I was married to a guy for 2 years and we were together for 6. We have a two year old together. We seperated the next day he told me he wanted a divorce, 2 weeks later I find out I am preg and the next day I go to the house that we shared and caught him with a guy. (kissing) He then admitted that he is gay. He lied to me that whole time. He now has a steady boyfriend that is going to move in with him soon. We are still in the process of a divorce. My question is Do I let him in the delivery room? I am due in 2 and a half months.
2007-08-16 17:17:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i hope you got an aids test and i dont say that because he is gay i am not stereotyping just the fact he was cheating and period.anyway i would never forgive him but maybe your better than me in this situation hun follow your heart i cant ell you what to do but i would not let him he would be dead to me and im sorry my child would not be with the two lovers
2007-08-16 17:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how he pulled that off being with you for 6 years it doesn't seem possible without you picking up on something but I know how men can be deceiving. I wouldn't let him near me or the baby for one thing he is a liar a cheat and not a nice person to have around your baby. Look what he took from you,all within two weeks time you separated,he ask for a divorce,fount out you were preg went to tell him seen him kissing a guy then he admits he is guy and is having a man move into the same house the two of you shared.He done all that to you and you are wondering if you should let him in the delivery room. That is about the only thing you can take from him that would hurt him,give him back just a little of what he took from you. I'm sorry but that lying piece of a s s h o l e would be dead to me.
2007-08-17 01:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely you let him in the delivery room. You've already let him into your heart, and giving birth you could certainly use the support. I would be honest with him and let him know that his boyfriend is or is not welcome, depending on how you feel. I really don't know whether people are born gay or they turn gay. Depending on what you believe, he may not have lied to you the whole time. Either way, he's still the father of the kids and they deserve to have him regardless of his sexual orientation.
2007-08-17 20:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this has happened to you. Make sure you get an HIV test. Not to be gross, but you don't know what he has been up too? The delivery room is totally up to you. If it were me, he wouldn't be in the room and I surely would not let my children be around him. He has betrayed you. Best Wishes with the bundle of joy.
2007-08-17 00:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite the unfortunate circumstances, he is still the father of your baby and therefore is going to be in your life to one extent or another for years. You need to find a way to get along with him.
Whether or not that includes him in the delivery room is up to the two of you. But excluding him from your life isn't an option.
2007-08-17 00:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My heart goes out to you and your unborn child.You and your children and the innocent victims in this story.Why do you want him anywhere near you when you deliver?
Do you have any other relatives who can give you support that time?
If you want to give in because he insisted,I wouldn't give a damn about what HE wants, apparently he didn't care much about you to tell you the truth before so you can decide if you want to get pregnant with his child again.
If you want to let him there because he is the father of the baby, I still think would not be right as he was just the sperm donor and nothing else.
BTW maybe you want to be tested for HIV and other STDs?
oh, and something else: Did you move out when he asked you for divorce?How convenient to get rid of you and your other child!!Please check with a lawyer about the divorce and your rights, this guy is a creep
2007-08-17 00:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by The_last_Amazona 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The delivery room is your call not his. Totally up to you. Other than that, get a good lawyer and take everything he's got. And then some.... I cought my wife with another woman, I know what you're going through. Make him pay. What is wrong with people today.
2007-08-17 00:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by bigb_nc 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh.
He must hate himself for lying to you, for your anger towards him, for his life that has left him so scared and angry that he has lost his family and he has to deal with those lies forever.
You, you're without that friend, that person you trust more then anything, the life you hoped would happen. I'd let him in the delivery room, but then I'm not where you are standing and not sure how'd I deal.
2007-08-17 00:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by lithuim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry. You should be able to have him arrested and executed. He should never have played it straight and procreated.
Personally I could no way allow him into the delivery room (heck he might want to bring his boyfriend).
I hope you have a good family and friends support system. You do not deserve this.
2007-08-17 00:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let him near my baby... let alone the delivery room. I'd move to a different country just so that he doesn't screw up the child's head. I think it is selfish for gay people to lead one on, have a baby & expect that the mom & child should understand & go along with his wants. It's sickening to me!
2007-08-17 00:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋