need to forget about it and accept some things. **I JUST HATE HER WITH ALL MY HEART!

2007-08-16 21:54:07 · 23 answers · asked by COLINDHANSON 1

She/he is so hot, they say they are in love with you and reveal the truth about their past life. They were a hardcore pornstar until last night, given up to startup a new life with you, they love you and they really mean it. As for you, you are a loser, no job, living on welfare, low education and CV of jobs u keep getting fired from for being such a berk. But this person is madly in love with you, they want to marry you next week and are almost in tears over how happy they are they found you. You then realise you watched your partner last night in an online film and know this person has been with over 100 people in a verity of sorded ways. But then, this person really cherishes you, is willing to be reborn as your spouse and you can look forward to millionaire life. It is the making of your life as well as theirs if you marry. Can you ignore the past vile and marry? Or would you pass it up knowing all ur mates have seen their porn films too?

2007-08-16 21:22:55 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

i would like to know how a married woman hurt her husband and children over a .2. month fling with a .19. year old when she.s.48. her husband is a good man now after.25. years of marrage there going to get divorced over it he.s hurt very badley over what he thought was his life to him she was a very loving mother to as well a good woman he.s hurting very bad over it as to what she had did with this .19. year old .

2007-08-16 21:06:26 · 13 answers · asked by singlemale_2711 2

I have to be honest and say I really had a miserable time. It seems like all I did was take stupid pictures and I didn't even know most the people there.

2007-08-16 19:49:47 · 13 answers · asked by Samantha 5

My sole mate just dumped me for some skinny ***** just cuz he's rich and our wedding is planned for next month! There is no other person on earth i could ever love. Why would the most important person in the world just bail on me after all we've been threw together? It is over for good but i cannot live without her there is no other person for me. Can i get a hit man thats not too scared from on here?

2007-08-16 19:47:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently looked on the site history on my mom's laptop. I found that she has visited dating websites for women who are married. My mom and dad are in a very good relationship, but he is gone a lot. Our family is so normal that nothing like this ever happens. What does this mean?
We are extremely religious so I doubt she would be thinking of actually having an affair...
Please dont say to talk to her about it, because it would hurt her if she knew I looked at her laptop and that I knew.

2007-08-16 19:46:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is in the Army and is deploying soon. I dont want him to leave and our kids not have anything to hang onto just in case. They are 5,3,and 1 and all daddies girls. PLEASE HELP ME!

2007-08-16 19:45:43 · 5 answers · asked by osborn_tr 1

I know most couple either they are dating or married like to advertise themself in public how they love each other and we have all seen them,. Men opening car doors for their women, but women don't do likewise. Men buying flower to suprise their loved ones but I wonder how many women do the same to their men. But do you believe that rumantic love would last longer than passionate love which most women assumes and neglects and I think beyond a reasonable doubt that they walk away from passionate love. Why do and what do you think is best for them in a relationship since you can't have both continuesly at the same time.

2007-08-16 19:42:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-16 19:36:03 · 8 answers · asked by wise girl 1

I know that this might be interesting debate to those who are married or wish to be married. Why not come and stay together? From your point of view, how is marriage so important even though its one of the passage of life? What do you think of marriage?

2007-08-16 19:34:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are getting back together after a brief separation. We are going to work on our marriage instead of divorcing like most americans do. So why isn't my Dad happy about this? He stopped talking to me and it is infuriating me. What is his problem? I would think he would be happy to see us work it out instead of being a statistic. What do you guys think?

2007-08-16 19:30:52 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer G 2

2007-08-16 19:13:18 · 8 answers · asked by Nikaaz 1

When you have noone around to support you,your problems have mounted,and have actually increased!

2007-08-16 19:08:59 · 66 answers · asked by Wellll... hello then! 1

I have been living in turmoil ever since I found out my husband has been emailing and sms-ing this girl he met online. When confronted, he swore that nothing physical happened. He then promised that he will not have anything to do with her anymore but it seems that she is still calling him, sometimes in the wee hours of the morning and they might even be chatting with each other when I am sound asleep. I believe they might even be meeting up behind my back though he did say he's meeting the boys and I am not allowed to go with him. I also found out that he has security-coded his handphone. I did thought of calling the girl up and ask if she knows about his marital status but am afraid that it will only make things worse especially if the girl says she's only friends with him. I am not ready to let go of this marriage because it's still new and we just had a baby recently. Please help.

2007-08-16 19:08:43 · 36 answers · asked by liquified_metal 1

Do you believe people can really truly change their lifestyle in an instant?When you make constant mistakes and hurt the ones you love,then realize happiness was right in front of you all along.How do you make it right?How do you go from lies and cheating and deception to realizing you are head over heals with this man and he is the only person in the world you want to spend the rest of your life with.No more parties,alcohol,sex.Just focus on changing into a good person,a trustworthy person and a person that would move mountains for the one you love.I don't know what to do,i know i have changed and i know what i am willing to do to fix this relationship,but i don't know how to regain his trust.He is my everything and the thought of life without him terrifies me.We have so much more than just the two of us involved,i feel like i have completely let everyone down.I know the first thing would be to not have done it,but it happened and i can't change that, now what? i love him so much!!!

2007-08-16 19:08:28 · 7 answers · asked by Blondie 2

if someone is still married to someone and goes to marry another,then that means the later marriage is invalid, right?should i then get an annulment or declaration of nullity to be able prove that our marriage is indeed null and void?how do i get out of this marriage that is really null?

2007-08-16 19:02:46 · 2 answers · asked by garnet prophecy 1

I just turned 18 and me and my b/f who is 23 almost 24 are engaged. My parents already disapprove of the age difference. I do not want to have to choose between him and my parents. How should I tell them?

2007-08-16 18:58:39 · 9 answers · asked by lockheartpurple 2

I came home from a long day of hard work and my 400plus size husband was watching a sex movie. He is a huge sack of pork and I can't stand him he looks over at me and instead of saying how was your day this big fat whale had the nerve to ask me what's for dinner He's been home all day and the big bi**h waits for me to cook I got so upset I slap the u no what out of him. He called his evil mother & told this witch what I did and she told him he should not take my abruse so I told him to go live with his mother and I called the police and told them he hit me now he's in jail and asked me to bail him out or to tell the police I made up the report but I say know way am I right for defending myself by calling the law I only weigh 125lbs and he's over 400lbs. I 'm going to let his huge *** suffer in jail I wouldn't dare bail him out he should call his mom or the naked women he was watching on tv. Don't you agree with me.

2007-08-16 18:55:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 10wk old baby that I stay home with while my husband works. I want to go back to work, but he doesn't want her in daycare. I have mentioned that we could switch roles, my job pays $10 more an hour than his and it would take alot of the financial strain off of us. He said he would feel like less of a man if he wasn't the one contributing financially.
I cook, clean, run errands while toting around an infant and trying to maintain a meager budget without much help. How do I get him to see how unnecissarily stressful this is on me?

He comes from a traditional family where his mom did everything for everyone while maintaining an impecable house and having a hot meal on the table every night. I am not like her and I personally can't do it and he just doesn't get why it is so difficult for me.
What do I do?

2007-08-16 18:41:47 · 16 answers · asked by somewhat_med 2

He hasn't talked to me since yesterday evening. He called while I was with my friends having drinks after work. He was totally cool with it and he's never gotten upset about that before. He pretended to be asleep when I got home and turned his head when I tried to kiss him. Then this morning, he took his time in the shower (he knows I need to be in there by 7am) and didn't get out until 7:25. Left me with only 20 minutes to get ready. He didn't say bye nor did I get a kiss. Not once did he call me today, which is unusual. Then he came home late from work and he also knows how that bothers me. And he won't talk to me and he's giving me dirty looks. If he's bugged about me going out, then why wouldn't he just say so? MEN!, I don't get it. Help me please! Tell me why you think he's upset. Thanks!

2007-08-16 18:25:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-16 18:22:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay so I snooped a little and well I found beer and condoms in his room...what do I do? What should I think? Help please. By the way he is 17 turning 18 this month.

2007-08-16 17:44:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married to a guy for 2 years and we were together for 6. We have a two year old together. We seperated the next day he told me he wanted a divorce, 2 weeks later I find out I am preg and the next day I go to the house that we shared and caught him with a guy. (kissing) He then admitted that he is gay. He lied to me that whole time. He now has a steady boyfriend that is going to move in with him soon. We are still in the process of a divorce. My question is Do I let him in the delivery room? I am due in 2 and a half months.

2007-08-16 17:17:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, i wish i had the words to adequately describe this situation w/o seeming like a complete jerk. Id like to start by saying im a 24 year old WOMEN and not some immature little girl.

When i was 19 i dated a guy.. we went through alot.. and he was kinda.. the guy i never got over. Ive always thought about him. We talk occasionally... he still crosses my mind.. but.. its not like i think well end up together now.

Well, a year ago i meet my current boyfriend and man.. i could not be happier. Everyday i wake up wondering if this is a dream b/c im so incredibly happy and cant wait to spend our life together.

But... all that aside... i do still think of this ex. For example.. we talked online tonight.. and i told him we should meet up for lunch sometime. I would NEVER cheat on my current with him.. but its like.. i cant fully let him go.

Has anyone experienced this? I dont know how to ever get COMPLETELY over him... will he always have a place in my heart? advice?

2007-08-16 16:51:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I are at odds with her giving a preacher $400. to over $500. a month...she calls it tithing. She go's to church once a month. I feel its wrong for her to be doing this. What do you think?

2007-08-16 16:39:01 · 12 answers · asked by Steve S 1

I am in a relationship of 5 years, 35 years old, living together and the biological clock is ticking. I recently went on a trip for work and on the way home I caught up with a friend of 5 years. We were chatting how our relationships were lacking passion and after a few drinks, our desires played out on each other. There is no love or connection there, just I think we were both so wanting some affection and passion that we are not getting enough of in our own relationships. My partner then read my emails and found out. I have gone from a workable relationship where 90% of it is great, to one where I am on the verge of moving out. I cannot decipher what is going on in my head or my heart and have no idea what to do, and he is just as confused, saying he wants me to move out and that he doesn't love me the same anymore since I cheated, and then wants me to stay. I do love him, but is it because we have been together for 5 years and have so many memories and connections? Help!

2007-08-16 16:31:48 · 25 answers · asked by Fi Massage 1

I've been married to a woman I truly do love and cherish for about a year now. On a recent business outing I did something, extracuricular that I am regretting now. I had sex with a man. I'm not gay, I was simply curious and exploring my boundaries but I can't even justify it to myself that way. I feel guilty as ever now, but I don't know if I should tell her. I do not want her to think of me as gay, because that was a definite eye opener to myself that I am not. I will never do it again (did not enjoy it), nor would I ever do it with another woman. Yet I still feel incredibly guilty. I'm afraid that telling her will ruin our relationship, but holding it in will weigh on my conscience for the rest of my life. I am truly regretful, but I'm in a predicament now. I need help and suggestions. What would you do, or how would you react? Is it cheating or just experimenting? And the big question; do I tell her? Any ideas welcome. Thank you!

2007-08-16 16:25:54 · 15 answers · asked by ace r 1