today I slapped my big fat husband?

Question

I came home from a long day of hard work and my 400plus size husband was watching a sex movie. He is a huge sack of pork and I can't stand him he looks over at me and instead of saying how was your day this big fat whale had the nerve to ask me what's for dinner He's been home all day and the big bi**h waits for me to cook I got so upset I slap the u no what out of him. He called his evil mother & told this witch what I did and she told him he should not take my abruse so I told him to go live with his mother and I called the police and told them he hit me now he's in jail and asked me to bail him out or to tell the police I made up the report but I say know way am I right for defending myself by calling the law I only weigh 125lbs and he's over 400lbs. I 'm going to let his huge *** suffer in jail I wouldn't dare bail him out he should call his mom or the naked women he was watching on tv. Don't you agree with me.

Answer 1

i was checking up on you because i wanted to know if you had talked to your hubby about leaving him and this is what i find!!! what did he say? did he not care? is he going to get help? I also get upset when my hubby askes me "whats for dinner! " i get home at 5:30 and he at 6:00 so i have like 20 min to cook, and when he says" dinners not done yet?" aaaa i want to get the food in the pan and throw it in his face!!! But i see your point of veiw, you actually went did something productive and he's at home jerking off... I hate it when someone else gets involved in MY problems and calling his mom might of pushed you overboard.... You gotta admit that lying to the cops wasnt correct... you should do something to get him out of that situation. I have fought so much to keep my marriage together, because I belive that marriage is something special. I might be wrong but i think you still love your husband just because you have asked questions here, a sign that you want your relationship to change for the good. go to marriage counseling, its not expensive and some ins companies will cover some of it. If you have questions email me .... [e-mail]....

Answer 2

I like hard and smart brave women like you. The only thing is that you went to far and i know as time goes by you may rethink you actions is it was right or wrong, You don't pay evil to evil but pay with goodness where there is evil. You know that your husband or ex-husband to be is innocent because ot what you told the cops. He will conficted since the law here believes every single word you said even if you did not mean it, you lied or just wanted to punish him. He will be in your memory always either when you at work, sleep and anything you do, you won't have peace because your action were not justifed to such an extend. The best thing is to neutralise the case and change your stories or statements to free him and move on with your life. If you tell the cops you lied you will be prosecuted. so the best thing is to visit him, tell him you are sorry and tell him your next step. Remember having constant thought of someone all the time would affect you success.

Answer 3

You both deserve each other! For some reason he sits at home all day eating and watching porn getting up to 400 lbs.

You on the other hand are a liar, (false report to the police), abuser, and been cheating on him. Remember one of your other questions? You've been seeing another guy/

I hope some how he gets out and is able to prove all this to a divorce Judge and makes you pay alimony

Answer 4

Your husband doesn't seem to be acting like a good husband.

But I think we should talk about you because you don't seem to know that as his spouse you shouldn't treat him like this, even if he is a horrible husband.

Your language seems to be emotionally and verbally abusive. Your words show that you don't have much love or respect for him, or care for him or his welfare very much. A spouse should never hit their husband or wife. Physical or emotional abuse is never justified or right. You lied and had him put in jail. Don't wound him, love your spouse though sometimes it can be really hard. Tell him you're exhausted and share how his actions hurt you.

I don't think you're a evil person but I think you are battling with selfishness and lack of love.

I'm by no means excusing his actions or his being a bad husband, but you can't treat him that way.

Answer 5

Um, no. I think at the most, "you could have made some dinner yourself since you've been home all day" would have probably been more than sufficient. You sound like a hateful person. I would probably eat myself into oblivion too if I was married to you.

I'm sure there is plenty wrong with him but he didn't come here asking for advice, did he?

Answer 6

Damn! Sounds like you two need to split up already ! Let him move back home with mama and have her cook his meals for him....lol. ESPECIALLY if this man isn't working and sits around all day eating more while watching porn. He needs to get his butt out working and supporting you guys instead of just expecting you to do it all. If you don't put your foot down...then part of the blame goes back on you for just putting up with it too though. Give him the boot if he's not going to make some serious changes and find some happiness. Life is too short to have to live that way ! Good luck and stay strong !

Answer 7

It sounds like you want out of this marriage. Take the first step and get a lawyer honey. If he doesn't appreciate you now the question is will he ever. You shouldn't ever, never lay your hands on someone else though. I can see that you are frustrated but try to withstand any type of violence okay.

Answer 8

Your husband sounds like a lazy slob but you have no right to slap him. If the table were turned and he slapped you, would that be ok? Then to top it off you file false charges? I hope you get popped because you're screwing him over.
He may be a fat, lazy, slob but that doesn't give you the right to treat him that way. Just leave him and do both of you a favor.

Answer 9

It sounds as if your husband is overweight and lazy. i will tell you how my dear wife took control of my problem when i was somewhat overweight. i used to eat things such as cakes and donuts. She bought a box of donuts and had several of her much thinner boyfriends come over. She had sex with them and asked them to relieve themselves and finish inside the donuts leaving their cream inside, a few even urinated as well inside them. She then had me sit and eat an entire half dozen of the disgusting things while she watched me swallow each bite. i have not been able to eat a donut since and the thought of them makes me want to puke. I am now also required to work out at least three times a week in the morning so it does not interfere with work or my other house duties or take time from my dear wife.

Answer 10

I don't think physical or mental abuse is right under any circumstances, and do you know YOU can end up in prison for lying about him hurting you, sorry but you deserve everything you get for lying about that, it should be YOU wallowing in prison right now. So he may be fat and lazy, but you smacking him makes you as bad as any of the guys out here that beat their wives.