My husband and I are getting back together after a brief separation. We are going to work on our marriage instead of divorcing like most americans do. So why isn't my Dad happy about this? He stopped talking to me and it is infuriating me. What is his problem? I would think he would be happy to see us work it out instead of being a statistic. What do you guys think?
2007-08-16 19:30:52 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby didn't cheat or abuse me. Just wanted a divorce. Now we are working on it and called off the divorce.
2007-08-16 19:44:40 · update #1
Dad hasn't liked any of my men. Dated someone 6 years ago and my Dad still compares everyone to him.
2007-08-16 19:47:44 · update #2
I think he has your best interest in mind. Sometimes when we reveal too much about our relationships to our parents, it bites us in the butt. Because he only wants what's best for you, and he's going to be suspicious about whether your husband's intentions are real or not. That's just him taking care of his Baby Girl, that's all. It might take time for him to trust your husband again, but it may get there.
2007-08-16 19:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like many questions, there is often a lot of unexplained background to the story.
Have you been complaining over and over to your father about your husband?
Does he see your husband treating you badly?
Does he see you going through grief because of your husband?
Your dad doesn't love your husband the way your do, and sees things only objectively and without emotion except for his love for you.
Maybe your father thinks he's had enough of hearing about all the dramas (if that's the case) and thinks you're silly for walking down the same path and trying again.
Statistics don't mean a thing where happiness is concerned.
I wish you all the very best.
2007-08-17 02:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you were separated in the first place. For example, if he has a drug problem/is abusive--physically, emotionally, or verbally/refuses to financially support his family/other possible legitimate reasons...then Dad's right. In some situations, being a statistic is not the worse alternative. Of course, I don’t know the situation because you didn’t state why you separated/what Dad doesn’t like about him, and that’s a pretty important piece of the puzzle
2007-08-17 02:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you involved your father in anyway during the separation he has probably gotten to emotionally involved. If that is the case don't fault him for feeling the way he does. He is probably just looking out for his baby girl and don't want to see you hurt. On the other hand your husband comes first and i think it's great that you are going to work on your marriage! I'm sure in time your father will be fine.
2007-08-17 02:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Maddison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you will have to just prove to him that your marriage can get better. If your husband was cheating on you, then I can understand why your dad would be upset. You are his precious daughter and he wants the best for you. Obviously, he doesn't think your husband is worth giving another chance to. I don't know though, you will have to ask your dad what his problem is with it all. He is the only one who truely knows the answers.
2007-08-17 02:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are Daddy's girl and shall forever be Daddy's girl. He has obviously seen you going through the motions of grief and despair and it has hurt him to the core knowing he couldn't do anything to ease the pain for you.
His only way of expressing his anger is by not talking about it and ignoring what's in front of him. You need to talk to Dad and let him know you are still his girl, but you are trying to heal the hurt and work things out with your husband.
He will come round - guaranteed.
2007-08-17 02:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys know guys. Your father probably sees (or thinks he sees) something that you don't. I don't know the reason for the original separation, but your father probably doesn't trust your husband anymore.
On the same lines....you ARE his daughter.....he doesn't want to see anything bad happen in your life. Once you're reasonably happy again, he'll come around.
2007-08-17 02:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by imrt70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your Father has make his opinion on your Husband and do not believe that he can change for the better. It's to you & your Husband to prove him wrong! Work thing out together and Father will come back to you. Do not brusque him , He is your Father and H\in his mind He know better.......One thing is sure is that papa love you
2007-08-17 02:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by J/P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR life. I know he is your dad and it probably hurts that he isn't being supportive in your decision, but you're a big girl and you know what's right for you. Personally, I applaud you for sticking to it and doing what most don't do these days. You did take vows that said forever, no matter what basically. Till death do us part and all, right? Good for you for remembering that! Hang in there. Dad will come around.
2007-08-17 04:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with your dad and have a good talk. Ask him what's bothering him. He is probably upset because he thinks you are setting yourself up to be hurt. I hope you and your husband can work things out. Good luck honey.
2007-08-17 02:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by karen d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋