Why do want to marry or be married?

Question

I know that this might be interesting debate to those who are married or wish to be married. Why not come and stay together? From your point of view, how is marriage so important even though its one of the passage of life? What do you think of marriage?

Answer 1

I'm not a desperate person, but I'd want to be married.

I LOVE BEING MARRIED!

I don't think I rushed into it either. We dated for 6+ months and then married.

We've been married 12+ years!

If you doubt your future marriage then don't do it!

Answer 2

I want a new family & kids. If I have a baby out of wedlock, then people will look down on me more than they already do. If I were to be a single mother, having trouble with my kids, I'd hate to be told, "You should've kept your legs closed!" EVen if I was engaged to the guy & got pregnant. People look down on women who have babies out of wedlock. There were times when people thought I was a whore when I was in a 6-month relationship with 1 guy & 1 guy only, & I thought I was pregnant for him. Also, I want my kids to have their father in their lives, & I feel like I would need a supporting husband if I had kids. I wanna be married first. I'm practicing abstinence right now. It's the safest. I wanna wait until marriage to have sex again.

BTW, I'll be 24 next week.

Answer 3

Im all for common law, marriage is just a way for the govt to tax you, the state to chrage you, and man what an economy boost, and then there's the whole divorce thing, court costs, etc. Marriage has turned into a money pit and a way for religious weirdos to bang. I dont need a piece of paper on the wall to know I love my partner or to know we are together.

Answer 4

I want to share my life with my fiance, I want to enjoy the good times and work through the bad times with him, I want to support him and have him support me, I want to wake up every day with him and go to sleep every night with him beside me, I want us to work together for a good future and have fun with him, marriage to me is very important, we are 100% committed to each other and to making each other happy.

Answer 5

Its just usual to do so. We are following our parents and get marry. People are meeting each other everywhere, websites like 2-brides.com are popular and girls from the early ages are crazy to get marry..Its just usual to do so..

Answer 6

Marriage is being committed to someone for life. Non committed relationships are worthless.

Answer 7

All i'll say if i knew then what i know now,i wouldn't have gotten marriead.

Answer 8

cause i want to be able to wakeup every morning to that person I LOVE!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Well, I don't know what is your background,, your culture,, your religion,, your economic status,,etc... but you are like millions more and more each year,, that think that marriage is perhaps too old fashion and that well, who cares about getting married and since marriage, the real reason for marriage is fading fast. After all, what is the use,, one marrys,, only to get divorced if it does not work out,, right? You may like the girl but you really don't love her. She may even feel the way you feel about her. She may be wondering,,,"Why does he want to know what I am thinking or what I want?" I know you have heard of this phrase before: "actions speak louder than words." if you don't hear her say what you want to hear,, then "listen to what she does." Personally,, I think you like her because she has some qualities that you appreciate. In fact she is perhaps very nice to you, does things that she likes to do because she also appreciates you. While you have gone on-line and asked what to do, she perhaps is wondering if you love her,, really love her as in there is no other woman you love more than you love her. However, she is tolerating and holding back on letting you know how she really feels and one other thing to consider is her culture, family and most important,, her personal values; her personality,, the way she conducts herself with other people. I have traveled all over the world, have experienced cultures,, communities that somehow National Geographic Magazine is not aware of. Yes, it would help me answer your question even better if you told me where you live,, where you are from and how long you have known her, how your relatioship starte, etc... Then there is the religion part of both of you, if she claims a certain faith. I am presently in the Middle East and and have been here for two and a half years already. As you know, the vast majority of people in this part of the world are Muslim and I can tell you that millions are married but don't really love each other because who they marry is very much determined (arranged) by their elders. Then there is the religion part. You see, Muslims while they believe that this life is temporary,, very short and marriage is more of a duty, and in a sense a selfless duty that love is not necessary in order for a marriage to work. They marry and then the love grows. First however is the love for God then the love for each other. They profess that if you love God more than anyone or anything else in the world that everything else is secondary. By the way,, like I said, I have lived here and understand very well the ways of the people and one more thing, we should not confuse the race of people with being the same as their religion. In the Middle East we have mostly Arabs with Arab culture. We have Persians with their culture. We have Arabs and yes they are Jews again with their own ways. Islam allows a man to marry up to four times and therefore have four wives at the same time. However, in case you are not aware, a very small percentage of Islamic follower men, marry more than once and have more than one wife. For example, I know hundreds of Arab men; Muslims, only two have more than one wife. Most of them respect, honor, cherish and yes even love their wives and their wives love them. Of course their wives also love them and this is based on what I see and know and understand of what love is. They have children and like most parents on this planet,, they love their children, their children love them. I was born in a Roman Catholic society and raced in a western community. I believe that two people should learn,, and I say again,, should learn to love each other before marrying to each other. I was married, we had children, our children grew up and went on their way to build their lives. My wife and I divorced. I held on to the marriage until our two children were on their own with their careers before I asked for a divorce. For as long as we were married, we thought we loved each other but as I look back, we did not truly loved each other, not like we are suppose to love each other. No we were not unfaithful, we respected each other, cared and showed that we were important to each other but to say that we were soul mates,, that we were not. I am more outgoing, more giving and even she will tell anyone that I am more giving. When I divorced, I let her have the entire estate to make sure she would be fine financially. Even though she had has her very lucrative career and I had mine. I left the American dream, the beautiful home, money, nice cars, the annual one month vacations, and yest the children, to venture and do something more meaningful with my life into one of the most dangerous countries in the world,, you can guess where that is. Along the way, ,comes into my life a woman, who to this day I believe was sent from heaven. We are friends, we have known each other for over two and a half years. We have not seen each other for over a year and no we never even kissed and of course never had physical relations. But we have stay in contact almost every day since we have known each other. We talk on the phone, we email, we txt. I am now in a situation that I can not leave where I am at. I am not in jail just restricted to leaving the country where I am at and she is not allowed to come to where I am at. we are 500 miles apart and sometimes 12,000 miles apart, depending on where she is since she is an airline hostess. We don't tell each other that we love each other but we do things that we show each other that we love each other and that one day, we will see and be with each other. Speaking for myself, there is no other lady in the world that I would trade for her,, in fact if all the woman in the world could be mine, I would still pick her. She is not the prettiest woman in the world, although she is very attractive and in fact has done modeling when she was younger, she to me is the most beautiful lady in the world. Pretty is one thing,, beauty is something else. Pretty is on the outside and beautiful to me means uniquely special bursting from within. If I died today, I can say that I know real love because of her. Real love is unconditional, real love hurts, real love is timeless and knows no distance. Real love is like being in heaven and there is destruction all around. With real love,,, there is no fear of death. Our relationship did not start at love at first sight but grew from a solid friendship of mutual trust, mutual care, mutual honesty and sincerity. If you and your girlg don't have a solid friendship first before anything else, then honestly, if you two end up marrying one day,, you two could end up like my ex and I; divorced or miserable existing with each other. If you really love your girl, you will have patience with her and when you get to the point when you can say for example, I can say and have told my favorite girl,,"I love everything about you, how your are what you do and how you look, there is nothing about you that I would ever want to change, not even one pretty hair on your pretty head and if you change it will not be because of me but because of you as you age."
After the action slows down or even comes to a stop,, you will at least need to be the best of friends.. think about your friendship first before anything else that attracts you to each other. Looks and other things will fade with time. But your friendship,, will have to last until either one of you leave this life. Good luck to you both. It is about you two ,,,not just about you. God bless you and guide you to finding the genuineness of you from within.