I just turned 18 and me and my b/f who is 23 almost 24 are engaged. My parents already disapprove of the age difference. I do not want to have to choose between him and my parents. How should I tell them?
2007-08-16 18:58:39 · 9 answers · asked by lockheartpurple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ur luv sounds genuine, congrats. When things go wrong, u get better or bitter n u have chosen to get better by positive thinking of getting ur parent's consent as well.You can arrange a meeting of both the parties n ask ur fiancee to spell out his career plans in detail (he is quite young, so if he is planning to join an MBA/ some professional comp. course), tell them u shall wait if he has to go abroad / reside in hostel in another city. Tell that meanwhile u shall also be enrolling n shall not leave studies until he lands a proper job on his own steam.By grace of GOD, they will definitely come around.
2007-08-16 19:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then you will have to go and speak to your parents and tell them about him.
Age really does not matter much.... and it is not that big an age difference. I'm sure if you speak to them about all the possibilities then they will also agree.
Our parents only want whats best for us. they just want to see us happy and if you can convince them that you will be happy with him then I don't see any reason why they will refuse.
But you should be convinced first. You have to be sure that you love him and are ready to spend the entire life with him... Maybe you should just give some more time to your relationship before you get married to each other. You are really young to get married now. Just wait for some more time and try knowing each other more.
All the best. May all your dreams come true dear. I'll surely remember you in my prayers.
2007-08-17 02:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why your parents are upset and yes its because of your age. Just remember your parents have alot of experience up their sleeve as they have been there and done that. They can also pick up on things alot better than what you can, so maybe they can see that one of your aren't truly in love with the other, as you can tell by the way you look at each other. Why not get engaged and stay that way for awhile and don't make any rash decisions re marriage and just see how things go. Good luck
2007-08-17 02:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, fist of all, listen to your parents. they know more than you, just by value of being alive longer. wait a while. and don't try to convince them of anything. all that will do is prove you are practically brainwashed by your own emotions, and make them dislike him more. he has to prove himself to them, and not by some big huge thing, but by being absolutly trustworthy, absolutly honorable, and absolutly honest. you want them to respect him? hold off on ALL physical contact. have him show them how respectable he can be, and how he can patiently wait because he truly loves you.
and ifyou want their respect at all, don't get engaged at this age. your boyfriend is of the age where a lot of people his age get married. but people your age normally shouldn't. it makes life hard on you, you can't go to college, you are still a teen and going through the roughest year of your marriage, the first. hold off. don't get engaged just because your legal. as a matter of fact, call off the engagement, and tell him to put on the brakes and wait for you, and to prove himself to your parents. because until he does that, they won't approve of him, and unless you want a wedding without them, I suggest he get their approval before you announce that you are barely out of highschool and have suddenly decided that since you are of legal age you are going to marry your boyfriend who is 6 years older than you (and if the way I said it sounds bad to you, imagine, that is what everyone else sees) and if he doesn't have the patience for this, then he didn't love you in the first place.
2007-08-17 02:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take them out for dinner....but sweetie I'm sorry to tell you this but 18 is just too young...wait a little to get married, you can remain engaged, just don't get married yet
2007-08-17 02:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The truth sets them free..so just do it!!!! Have them to sit down as you speak the truth
2007-08-17 02:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Agree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to tell them
you cant just hide it you need
to come out and tell them what
is going and talk to them about
how you feel about this person and
maybe they will understand one day
2007-08-17 10:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words.
2007-08-17 02:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
how ever you do..make sure your bf is there with you when you do.
2007-08-17 02:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋